Makemake nā kāne ʻumeʻume i nā mea āpau?

ʻO ka launa pū ʻana me ka pūnaewele ka mea waena e hiki ai i nā poʻe ke hoʻolaha iā lākou iho i nā hoa kūpono. Hoʻouka nā mea hoʻohana maʻamau i nā kiʻi paʻi a me ke kākau ʻana i nā wehewehe o ko lākou ʻano, hoihoi a me nā ʻano ʻē aʻe. ʻAe pū nā ʻikepili pili pūnaewele me kēlā me kēia kanaka e kuhikuhi i ka mea a lākou e makemake ai i kahi hoa pili.

ʻO ke ala a kahi kanaka e hoʻolaha ai iā lākou iho ma kahi pūnaewele pili e hōʻike maikaʻi paha ia pehea lākou e waiwai ai iā lākou iho ma ke ʻano he lā hiki, me ka poʻe e manaʻo nei he waiwai nui paha lākou ma mua o ke koho. Ua hōʻike akāka ʻia ka waiwai o ka hoa wahine e nā helu nani o ke kino (Li, Kenrick, Bailey, & Linsenmeier, 2002). Akā ke hōʻike ʻia nei ka waiwai o ka hoa kāne ma ke ala like, a i ʻole e nānā pono paha kā mākou i kā lākou hōʻike ʻano.

ʻO kekahi haʻawina e hele ana i kahi ala e hāʻawi ai i kahi pane i kēia nīnau ua hana ʻia e Steven Arnocky mai Nipissing University, Ontario. Ua nīnau ʻo Arnocky i nā kāne e komo ana (ʻo ka hapa o lākou e pili nei i kēia manawa), nā nīnau e pili ana i ka makahiki a lākou e makemake ai e male, he aha nā makahiki e makemake ai lākou ma waena o lākou a me kā lākou wahine a inā makemake lākou iā lākou a i ʻole i kā lākou wahine. e ʻelemakule. Ua noi ʻia nā mea komo e helu i nā hiʻohiʻona wahine he ʻumikūmāwalu i kahi pālākiō mai ka mea nui ʻole a i mea nui ʻole. ʻO nā hiʻohiʻona hoa helehelena ka pīhoihoi, ka pili politika, ka maʻemaʻe, ka makemake e loaʻa kahi home, ka makemake e loaʻa nā keiki.

A laila hoʻopau nā kāne i kahi mau nīnau i hoʻolālā ʻia e loiloi i kā lākou waiwai ponoʻī. O kahi laʻana:
• 'Holo wau i mau hoaaloha ke hele au i waho'
• 'ʻumeʻume ʻia nā lālā o ka ʻaoʻao ʻē iaʻu'
• 'E hana wau i makua maikaʻi'
• 'Ma hope o koʻu aloha ʻana me kekahi makemake lākou e aloha hou me aʻu'

ʻIke loa, ʻoi aku ka nui o ka ʻaelike i kēia mau nīnau i hōʻike ʻia ka waiwai o ka hoa. Ma waho aʻe o kēia, ua helu ʻia nā kiʻi o nā kāne komo e ʻelima mau wahine lae pua mai ka nani ʻole i ka nani loa.

Kūlana pilina

Ua ʻike ʻo Arnocky ʻo nā kāne i kēia manawa e pili ana i nā pilina i hōʻike ua makemake lākou:

• E male ma kahi o 2 mau makahiki ma mua o kēlā mau kāne ʻaʻole i kēia manawa i kahi pilina.
• He ʻokoʻa o ka makahiki ma waena o lākou a me kā lākou hoa.
• He makemake no ka moekolohe ma ka hoa.
• He hoa pili i kaʻana like i ka ʻiʻini no ka home a me ka ʻohana.
• He hoa i kiʻekiʻe i ke kūlana kaiaulu.

Nā Helu Uʻi wahine

ʻO ka mea aʻe i loiloi ʻia e Arnocky nā māka wahine no ka uʻi kāne a me nā mea a nā kāne i hōʻike ai makemake lākou i kahi hoa. ʻO ka mea kupaianaha, ua ʻike ʻo ia i ka hoʻokolokolo wahine o ka helehelena o ke kāne, ʻaʻole i pili i nā helu kāne o ka maikaʻi a lākou i manaʻo ai iā lākou iho, a i kā lākou hōʻike o kā lākou ʻike i ka waiwai. I nā huaʻōlelo ʻē aʻe, nā hoʻokolokolo ʻana e nā wahine e pili ana i ke ʻano o ka helehelena o nā kāne, me he mea lā ʻaʻole pili loa i nā hoʻokolokolo kāne o kā lākou pae nani iho.

Ua hōʻike ʻia nā kāne e like me ka uʻi e nā wahine i ʻōlelo ua makemake lākou i nā hoa me nā ʻano hoʻomana like a me nā hoa i ke olakino maikaʻi. Ua hōʻike pū lākou i kahi makemake no nā hoa makemake nui.

