ʻAe ʻaelike ʻae ʻole: e ʻimi ana i nā palena palena

I nā makahiki i hala iho nei, ua ulu nui ke kūkākūkā o "consensual non-ʻae," a i ʻole "CNC," i ka honua o ka kink a me ka sadomasochism (BDSM). ʻO nā manaʻo o CNC kahi ʻimi i ka mana, a me ka eroticization o ka haʻalele loa ʻana i nā mana āpau, a ke waiho nei iā ʻoe iho i ka lima o kekahi. ʻOiai weliweli kēia manaʻo no kekahi, no nā mea ʻē aʻe e unuhi ka weliweli i kahi wikiwiki erotic ikaika.

Hōʻike ka Sadism a me ka masochism i kēlā me kēia mea i komo i ka hāʻawi ʻana a i ʻole ke ʻeha ʻana, ma ke ʻano he ʻāpana o kā lākou repertoire moekolohe. Hōʻike ka noiʻi hou o kēia manawa i nā ʻano o ka ʻimi ʻana i ka pīhoihoi, keu a me ka hāmama i ka ʻike he mau ʻano pilikino pilikino ia e huki i nā poʻe e komo i nā ʻano moekolohe e like me BDSM (Brown, Barker & Rahman, 2019; Wismeijer & van Assen, 2013). E like me ka loli ʻana o kekahi poʻe i ka "adrenaline" - ʻano leʻaleʻa e like me skydiving ʻoiai makemake kekahi i ke kāhili.

ʻO nā hana moekolohe e pili ana i ka palaka a me nā mea o ka ikaika, ka huhū, a me ka noho aliʻi mea maʻamau a ʻaʻole pili pū me nā pathology a i ʻole ka haunaele o ka naʻau (e like me Joyal, 2015). ʻO ka maʻamau, i nā ʻano BDSM, aia kekahi mau mea e komo i nā hana koʻikoʻi, koʻikoʻi, hōʻeuʻeu, a hoʻopaʻi paha. No kekahi, ka mana o ke psychological a i ʻole nā ​​"headgames" kahi kikowaena o ka ʻike, kahi e hoʻokau ʻia ai kahi mea hoʻolohe e ʻike i nā manaʻo ikaika, makaʻu o ka makaʻu, ka hopohopo, a me ka hoʻowahāwahā, ʻoiai i loko o ka pilina o ka pilina i hilinaʻi ʻia, kūkākūkā ʻia, a me ka consensual.ʻOiai he moekolohe pinepine ka BDSM a me ka CNC, hiki i kēia mau ʻano ke ʻimi wale i ka mana, me ka pili ʻole o ka erotic.

Ke ʻae nei i nā hana sadomasochistic ke loaʻa nei i ka noiʻi noiʻi o kēia manawa (e laʻa me Carvalho, Freitas & Rosa, 2019), a aia kekahi mau ʻano ʻokoʻa a i ʻole nā ​​papahana o ka ʻae i hoʻohana ʻia ma BDSM, e like me: "Safe, Sane and Consensual," "Risk Aware Consensual Kink , "" Ka mālama, ke kamaʻilio ʻana, ka ʻae a me ke akahele, "a me" ʻAelike e mau nei "(Santa Lucia, 2005; Williams, Thomas, Prior & Christensen, 2014). ʻO ka poʻe e komo ana i ka BDSM i hoʻonohonoho ʻia e makaʻala i nā ʻano nuanced o ka ʻae, a mākaukau i ke kūkā ʻana i ka ʻae (Eg Dunkley & Brotto, 2019), ʻoiai nā hana ʻae a me nā hoʻouka kolohe e kū nei i loko o kēia mau pūʻulu. ʻO "Safewords" kahi ʻāpana o ke kūkākūkā ʻana o ka hana BDSM, kahi e ʻike ai ke kanaka i kahi ala (kahi huaʻōlelo a i ʻole ʻano hana ʻole) e hoʻopau ai lākou i ka hana inā pilikia lākou, a e ʻae pū iā lākou e ʻōlelo "ʻaʻole" a pale a paio paha , me ka hoʻopau ʻole o ka hana.

