Ke koho ʻana ma waena o nā mea aloha a me kā mākou hauʻoli iho

He moʻolelo pōkole kā James Joyce, "Eveline," e pili ana i kahi wahine ʻōpio o 19, ʻo Eveline Hill, ke alo i kahi koho ma waena o ka hoʻomau ʻana e noho me kona makuakāne hōʻino ma Dublin a haʻalele iā Buenos Aires me kāna ipo (huna mai kona makuakāne), he luina i kapa ʻia ʻo Frank. Ua hoʻohiki ʻo Eveline iā Frank e haʻalele me ia a male iā ia, a no kekahi manawa, hauʻoli ʻo ia e pili ana i ka manaʻolana. ʻAʻole loa ʻo ia e lohe hou iā Miss Gavan, kahi luna kiʻekiʻe ma ka hale kūʻai kahi e hana ai, e ʻōlelo aku iā ia i mua o ka poʻe kūʻai aku, "Miss Hill, ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻike ke kali nei kēia mau wahine?" Ma kahi o, e mālama ʻia me ka mahalo. ʻO kona ola me Frank, manaʻo ʻo ia, e ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi - ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi - ma mua o ke ola o kona makuahine make me kāna makuakāne. ʻO Frank, ʻokoʻa kona makuakāne, he ʻoluʻolu a puʻuwai puʻuwai. Makemake ʻo ia e hīmeni a he kāne maikaʻi.

Akā ke hoʻokokoke mai nei ka lā o ka haʻalele, huli pinepine ka manaʻo o Eveline ʻaʻole i ka wā e hiki mai ana ma Buenos Aires akā i ka wā i hala. Ua hoʻomāinoino mau ka makuakāne o Eveline. No nā makahiki he paʻakikī e loaʻa kālā mai ka home mai ona aku, akā i kēia mau lā, ua hoʻomaka ʻo ia e hoʻoweliweli iā Eveline me ka hana ʻino, e ʻōlelo ana i kāna mea e hana aku ai iā ia akā no ka pono o kona makuahine i make. Eia nō naʻe, ʻike ʻo Eveline iā ia iho i ka noʻonoʻo ʻana i ka ʻaoʻao ʻoi aku o ka maikaʻi o kona makuakāne: pehea i hana ai ʻo ia i kona mau kaikunāne a me kāna ʻakaʻaka i ka wā kamaliʻi a lākou e kau ana i ka pāpale kapu o kona makuahine; pehea i hoʻokahi manawa, ke maʻi ʻo ia, heluhelu ʻo ia i kahi moʻolelo iā ia a hana i ka palaoa. Hoʻomanaʻo pū ʻo ia ua hoʻohiki ʻo ia i kona makuahine e noho pū ka ʻohana. He aha kāna e hana ai? Ua kākau ʻo Joyce:

Pakele! Pakele ʻo ia! Na Frank e hoʻopakele iā ia. Hāʻawi ʻo ia i ke ola iā ia, aloha paha kekahi. Akā makemake ʻo ia e ola. No ke aha e hauʻoli ʻole ai ʻo ia? He kuleana kona i ka hauʻoli. Lawe ʻo Frank iā ia i kona mau lima, pelu iā ia i kona mau lima. E hoʻopakele ʻo ia iā ia.

Ke hiki mai ka manawa, eia naʻe, ʻike ʻo Eveline ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke haʻalele. Huki ʻo Frank iā ia i ka moku, akā paʻa ʻo ia i ka hao hao me kona ikaika a pau. Hāʻule ka pale, a hoʻi wikiwiki ʻo Frank i mua o ka ālai iā Eveline, kāhea iā ia, akā ʻaʻole i loaʻa. Koho ʻo Eveline i kona makuakāne hoʻomāinoino ma mua o ke ola maikaʻi me Frank. Koho ʻo ia e noho ma Dublin.

Ua ʻike wau i ka poʻe i loko o ka pilikia o Eveline. ʻAʻole i liʻuliʻu loa, he haumāna kaʻu i hana maikaʻi loa i ka hapalua mua o ke kau akā ʻo ka maikaʻi o kāna hana i hōʻino koke. Ua nīnau wau iā ia i ka mea i hana ʻia. Ua ʻōlelo ʻo ia ua kāhea ʻia ʻo ia i ka home e mālama i nā kaikaina a me kekahi ʻohana ʻohana maʻi. Makemake ka haumana i ke kōkua mai iaʻu ma ka hoʻoholo ʻana i ka mea e hana ai. Ua nīnau ʻo ia inā manaʻo wau he kanaka aloha ʻo ia inā koho ʻo ia e haʻalele i kona kauhale e nānā i kāna aʻo ʻana. ʻAʻole wau e hoʻomanaʻo i ka mea aʻu i ʻōlelo ai, akā hoʻomanaʻo wau ua hoʻouna wau iā ia i kā Joyce moʻolelo e pili ana iā Eveline Hill.

