ʻO nā mea āpau e pili ana i ka poʻe Narcissistic

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• Nā Heluhelu Pono Nā Narcissism
• Hoʻolālā Manipulation: nā mea a mākou e hana ai no kahi Narcissist

I kaʻu kūlana ma mua o ka narcissism, ua hoʻolauna wau iā Josh Miller, Ph.D. — Polofesa o ka Psychology ma ke Kulanui o Georgia, a he loea no ka narcissism — nāna i ʻae lokomaikaʻi i kaʻu noi e nīnauele me ia. Ua nīnau wau iā ia i nā ʻano nīnau like ʻole e pili ana i ke kaulana o ka narcissism, ka narcissism nui a me ka pilina me psychopathy, ka pilina ma waena o ka manaʻo pilikino a me ka narcissism, a me nā mea hou aʻe. I kēia lā post, hōʻike wau i ka ʻaoʻao ʻelua o kaʻu Q&A.

ʻO Emamzadeh: He aha ka hana a ka lepili narcissism pathological manaʻo? Pili paha ia i kahi ʻano narcissism e kū ana i nā pae hoʻohālikelike no ka maʻi pilikino narcissistic (ʻo ia hoʻi, pili i ka hana a me ka hōʻino ʻole)? Inā pēlā, aia kekahi mea e like me ka adaptive a i ʻole olakinonarcissism ?

Miller: ʻAʻole wau ʻike i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻoiai ʻaʻole ia he manawa hoʻohana wau iaʻu iho. Manaʻo wau he mea ia e hōʻike ai i ka narcissism e pili nui ana me ka ʻeha a me ka hōʻino a hōʻailona ʻia kahi breakdown nui aʻe i nā hana hoʻoponopono pilikino e pili ana i ka narcissism. ¹ ʻAʻole wau makemake i ka manaʻo aia he mau ʻano narcissism ʻokoʻa - pathological vs. adaptive a olakino paha-ʻoiai wau e hilinaʻi nei i kēia mau ʻokoʻa e hoʻohoka i nā pilikia o nā hōʻike like ʻole e pili ana i ka grandiose vs. narcissism palupalu a me nā pilikia e pili ana i ka paʻakikī. Hiki i kekahi ke ʻoi aku a i ʻole ka hōʻemi koʻikoʻi ʻia ma nā ʻano o ka narcissism a i ʻole ka hui ʻana. ʻO ka narcissism olakino, inā he ola ia, ʻo ia paha ka mea i hoʻokiʻekiʻe iki ʻia ma luna o ka narcissism nui akā ʻaʻole e nui ka hōʻino ʻia i nā kikowaena hana nui (e laʻa, aloha; hana). Ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, ʻaʻole kuhihewa ka narcissism nāwaliwali no ka "olakino" i loko o ia mea i loko o ka hopena maikaʻi a me ka pālahalaha maikaʻi ʻole a me ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa iho iā ʻoe iho a no laila ʻano like me ka loiloi kaumaha kahi ʻano koʻikoʻi o nā maʻi noʻonoʻo.

ʻO Emamzadeh: ʻAe, makemake wau e hoʻololi iki i nā kumuhana a nīnau iā ʻoe e pili ana i ka noʻonoʻo i ka narcissism. Ua hoʻomākeʻaka kekahi hoa papa: "Ke ʻōlelo mai kahi mea kaumaha," ʻAʻole ʻoe e manaʻo nui iaʻu, "manaʻo mākou ʻo ka maʻi ia e kamaʻilio nei; ke ʻōlelo ʻia e kahi narcissist ka mea like, manaʻo mākou ʻo ka leka kahi hoʻāʻo a me ka hoʻāʻo hōʻino i ka hana. " Manaʻoʻiʻo ʻoe aia he ʻokoʻa nui, e pili ana i ka manaʻo o ka lawena, ma waena o nā ʻano pilikino narcissistic a me nā kūlana olakino ʻē aʻe (e like me nā maʻi pilikino).