"Consensual non-ʻae" wehewehe i ke komo ʻana i nā lawena e komo pū paha me nā hana nonconsensual pāʻani, a i ʻole ke komo pū i ke kūkā kamaʻilio kolohe ʻana kahi e ʻae ai kekahi hoa e hāʻawi i ka ʻae i kekahi mau ʻano a pilina paha. ʻO kahi laʻana, hiki i kēia ke hoʻopili i nā poʻe e wehewehe i kā lākou pakanā a i ʻole pakanā hiki iā lākou e moemoeā e pili ana i ka ʻaihue ʻia ʻana a me ka hōʻino ʻia a ua ʻae nā hoa e hana i kēia ma ke ʻano he "role" pāʻani ma ke ola maoli, i mea e kō ai ka moemoeā i makemake ʻia. Hōʻike ʻo "CNC" i ke ʻano o ke kamaʻilio kūkākūkā ʻana o nā kānaka ma mua i ka mea e pili ana i nā hana nonconsensual a me nā hana keaka. Hōʻike ka Consensual nonconsent i kekahi ʻano o ka poʻe e waiho ana i ke kuleana a me ka kaohi i ka lima o kekahi kanaka ʻē aʻe a e kono ana iā lākou e hoʻokuʻikuʻi i kēlā me kēia kanaka ma mua o kā lākou palena a i ʻole e lawe i ke kuleana no ka hoʻokahuli ʻana i nā kūloko kūloko o ka mea hoʻokomo i ke komo ʻana i nā ʻano makemake. Consensual nonconsent, ma ke ʻano nui, hōʻike i kahi ʻano loa o ka eroticization o ka mana ʻole.

Aia kahi kūkā kūkā palena loa o ka CNC ma ka noiʻi a me nā puke moʻokalaleo. Ua noiʻi nui ʻia ka manaʻo pili o ka "rapas play fantasies", me ka noiʻi e hōʻike ana he mea maʻamau loa ia. Hōʻike nā ʻano ʻimi like ʻole ma waena o 30-60% o nā wahine e hōʻike i nā moekolohe moekolohe o ka hana hoʻomāinoino ʻia, a me ka lawehala ʻia ʻana a i ʻole ke kiʻi kolohe ʻia e kūʻē i ko lākou makemake, me kahi hapalua e hōʻike nei e ala aʻe ana kēlā mau moemoeā a maikaʻi no lākou (eg, Bivona & Critelli, 2009) . Aia kahi ʻike liʻiliʻi e pili ana i ka nui o nā wahine e hoʻopili i nā moemoeā i loko o kā lākou moekolohe ma ke ʻano he pāʻani. Hopohopo nā wahine he nui i ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana i kēlā mau moemoeā i alakaʻi ʻia iā lākou i ka hana ʻino ʻia, a i ʻole i ka poʻe e manaʻo nei e makemake maoli lākou e ʻike i ka hoʻoweliweli wahine, ʻaʻole lākou (Bivona & Critelli, 2009). Ke hoʻāʻo nā kāne e hoʻokomo i ka moemoeā pākana i loko o kā lākou moekolohe, hiki ke lilo i mea paʻakikī, hoʻopiha, akā pinepine ka hana maikaʻi a maikaʻi hoʻi. (Johnson, Stewart & Farrow, 2019)

Ua mālama ka National Coalition for Freedom Sex i kahi ana o nā poʻe i pili i ka BDSM e nānā i ka nui a me ke ʻano o nā hana ʻae i loko o ka poʻe e hoʻomaʻamaʻa nei iā BDSM. Ma waena o ʻehā kaukani mau mea i pane ʻia, ua hōʻike ʻo 29% i ka mōʻaukala o nā hana ʻae ʻae, mai ke aloha a me ka hoʻopā ʻana i ke komo genital non-consensual. Ua hōʻike manawaleʻa he kanahā pākēneka i kā lākou hana manawaleʻa ʻana i nā hanana a me nā hana a CNC, kahi "hoʻokahi a ʻoi paha poʻe e hāʻawi i ka kuleana e kāpae i ka ʻae no ka lōʻihi o ka hanana." ʻO nā mea i hana i ka CNC, ʻo 14% wale nō ka mea i hōʻike i kā lākou mau palena i kūkā mua ʻia i wāwahi ʻia i kahi hanana a i ʻole ka pilina, ʻo ia ka hapalua o ka nui o nā hana ʻae i hōʻike ʻia i loko o kahi laʻana. ʻO 22% wale nō o ka poʻe e komo ana i nā ʻano CNC i hōʻike ua ʻike lākou i nā hana ʻae i kēlā me kēia manawa, ke hoʻohālikelike ʻia me 29% o ka laʻana i ka nui. Kuhi nā mea kākau "ʻo ke kūkākūkā hou aʻe a me ke kūkākūkā ʻana e pono ai e komo i ka CNC kekahi o nā kī e loaʻa ai ka ʻae ʻike piha." (Wright, Stambaugh & Cox, 2015., p. 20)