He aha kā mākou e hana ai i kahi hihia e like me kēia - kahi o nā ʻohana e hoʻohiki ai mākou e hoʻopaʻa iā mākou i ke ola?

ʻO ka mea mua aʻu e makemake ai e hoʻomaopopo he ʻokoʻa kēia hihia mai nā mea e like me kēia: ʻO kahi keiki palaualelo a me ke kuleana ʻole e hoʻonele i ke kālā a kona mau mākua ma mua o ka ʻimi ʻana i kahi hana, a i ʻole ma waho mau no kahi pō ma ke kaona. ʻoiai kahi makua maʻi e pono ke kōkua. I kēlā mau hihia hope, ke koho nei ka poʻe i nā leʻaleʻa frivolous ma mua o nā pono nui o ka poʻe kokoke a aloha a malia paha, ma luna o kā lākou mau kuleana ponoʻī.

ʻO ka hihia aʻu e noʻonoʻo nei he ʻokoʻa nō ia kahi kahi kanaka mai kahi kūlana maikaʻi ʻole e loaʻa ai kahi waiwai akā hōʻole ʻole e hāʻawi i kahi kōkua i kona ʻohana.

E hoʻāʻo paha kekahi e kahakiʻi i waena o nā hihia e like me kā Eveline a i ʻole kaʻu haumana a me nā keiki kuleana ʻole a i ʻole ka mea waiwai e hoʻopoina nei i kona aʻa. Hiki paha i kekahi ke hoʻohana i ka mea like e pena ai i ke kanaka nāna e koho i ka ʻimi ʻana i kāna mau pahuhopu ponoʻī ma ke ʻano he aloha ʻole a mahalo ʻole hoʻi. Akā ʻaʻohe mea like ma aneʻi. E akāka, ʻaʻole au e ʻōlelo aku i kēlā me kēia kanaka mai ka ʻilihuna kūlohelohe e lilo i waiwai a kūleʻa hoʻi kahi kuleana e hoʻouna kālā i nā ʻohana ʻohana maikaʻi ʻole. Kaukaʻi ʻia i ka maikaʻi o nā poʻe ʻē aʻe iā ia. Hiki i kekahi o nā mākua ke hana hoʻomāinoino - psychologically a i ʻole ke kino - i mea e haʻalele ai i kekahi kuleana i loaʻa iā lākou ma kahi mahalo a kōkua a ke keiki. Akā i nā manawa he nui, keu hoʻi i nā mea a nā mākua i lilo ai i mea ʻokoʻa akā kākoʻo - malia paha e hana ana i nā mōhai nui e hiki ai ke uku no ke hele ʻana i ke kula - he kolohe a kūpono ʻole hoʻi ke huli i kekahi iā lākou ma hope, ke hiki ke kōkua.

Eia naʻe, ʻokoʻa loa nā hihia aʻu e noʻonoʻo nei. ʻO nā lālā o ka ʻohana ma nā kūlana e like me kēlā o kaʻu haumāna a Eveline paha e makemake pinepine ai, ʻaʻole ia he kōkua kōkua wale. Makemake lākou i ka mea ʻē aʻe - maʻamau ke keiki akā i kekahi manawa he kaikaina, moʻopuna, a ʻohana ʻē aʻe - e mōhai i kāna mau pahuhopu ponoʻī, nā moemoeā, a me ka manawa kūpono e loaʻa ai ka hauʻoli. Koi lākou i ka ʻōlelo ʻana i ke ʻano o ke ola o kekahi, a ʻo ko lākou hopohopo nui ʻaʻole ka makemake o ka mea ʻē aʻe akā ʻo kā lākou iho.

ʻO Catherine Arrowpoint mai kā George Eliot puke moʻolelo ʻO Daniel Deronda ʻokoʻa nā kumu mai ka Eveline Hill. Hele mai ʻo Catherine mai kahi ʻohana aristocratic, a i kāna hihia, ʻaʻole ia ke kālā a me ka manawa a kona mau mākua i makemake ai; akā, nā mākua o Catherine, kona makuahine ʻoi loa, koi i ka mana veto ke pili i ka male o ka wahine ʻōpio. Makemake ka makuahine e haʻalele ʻo Catherine i ka manaʻo o ka male ʻana i kahi mea hoʻokani pila, ʻo Herr Klesmer, mai kahi kūlana haʻahaʻa. Hoʻāʻo ʻo ia e hoʻohuli iā Catherine e ʻano hilahila kēlā ʻano hui - hilahila i ka ʻohana.