Miller: He kuhi kēia akā ʻo kaʻu ponoʻī ponoʻī ʻaʻohe o mākou hōʻike maikaʻi e hōʻike ai he ʻoi aku ka liʻiliʻi o ka manaʻo o kekahi a i ʻole ma mua o ka mea ʻē aʻe e pili ana i kēlā mau ʻano. E hoʻopaʻapaʻa wau i hiki i nā mea kaumaha a narcissistic ke hana i kēlā mau ʻōlelo i loko o kahi ʻike maoli i ka manaʻo ʻole o kahi mea nui ʻē aʻe iā lākou a me ka hana ʻana i nā ʻōlelo e ala aʻe i luna mai kēlā mea like e loaʻa ai ka nui o nā mea e pono ai. (e laʻa, nānā, kākoʻo, a pēlā aku.).

ʻO Emamzadeh: Hoihoi. Pehea e pili ana i ka ʻike pilikino iā ʻoe iho i ka narcissism? Ua nānā au i kekahi manawa, e like me ka hoʻokūkū a makemake paha o ka mea narcissistic i ka mana, a i ʻole i nā wā o ka huhū narcissistic, hana paha ʻo ia i nā ala e hōʻino ai i kēlā mau mea i manaʻo nui ʻia. I kou manaʻo, pehea ka ʻike a me ka ʻike o ka poʻe me nā kiʻekiʻe o nā lāʻau lapaʻau o ka narcissism i ka hopena o kā lākou hana i kekahi?

Miller: ʻO ka lore clinical ua lōʻihi ka manawa o kēlā me kēia kanaka me nā maʻi pilikino ʻaʻole i ʻike nui iā lākou iho. Ua nīnau kekahi o kā mākou hana a me nā mea ʻē aʻe, akā naʻe, ma ka hōʻike ʻana i nā hōʻike ponoʻī o ka narcissism, psychopathy, a me nā ʻano pathological ʻē aʻe e hui kūpono me nā hōʻike ʻikepili. I ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, hui pū lākou me nā hōʻike informant i ke kekelē like i loaʻa i kekahi no nā ʻano maʻamau e like me neuroticism, ʻae, a me ka hoʻokahuli. A, ke pili ʻole lākou i ka maikaʻi o ka hui ʻole ʻana ma kahi o ka ʻae ʻole ma mua o ka nele o ka ʻike. ʻO ia, inā kau ʻoe i nā nīnau i ka mea i kapa ʻia he ʻano meta-manaʻo ma kahi (hōʻike ponoʻī: Manaʻo wau he pono wau i ka lapaʻau kūikawā; meta-perception: Manaʻo kekahi he pono wau i kahi lapaʻau kūikawā). ʻO ke ʻano o kēia ʻaelike kiʻekiʻe e ʻike ka poʻe narcissistic i ko lākou ʻike ʻia e nā poʻe ʻē aʻe akā ʻaʻole kūlike ʻole paha me ka loiloi o kēlā kanaka. Hōʻike nā hana ʻē aʻe i nā manaʻo narcissistic o kēlā me kēia kanaka iā lākou iho e like me ka maopopo o ka maikaʻi o kā lākou ʻike iā lākou iho ma mua o ka manaʻo o haʻi iā lākou, ʻo ka manaʻo ʻē aʻe e hoʻēmi haʻahaʻa iā lākou i ka hala ʻana o ka manawa, a aia kekahi ʻike i kā lākou antagonistic traits (eg, grandiosity, callousness, kuleana) kumu iā lākou i kekahi nāwaliwali.

ʻAʻole ia e hōʻole i kēlā me kēia mea narcissistic e hana i nā ʻeha a me nā ʻehaʻeha ʻē aʻe, e like me nā mea a lākou e waiwai ai a makemake pū paha (e laʻa me nā hoa aloha; nā hoaaloha; nā lālā o ka ʻohana), e like me ka hana mau. Ma ka hakahaka, e hoʻopaʻapaʻa paha wau ʻaʻole pili kēia mau ʻano i ka nele o ka ʻike āpau akā ʻo ka hopena a me ka reactivity reactivity e hiki ai ke ukali i ka hoʻoweliweli ego, ka mea nui o ke kūlana, ka hierarchy, a me ka noho aliʻi ʻana i nā kānaka narcissistic, a me kahi hōʻemi maʻamau i hoʻopili ʻia i nā mea ʻē aʻe e hana i kēia mau hana i mea nui aʻe.