ʻO nā pilina "Master-sla" kahi ʻano maʻamau o nā pilina BDSM consensual non consent, kahi e kūkākūkā ai nā kānaka i kahi pilina consensual kahi e ʻae ai kekahi hoa i kekahi e kaohi i nā ʻaoʻao āpau o kona ola. Kākaʻikahi ka pilina o ka haku-kauā, akā aia nō, a ua hoʻopaʻa ʻia ma 2013 e Dancer, Kleinplatz, a me Moser. Ua ʻike lākou ma o ka hoʻohui ʻana i nā hanana ola maʻamau o kēlā me kēia lā e like me nā hana o ka hale a me nā hana o kēlā me kēia lā i nā mana ʻokoʻa o ko lākou ola, ua hoʻonui nā mea komo i nā palena o kā lākou hoihoi BDSM ma mua o nā hana moekolohe wale nō. ʻOiai aia ka manaʻo a me ke kūpono o ka "waiho piha ʻana," "nā kauā" i kūkākūkā i ka consensual nonconsent e hoʻohana mau ana i ka mana kūʻokoʻa ke pono lākou no kā lākou pono ponoʻī. Ma kahi o ka hapalua o nā "kauā" i loko o kēia noi ʻana ua wehewehe lākou i kekahi hiki ke hōʻole i nā kauoha mai ko lākou haku, ke komo lākou i loko o kā lākou pili. He kanahikukumamāhā pākēneka o nā "kauā" i hōʻike ua hana lākou i nā hana i manaʻo mua ʻole ʻia iā lākou, ʻoiai lākou i "kipaku ʻia ma o aku o kā lākou palena" e ko lākou haku.

ʻO ka consensual non consent, ka haku-kauā pili, nā pākana hoʻokani pila, a me ka BDSM ma ke ʻano he mau ʻāpana o nā kūkākūkā pūnaewele i makemake nui ʻia ma ka pāpili kaiaulu. Minamina, e like me nā mea āpau pūnaewele ʻO nā mea hoʻoponopono moekolohe a me nā kauka e like me aʻu iho e hālāwai pinepine nei i kēlā me kēia kanaka nona ka ʻike e pili ana i ka hana ʻana i ka BDSM, CNC, a i ʻole nā ​​hana moekolohe ʻē aʻe i hele mai nā pūnaewele pūnaewele, a he nui nā manaʻo a me nā hana maikaʻi ʻole.

ʻO kahi ʻike lapaʻau a me ka ʻepekema o ka prevalence, ke ʻano, a me ka etiology o nā hana moekolohe ʻae ʻole ʻae ʻia i kona wā ʻōpio. Ke hoʻomau nei ka hana noiʻi a me nā hana lapaʻau e pili ana i kēia mau mea, akā ke ulu nei kēia wahi o ka moekolohe i ka wā e ulu ana, e lilo ana i mea paʻakikī e noʻonoʻo piha a i ʻole kino. Ua maopopo he nui ka poʻe e moemoeā e pili ana i ka moekolohe kahi e hiki ʻole ai iā lākou ke pakele a hoʻopau paha i ka ʻike. Hoʻokomo ka hapa liʻiliʻi o ka poʻe i ia ʻano hana i ke ola maoli ma o ke pāʻani ʻana, ke hoʻohālikelike ʻia i ka moemoeā, ʻoiai ʻaʻole ia he mea iki e hana pēlā. Hana ʻia me ka ʻae, ka ʻike ponoʻī, ke kūkā kamaʻilio ʻana, a me ke kamaʻilio ʻana, ʻike ʻia ʻo ka hoʻohui ʻana i nā hana ʻae ʻole ʻae ʻia i loko o nā ʻano moekolohe hiki ke lilo i mea olakino a hoʻokō hoʻi i ka moekolohe no kekahi poʻe, e ʻae ana iā lākou e hoʻonui i ko lākou palena moekolohe.

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