ʻIke ʻia ka Waiwai Mate

I ko Arnocky ninaninau ʻana i nā hōʻike o ke kāne kāne i ʻike ʻia he waiwai make, ua ʻike ʻo ia i ka poʻe i kau kiʻekiʻe i kēia ana i makemake ʻia no kēia mau mea:

• Nā wahine makemake i nā keiki a me kahi home.
• Ke koho ʻana e male i ka wā ma mua o ka makahiki. ʻO ka poʻe e male i ka wā ma mua o ka makahiki, hiki ke loaʻa nā keiki a laila kūleʻa reproductive.
• He ʻokoʻa makahiki ma waena o lākou a me kā lākou hoa.
• Ke koho ʻana e male i ka hoa ma mua o lākou iho. ʻO ka makahiki kahi hōʻailona maikaʻi o ka momona i nā wahine, a no laila ke male maikaʻi ʻana i ka wahine ʻōpio.
• He hoa olakino olakino. I nā huaʻōlelo evolution he mea nui ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi hoa i olakino i mea e hiki ai ke hānai i nā keiki a hana i nā keiki olakino.
• He hoa pili a pilikino a kūlana maikaʻi.
• He hoa i loaʻa nā kūlana kālā maikaʻi me ka makemake. ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi kālā i nā ʻohana i ʻelua mau loaʻa kālā ma mua o hoʻokahi.
• He hoa helehelena maikaʻi a me kahi mea hoihoi iā lākou.

Ua ʻike pū ʻia kēia noiʻi ʻana o ka helehelena o ke kāne e like me ka helu ʻia e nā wahine i pili ʻole i ka waiwai o ka kāne ponoʻī. ʻO ka manaʻo o kēia ke ʻano o nā kāne a ka wahine i ʻike ai he mea maikaʻi ʻaʻole pono e helu iā lākou iho ma ke ʻano he waiwai kiʻekiʻe. No laila ʻelua mau nīnau. ʻO ka mea mua, pehea e nānā ai nā kāne i ka waiwai o kā lākou hoa, a ʻo ka lua, no ke aha i pili ʻole ai ka helu wahine i ka helu kāne kāne?

Pehea e loiloi ai nā kāne i ka waiwai o kā lākou hoa?

ʻO nā mea like ʻole e like me ka mea e hoʻohuli i ka waiwai o ka kāne kāne e laʻa me ka pōʻaiapili a me nā hoʻohālikelike pololei me nā kāne ʻē aʻe i kēlā manawa. Aia paha he mau mea ʻokoʻa i ka hiki i ke kāne ke hoʻokolokolo i kā lākou waiwai ponoʻī. ʻO kahi laʻana, ua ʻike ʻo Beck, Penke, Schmukle and Asendorpf (2011) ʻo nā kāne i hoʻoliʻiliʻi liʻiliʻi ʻia e ka sociosexual (ʻo nā mea nona ka koi haʻahaʻa no ka pilina ma mua o ka pilina) ua hōʻike ʻia ka waiwai o nā hoa ma mua o nā mea i ʻoi loa ʻia.

No ke aha i pili ʻole ai ka helu wahine i ka helehelena uʻi i ka waiwai o ka hoa?

ʻO kahi mea hiki ke nānā aku i ka helehelena kāne he mea nui ia o ka hōʻailona kāne kāne ma mua o ka maikaʻi o ka helehelena wahine no ka waiwai o ka wahine. I nā kāne, nā ʻano ʻē aʻe e like me ka waiwai a me ke kūlana he mau hōʻailona koʻikoʻi o ka waiwai kāne kāne. Eia kekahi, ua kuhi ʻo Arnocky i ka hoʻokolokolo ʻana i ka helehelena o ke kāne a he ʻano paʻakikī paha ia, no ka nui o nā kumu i hāʻawi i kēia.

He aha ke ʻano o kēia mau ʻike?

I ka hōʻuluʻulu, ua ʻike ʻia kēia noiʻi ʻana ʻo nā kāne i hōʻike i ka nui o ka waiwai o ka hoa, ʻoi aku ka nui o ke koho e pili ana i nā hiʻohiʻona a lākou e makemake ai i nā hoa wahine ma luna o nā ʻano like ʻole, ʻoiai ʻaʻole i pili ka nani o ka helehelena kāne me ka makemake o nā kāne. I nā huaʻōlelo ʻē aʻe, ʻo ke kāne ponoʻī ke ʻike ʻia ka waiwai o ka hoa e hoʻoholo ai i nā mea a nā kāne e makemake ai a ʻaʻole i ko lākou helehelena maikaʻi.

Hoʻohana ʻia i ka launa pūnaewele ʻana ʻo kēia ka manaʻo ʻaʻole pono nā kāne e nānā nani loa ka mea e koho nui loa e pili ana i kā lākou makemake.