ʻO Emamzadeh: ʻĀ, pena maoli ia i ke kiʻi paʻakikī o nā narcissists. ʻOiaʻiʻo, nā mea āpau e hoʻonāukiuki ai, kūpono ʻole ka lawena narcissistic i nā pilina maikaʻi. I nā puke moʻokalaleo, ua hoʻopili ʻia ka narcissism me ka hōʻino koʻikoʻi (e laʻa me ka launa aloha a me ka hana). ʻOiai ʻo ke ʻano narcissism e hoʻopili ʻia me kahi "manaʻo pilikino, ponoʻī, a hoʻohana pono i ka pilina kanaka, e like me ka pāʻani ʻana i ka pāʻani, ka hilinaʻi ʻole, ka nele o ke aloha, a me ka hana ʻino hoʻi" (p. 171). ² No laila he aha nā koho therapeutic hou loa no ka mālama ʻana i ka narcissism? Hiki ke mālama maikaʻi ʻia ka narcissism me ka hoʻohana ʻana i ka psychotherapy?

Miller: Minamina, ʻaʻohe mau kōkua i kākoʻo ʻia no ka narcissism i kēia manawa-no laila he speculative i ke ʻano. Ma ke ʻano holoʻokoʻa, he mea liʻiliʻi paha ia e ʻike ai kekahi i nā hihia "maʻemaʻe" o ka narcissism grandiose i loko o nā keʻena hoʻokolohua, ke ʻole ke kauoha ʻia e ka ʻaha. ʻO ia ka mea e ʻike ʻia ka poʻe narcissistic i nā hoʻonohonoho maʻi e loaʻa i nā hōʻike narcissistic ʻoi aku ka maʻalahi (e like me ke kaumaha, ka makaʻu, ka egocentric, ka hilinaʻi ʻole, ka manaʻo o ke kuleana). Hāʻawi ʻia ka narcissism nāwaliwali me ka maʻi o ka pilikino borderline (BPD), hiki i kekahi o nā hana hoʻomalu i kākoʻo ʻia no BPD ke hana no ka mea ma mua (e like me, dialectical behavior therapy or DBT; schema-focus therapy). Ma ka laulā, manaʻo wau e pono i kahi mea hoʻomaikaʻi nui e pono ai kahi ʻano hoʻolōʻihi lōʻihi e hāʻawi ʻia i ka nui a me nā pilikia o ka hoʻomohala ʻana i nā pilina me nā mea narcissistic. ³ ʻO koʻu manaʻo ponoʻī kēlā me kēia kanaka me nā maʻi o ke ʻano kūwaho kūwaho (e laʻa me ke ʻano hemahema akā ʻaʻole pilikia nui) hiki ke pōmaikaʻi ʻia mai ka nānā ʻana i ka mea a lākou i nalo ai ma muli o kahi maʻi o ke ʻano he kumu e hoʻonāukiuki ai i ka loli. ʻO ia, ʻaʻole maopopo iaʻu ka maʻalahi o ke aʻo ʻana a me ka loli i ka ʻike empathic akā manaʻo wau hiki i nā mea maʻi ke hoʻomaopopo, no ka laʻana, ua hoʻopili maikaʻi ʻole kā lākou ʻano narcissistic i ko lākou kūlana a me kā lākou hana i ka hana a aʻo i nā hoʻolālā hou e hōʻemi i nā lawena e ua hoʻokumu i kēia mau hopena i ka hana, a lākou e mālama ai (e laʻa, ʻaʻole e loaʻa kahi hoʻolaha). I loko o kā mākou puke hou e pili ana i ka Antagonism ⁴ (Miller & Lynam, 2019), a mākou e ʻike ai ma ke ʻano he kumu nui i ka narcissism a me ka psychopathy, ua pōmaikaʻi ʻo Don Lynam a ua loaʻa iaʻu kekahi mau akeakamai e kākau e pili ana i ka mea e hiki ai i kekahi ke hoʻololi i ia wahi mai nā ʻano like ʻole, e like me ka naʻau noʻonoʻo, nīnauele hoʻonāukiuki. , psychodynamic, a me DBT.

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