ʻOiai ʻo Joyce's Eveline i hoʻokaʻawale ʻia i loko a pule i ke Akua e hōʻike iā ia i ke ala i mua, ua ʻōlelo akāka ka makuahine o Catherine he kuleana ʻohana kā Catherine e pale ana i ka male ʻana iā Herr Klesmer. Ke hoʻāʻo nei ka makuahine e huakaʻi hewa i ke kaikamahine e haʻalele i ka hoʻolālā e lilo i wahine na ke kāne āna i aloha ai. Kū ʻē ʻo Catherine. Kākau ʻo Eliot:

"He wahine koʻikoʻi kāu wahine i kāu kūlana. Ma kahi e hakakā ai ka hana a me ka piʻina, pono ʻo ia e ukali i ka hana. ”

"ʻAʻole au e hōʻole i kēlā," wahi a Catherine, me ke anuanu o ke anuanu e like me ka wela o kona makuahine. "Akā e ʻōlelo paha kekahi i nā mea ʻoiaʻiʻo a hoʻopili wahaheʻe. Hiki i nā kānaka ke maʻalahi i ka dute kapu i inoa no ka mea a lākou e makemake ai i kekahi.

ʻOiai, ʻoi aku paha ka maʻalahi o ka Catherine ma mua o ke kū ʻana o Eveline i kona kūlana, no ka mea, ua hoʻokumu ʻia nā koi a ka makuahine o Catherine i loko o kahi pāʻālua a Catherine i ʻike ai ma ke ʻano he arbitrary. ʻAʻole pono ka makuahine o Catherine i kōkua. Eia nō naʻe, aia nā hihia ʻelua i nā ala nui like, koe wale nō nā koho ʻana a nā wahine ʻōpio ʻelua. Manaʻo ʻo Catherine he kuleana kona e male i ke kāne āna i aloha aloha ai, a hana ia. ʻAʻole hoʻoholo ʻo Eveline he kuleana kāna e noho ai, akā ʻike ʻo ia ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke haʻalele.

ʻOiai ʻo Eveline e hana nei me kāna pilikia, hoʻomanaʻo ʻo ia i kahi mea a kona makuahine i ʻōlelo ai no kona wahi make. Ua huhū ka makuahine a ʻaʻole noʻonoʻo pono, akā hoʻi nā ʻōlelo iā Eveline: "Derevaun Seraun." ʻAʻole hāʻawi ʻo Joyce i kahi unuhi no ka māmalaʻōlelo, akā naʻe, he huaʻōlelo Irish Gaelic kēia e pili ana: "I ka hopena o ka leʻaleʻa, aia ka ʻeha." Hāʻawi ʻia mākou e hoʻomaopopo no Eveline, ʻōlelo kēia huaʻōlelo i ke kaulike ma mua o ka noho ʻana.

Eia nō naʻe, aia kekahi mau haʻawina ʻokoʻa a Eveline i huki ai mai ka ʻōlelo kahiko. Hiki iā ia, ke laʻana, ke hoʻoholo ʻana e uku ana ʻo ia i kahi kumukūʻai ma ka haʻalele ʻana, ʻaʻole hiki ke pale ʻia ka ʻeha, akā naʻe, ʻo ka haʻalele ʻana me Frank ka mea āna e hana ai. No ke aha mai ʻo ia?

He paʻakikī ke ʻōlelo, akā manaʻo wau ua ʻike ʻo Eveline aia kahi paʻa e paʻa iā ia i Dublin, kahi paʻa hiki ʻole iā ia ke uhaʻi. E maʻalahi paha iā Eveline e haʻalele me Frank no Buenos Aires inā maikaʻi ʻole loa kona makuakāne, inā ʻaʻole ʻo ia e hoʻāʻo e hoʻokipa i kāna mau keiki ʻōpio a i ʻole hana i kekahi mea e mālama iā Eveline. ʻO ka wā i hala ʻo Eveline, inā pēlā, inā ʻoi aku ka bleaker, akā ʻoi aku ka mālamalama o kona wā e hiki mai ana, ʻoi aku ka mālamalama. ʻO ka mea ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ma mua o ke aloha ʻole, i kekahi manawa, he aloha kuʻikuʻi, liʻiliʻi, a me ke aloha ponoʻī, he aloha e lawa ana e hōʻeha ai mākou akā ʻaʻole lawa ka maʻemaʻe e lawe mai iā mākou i ka hauʻoli.