Pehea e ola ai kahi makuahine Narcissistic

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• Nā Heluhelu Pono Nā Narcissism
• ʻO nā mea kaua Psychological kahi Narcissist e hoʻohana paha

ʻAʻole lākou i hana i nā kāleka Hallmark no nā makuahine hiki ʻole ke aloha i kā lākou keiki. I ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole lākou e hana i nā kāleka Hallmark no ka nui o ko mākou mau makuahine.

Iā mākou e mākaʻikaʻi ai i nā kāleka o ka lā makuahine, ua heluhelu mākou e pili ana i kahi hiʻona maikaʻi loa o ka makuahine - nā makuahine i mōhai no kā lākou mau keiki, ka mea maʻa mau i laila no kā lākou poʻe keiki, ka mea i hōʻike i ke aloha a me ke aloha o kā lākou poʻe keiki, a ʻo ka mea nāna i akāka. ʻo kā lāua mau keiki ka hele mua.

Heluhelu mākou e pili ana i nā makuahine e noho ana ma laila e honi i kēlā me kēia boo-boo a hoʻokele i kēlā me kēia kaʻa kaʻa, ʻaʻole i hala i kahi pāʻani soccer a loaʻa nā brownies homemade a me nā ants ma kahi lāʻau e kali ana no kahi meaʻai māmā ma hope o ke kula. Heluhelu mākou e pili ana i nā makuahine no ke kamaʻilio ʻana i ke aumoe ma hope o ka lā maikaʻi ʻole, nā makuahine e like me kahi hoa aloha - ka Moms Maikaʻi loa o ka Honua. ʻOiaʻiʻo, aia kēia mau makuahine ma kahi?

No mākou ʻaʻohe o nā makuahine a Hallmark i kākau ai, hiki ke paʻakikī ke kaʻina o ke koho ʻana i kahi kāleka. ʻO wau e, aia i hea nā kāleka e ʻōlelo nei, "Mahalo no ka hana ʻana i ka mea ʻoi loa i hiki iā ʻoe ke hana, ʻoiai inā ʻaʻole maikaʻi loa"?

Akā no nā kaikamahine a nā makuahine narcissistic, hiki i ka Lā o ka makuahine ke ʻehaʻeha loa. ʻIke mākou i nā mea a mākou e hana ai ʻaʻole lawa ia, a ke hoʻomau nei ka hapa nui o mākou. No laila i kēlā me kēia makahiki, i ka hoʻoheheʻe ʻana o ka hau, a nānā nā ʻōpuʻu tulip i ko lākou mau pulu ʻōmaʻomaʻo mai ka lepo i hoʻoheheʻe ʻia, ninini nā kaikamahine ʻeha i loko o nā ʻeke o nā kāleka, e ʻimi nei i mea e hōʻoluʻolu ai i ko lākou makuahine me ka ʻole o ka kumakaia ʻana i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo o kā lākou ʻike ponoʻī. I ka ʻimi ʻana i ke kāleka hewahewa loa hiki ke loaʻa iā lākou ("Wishing You a Special Day" a i ʻole "Hoʻolauleʻa iā ʻoe!"), Ua koi ʻia lākou e nāhelehele i nā kāleka e pili ana i nā makuahine a lākou i makemake ai e kūʻē i nā hoʻowahāwahā a me ka hōʻino naʻau a lākou i hoʻomanawanui ai. . Loaʻa iā lākou ka makemake nui - kahi iini no kahi makuahine e loaʻa ʻole iā lākou.

Manaʻoʻiʻo mākou i ka manawa a lilo ka wahine i makuahine, aloha maoli ka hānau aloha. A no nā wahine he nui, ʻo kēia ka hihia. Pākuʻi kahi kuapo biology, a hoʻopili ʻia mākou me kā mākou pēpē. ʻO ke kani o kā lākou uē e huki i kā mākou puʻuwai puʻuwai. Nānā pau ʻole mākou i ko lākou alo. A ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke kiaʻi i ko mākou mau lima mai kēlā mau wāwae liʻiliʻi liʻiliʻi. Mālama kā mākou moʻomeheu i kēia mau hihiʻo idealised o ka makuahine, e hoʻohana ana iā lākou e kūʻai aku iā mākou i nā mea āpau mai nā diapers i nā kaʻa i ka inikua ola.

ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo - i kūʻē i ka mea i makemake ʻo Pampers iā mākou e manaʻoʻiʻo - he paʻakikī ka makuahine. Hoʻokomo ʻia ke aloha me nā manawa o ka inaina (ma ke ʻano he makuahine o kahi kamaliʻi, hiki iaʻu ke ʻōlelo i kēia me ka maopopo loa). Huhū mākou, nalowale ko mākou ʻoluʻolu, a ʻaʻole hiki mau iā mākou ke hāʻawi i kā mākou keiki i nā mea e pono ai. Aia kekahi mau manawa ke makemake mākou e nalo, ke haohao mākou: No ke aha wau i manaʻo ai he manaʻo maikaʻi kēia? Akā ua hele mai kā mākou keiki a hāʻawi iā mākou i kahi ʻapo, a i ʻole ia ʻano minamina, nalo, a i ʻole ʻae heʻoiaʻiʻo, ua pololei mākou i ka wā i ʻōlelo ai mākou he hiki ʻole ke kau i kāu kākini ma hope kou kāmaʻa, a hehee hou ko mākou naʻau. ʻO ka "makuwahine maikaʻi" hiki ʻole ke pepa ʻia me nā haki, nā holomua, a - malia paha ʻo ka mea nui loa - hoʻoponopono.

Akā i kekahi manawa ʻoi aku ka hewa o kēia mau hemahema ma mua o ka haki ʻana o ka benigne i ka pilina makuahine a keiki aloha. I kekahi manawa ua hele a awry kekahi mea i ka hana makuahine.

ʻAʻole hiki i kekahi mau makuahine ke aloha maoli i kā lākou keiki.

ʻAʻole ʻike ka honua i ka mea e hana ai i kēia; ʻAʻole ia he kumuhana o ke kamaʻilio ʻana ma nā blog a mommy a i ʻole nā ​​playdates, a ʻaʻole pinepine mākou e kamaʻilio e pili ana i waena o kā mākou mau hoaaloha pili loa. Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe i ʻike iā ʻoe iho, paʻakikī e noʻonoʻo i ka hiki ʻole o kekahi mau wahine e kā lākou traumas ponoʻī a makemake nui e hoʻopihapiha i ko lākou ʻōlohelohe i hiki ʻole iā lākou ke ʻike i kā lākou poʻe keiki me he mea lā he kanaka kū hoʻokahi i kūpono i ke aloha.

ʻO nā makuahine i loaʻa i ka maʻi pilikino narcissistic ʻike i kā lākou keiki ma ke ʻano he hoʻonui ʻana iā lākou iho - kahi mea e hōʻole ʻia ai nā papahana e makemake ai a i ʻole makemake ʻole ʻia iā ia iho, kahi mea hoʻokūkū, a me kahi kumu o ka lili. Noho nā makuahine Narcissistic i kā lākou pono ponoʻī, kūkulu ʻia a puni kahi hihi o lākou iho he "maikaʻi" a kūpono i ka nānā a me ka hoʻonani. E hana lākou i nā mea āpau e mālama ai i kēia kiʻi ponoʻī, me ka ʻike ʻole i nā ʻōpala i waiho ʻia i ko lākou ala ʻana. ʻAʻole hiki i kahi narcissist maoli ke hana i nā pilina - ma ka liʻiliʻi ʻaʻole i ke ʻano o ka manaʻo o ka hapanui iā lākou. Hiki i kahi makuahine narcissistic ke ʻike i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, me kāna mau keiki ponoʻī, ma ke ʻano he mea e hālāwai a hoʻonāukiuki paha i kāna mau pono ponoʻī.

ʻO Psychoanalyst a me pediatrician D.W. Wahi a Winicott, "Nānā ka makuahine i ka pēpē i kona mau lima, a nānā ka pēpē i ka helehelena o kona makuahine a loaʻa ʻo ia iā ia iho i laila ... , makaʻu, a me nā hoʻolālā no ke keiki. I kēlā hihia, ʻaʻole ʻike ke keiki iā ia iho i ka maka o kona makuahine, akā ʻo ka wana a ka makuahine ponoʻī. E noho kēia keiki me ke aniani ʻole, a no ke koena o kona ola e ʻimi nei i kēia aniani makehewa. "

Paʻa paʻakikī nā keiki e ʻimi i ke aloha a me ka ʻae o ko lākou mau mākua. Ke loaʻa ʻole iā lākou, manaʻoʻiʻo lākou no ka mea aloha ʻole ʻia lākou. ʻOi aku ka palekana o ka noho ʻana i ke ao kahi āu i maikaʻi ʻole ai ma mua o ka noho ʻana i kahi honua kahi hiki ʻole i ke kanaka i manaʻo ʻia e aloha, mālama, a pale iā ʻoe ke hana pēlā. Ma hope o nā mea āpau, inā ʻo mākou ka pilikia, a laila hiki iā mākou ke hoʻololi iā mākou iho a aloha ʻia. Hana nui nā keiki he nui me ka luhi ʻole e ʻimi nei i ke aloha o ka makuahine a ʻae ʻia, akā ʻike lākou ua like ia me ka hoʻāʻo ʻana e kaomi i ke koko mai kahi pōhaku.

Nā Heluhelu Pono Nā Narcissism

ʻO nā mea kaua Psychological kahi Narcissist e hoʻohana paha