5 "Nā hōʻailona hōʻailona" i nā hōʻailona ʻoiaʻiʻo

Nui nā kamaʻilio e pili ana i nā "huikau huikau" mai nā kāne pae ʻoiai lākou e pili aloha ana. Ua kamaʻilio wau e pili ana i kēia me nā hoaaloha a ua kamaʻilio wau e pili ana i kēia me nā mea kūʻai aku. Pau ka nui o nā kāne hoʻokahi iā lākou iho me ka hoʻāʻo ʻana e hoʻomaopopo a decode i nā ʻōlelo kūʻē a me nā hana (a i ʻole hana ʻole) o kahi hoa hele mua. Ua hewa wau i kēia noʻu iho i ka wā i hala aku nei - a he hana nui loa ia a he neoneo ka manawa a me ka ikaika.

Akā eia ka mea āu e pono ai mau hoʻomanaʻo: ʻAʻole pono ia no laila paʻakikī. ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e koho mau a hopohopo paha e pili ana i ka manaʻo o ka mea ʻē aʻe a i ʻole pehea kā lākou e manaʻo nei. ʻAe, ʻo ka ʻāpana o ka launa pū ʻana a me ka ʻimi ʻana i kahi pili hou e pono ai ka ʻoluʻolu me ka maopopo ʻole a me ka maopopo ʻole, akā i kekahi manawa, pono ʻoe e nīnau iā ʻoe iho, "Ke hoʻokau nei paha kēia kanaka a hana paha i nā mea hapa-a * *?" A inā ʻaʻohe o ka hoʻāʻo a ʻike ʻole paha i nā inconsistencies, hiki wale nō, ʻaʻole hoʻokomo maoli ʻia kēia kanaka a i ʻole ma ka liʻiliʻi ʻaʻole mākaukau e hoʻopukapuka i kahi pilina me ʻoe.

Paakiki paha ia, akā pono ʻoe i kahi pakanā e kūpaʻa a e hāhai. Pono ʻoe i kekahi e hana i ka manawa nou (no ka mea aia mau manawa). Kūpono ʻoe i kekahi e hoʻāʻo ana. Kūpono ʻoe i kekahi e akāka ʻole i ko lākou mau manaʻo no ʻoe. Pono ʻoe i kekahi e makemake e launa me ʻoe a i ʻole e alualu i kahi pilina me ʻoe.

Eia nā "hōʻailona huikau" ʻokoʻa e hōʻailona iā ʻoe e hele.

1. Minimal (akā kekahi) hoʻoikaika. Pili lākou me ʻoe akā ʻaʻole mau. Hiki lākou i kekahi manawa, akā ʻaʻole makemake lākou i ka hoʻolilo manawa ʻana me ʻoe (a i ʻole ma ka liʻiliʻi ʻaʻole pinepine). ʻAʻole lākou e nīnau e pili ana iā ʻoe - pehea ʻoe e hana nei, pehea kou lā, he aha kou makemake. A inā lākou e nīnau e pili ana iā ʻoe, ʻaʻole lākou e nānā. ʻIke ʻoe e hana ana ʻoe i ka hapa nui o nā hana.
2. Ka nele o ka ukali: ʻ saylelo lākou e kāhea hou lākou a kikoʻī iā “ma hope” a laila ʻaʻole. A i ʻole inā e kiʻi aku lākou ma hope, he mau lā / hebedoma / mau mahina ma hope. Hana pinepine lākou i nā hoʻolālā akā laila hoʻopau a flake paha. ʻLelo lākou makemake lākou a i ʻole "makemake" iā ʻoe (a manaʻo paha pēlā) akā mai hana i ka manawa e ʻike ai iā ʻoe a i ʻole e holomua i ka pilina.
3. Wela a anuanu: ʻO kekahi mau lā ʻike lākou "maoli i loko" a me nā lā ʻē aʻe ʻaʻole nui. He mau lā leʻaleʻa kou a me nā kamaʻilio ʻana a laila aia kekahi mau manawa o ka launa iki ʻana a me nā hoʻololi pōkole wale nō. Manaʻo paha ʻoe e like me "kemika maikaʻi maoli" i kekahi mau lā a laila liʻiliʻi i kekahi.
4. Hoʻomaopopo ʻole i ka mea a lākou e "ʻimi nei": ʻ saylelo paha lākou hoihoi lākou a ʻike ʻia (a hana paha) hoihoi akā kānalua ʻoe e kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka wā e hiki mai ana a i ʻole hoʻokō i kekahi mea (hoʻolālā, exclusivity). Hāʻawi lākou i nā kumu no ke kumu hiki ʻole iā lākou ke hana a i nā mea e pono ai e hana i ko lākou ola i mea e hiki ai iā lākou ke hana a mākaukau paha.
5. E kamaʻilio i ke kamaʻilio: He poʻe kamaʻilio nui lākou. Hiki iā lākou ke ninini iā ​​ʻoe me nā huaʻōlelo o ka hōʻoia a me ka hōʻoia. Kamaʻilio pinepine lākou me ʻoe, akā ʻike iki ʻoe iā lākou. Kamaʻilio lākou e pili ana i ka mea "hiki" ma waena o ʻolua a me ka nui o ko lākou manaʻo a makemake paha e aloha iā ʻoe, akā kūlike ʻole ia me kā lākou hana. Eia hou, ʻaʻohe ukali.

No laila, kēia mau hōʻailona huikau, he i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo "nā hōʻailona" - nā lepa huinahina a ʻulaʻula paha. A ʻoiai ʻaʻole paha e pili ana iā ʻoe (manaʻo wau aia kahi 99.9 pakeneka kūpono e pili ʻole iā ʻoe), ʻo kēia mau ʻano a me nā mea kūpono ʻole e haʻi iaʻu ʻaʻole kahi kanaka i kahi i ko lākou ola kahi e hiki ai iā lākou ke noho he hoa maikaʻi a mākaukau paha e pili i kahi pilina koʻikoʻi a i ʻole paʻa.

Inā ʻoe he "ʻoluʻolu" me kekahi mea ma ka ʻaoʻao maʻamau a liʻiliʻi hoʻi i ka wānana ( ʻĀ, ke ʻike nei paha ʻoe i kahi kānalua a ʻaʻole mākaukau e luʻu i kekahi mea) , a ʻoluʻolu e hele me ka ʻole o ka manaʻolana, a laila hiki i kahi mea e like me kēia ke hana iā ʻoe. Akā inā kēia mau hōʻailona e hoʻonāukiuki iā ʻoe a ke hoʻopaʻa mau nei ʻoe i kou lolo a hoʻāʻo nei e heluhelu ma waena o nā laina - hele wāwae. ʻAʻole ia he kumu. ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e alualu a hoʻohuli paha i kekahi e hoʻolālā manawa iā ʻoe.

No laila, e hoʻokuʻu iā ia e ʻike a mākaukau ke kanaka kūpono a makemake e hoʻolōʻihi i ka manawa me ʻoe a hui pū me ʻoe i ka hapalua.

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