Nā haʻawina i aʻo ʻia mai kahi hoʻāʻo ʻana e pepehi i ka mea maʻi

Ma hope o ka hoʻāʻo a hoʻopau pau paha i ka make, hakakā pinepine nā alakaʻi maikaʻi me kahi ʻano, no ka mea ʻaʻole lākou i ʻike i ka makaʻi o kekahi, ua holomua paha lākou.

ʻO nā kauka e kū nei i ka laina mua o ke kaua noʻonoʻo noʻonoʻo pū kekahi i kēia, ʻoiai ʻaʻole hemahema pinepine mākou e kaʻana like i kēia. No laila, e hele kāua i laila.

Ma Pepeluali 24, 2012, aia au i ka haukapila, e lawe ana i kaʻu kaikamahine hānau hou i ka mālamalama o ke ola ma mua ona. I kekahi mau pule ma hope mai, i koʻu hoʻi ʻana i kaʻu hana ma ke ʻano he psychologist mua i ka haukapila e lawelawe ana i nā kūpuna, ua ʻike wau i ka lā like, i ka manawa like i hānau ʻia ai kaʻu kaikamahine, aia kekahi o kaʻu mau maʻi i kahi ʻokoʻa ʻokoʻa. o ka haukapila like — ka pauma ʻana o kona ʻōpū ma hope o kona hoʻāʻo ʻana e kinai i ke kukui o ke ola i loko ona iho.

Hilahila wau e ʻae aku i kēia, akā ʻo ka huhū kaʻu hana mua loa. ʻO koʻu manaʻo mua "Pehea e hiki ai iā ia ke hana i kēia iaʻu?!" Ma ke ʻano he psychologist, ʻike wau i ka huhū he uhi pinepine ia no nā manaʻo nāwaliwali. I ka ʻeli ʻana i lalo o koʻu huhū, ua loaʻa iaʻu kahi luawai hohonu o ka makaʻu a me ke kaumaha a me ka nele.

Ke kākau nei wau e pili ana i kaʻu puke i paʻi ʻia iho nei WARRIOR: Pehea e kākoʻo ai i ka poʻe pale iā mākou , he ʻano hui like kēia o nā manaʻo: ua ʻike wau ma mua, ma nā helehelena a me nā maka o kaʻu mau maʻi, ke hele lākou i nā kau ma hope o ka lilo ʻana o kahi hoa hakakā, kahi mea i pakele i ka hoʻouka kaua a ka ʻenemi akā ua hina ʻo ia— i kā lākou lima iho.

I kēia mau kau, ʻo wau nō i kēia manawa, aia kahi ʻōkuhi o ka huhū mua e ʻōpala a puni ka lumi, me ka pahuhopu ʻole. A ma lalo pono o kēia huhū, aia ka makaʻu a me ke kaumaha a me ka nele. E like me aʻu, ua nīnau lākou i nā nīnau me ka maopopo ʻole o nā pane, nā nīnau pāhaina like ʻole e like me:

"He aha ka manaʻo e pili ana iaʻu a me kā mākou pilina i haʻi ʻole mai ai iaʻu i ka nui o kona ʻeha?"

“No ke aha ʻo ia i hilinaʻi ʻole ai iaʻu me kēia? ʻAʻole anei ʻo ia i ʻike ua hoʻokuʻu wau i nā mea āpau a kau i ka mokulele aʻe inā ua hilinaʻi wale ʻo ia iaʻu me kēia? ”

"Inā hiki i kekahi mea ikaika ke make i ka pepehi kanaka, he aha ka manaʻo noʻu?"

Ma waho aʻe o ka makaʻu, aia nā manaʻo kānalua e pili ana i nā mea e like me: ’Inā ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke ʻike i kēia hiki ʻana mai, no laila he aha ke ʻano o kēia no nā poʻe ʻē aʻe i nalo iaʻu? He aha hou aʻe kaʻu mea e nalo nei?

ʻO kēia mau nīnau, kēia ʻehaʻeha, maʻa mau i ka poʻe he nui, aʻo ke kumumanaʻo ka poʻe e mālama nei ka poʻe e hakakā me kēia mau manaʻo ʻeha.

Ma hope o ka make ʻana o kahi mea maʻi, haʻi mai nā kauka iaʻu, no kekahi manawa, paʻakikī pinepine lākou i ka hilinaʻi i kā lākou instic clinical. Hiki iā lākou ke ʻike i ka hypervigilance kiʻekiʻe e pili ana i ka nalo ʻana o kekahi mea maʻi.

Hoʻomaopopo pinepine nā papa hana hoʻomalu i ke aʻo ʻana i ka poʻe e ʻike i nā ʻōuli o ke ola. Me he mea lā e paʻa mākou i ka manaʻo e ʻike ʻia nā hōʻailona.

No mākou o ka nānā ʻana i ka lāʻau lapaʻau e mālama nei i nā lālā lawelawe, nā koa kūpuna a me nā mea pane mua, ʻo ka mea aʻu e poina nei i kekahi manawa ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o nā koa o ko mākou lāhui i ka hūnā ʻana i ko lākou ʻeha. ʻAʻole au e ʻōlelo ʻana he maikaʻi ʻole ke hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻia i ka ʻike ʻana i nā hōʻailona. Maikaʻi ke ʻike i nā hōʻailona — akā he mea nui nō e kaulike i kēia me ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana ʻaʻohe mea i ʻike i ka ʻike X-ray psychological.

A ʻaʻole kūpono ke kau kaomi i nā alakaʻi — a i ʻole nā ​​kauka lāʻau lapaʻau — e heluhelu ma waena o nā laina me he mea lā he ʻeono o lākou manaʻo. ʻO ka hapalua ʻē aʻe o ka hoʻohālikelike kēia: Pono pū mākou e pale i ka pale o ka stigma a me ka hilahila a hoʻonohonoho i kahi moʻomeheu kahi e manaʻo ai ka poʻe e palekana lākou e ʻōlelo "ʻAʻole wau maikaʻi."

ʻO ka hoʻāʻo pepehi kanaka o ke koa, luina, kai, airman, a i ʻole kahi mea maʻi maʻi i ka pepehi kanaka ʻaʻole lawa ia e like me ka hōʻike o ka hoʻokō ʻole o kā mākou kuleana. ʻO ke kuleana no nā mea ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke kāohi ke kumu wale i ka ʻeha i hana ʻole ʻole ʻia. Inā hoʻohuli ka poʻe i kēia ʻeha i ka lawehala a i ʻole ke ʻano a lākou i "hana" ai i kahi mea ʻē aʻe, a laila hiki i kēia ke hoʻokau iā lākou i kahi makaʻu kiʻekiʻe no nā hopena maikaʻi ʻole iā lākou iho.

ʻAʻole lawa ka ʻike ʻana i nā hōʻailona; Aia nō ke kuleana iā mākou ke ʻeha mākou e hele i kēlā laina o ka makaʻu a haʻi i ka poʻe a mākou e aloha ai a hilinaʻi hoʻi e pono iā lākou. I kēlā me kēia pilina, ʻoiai ma ka pilina pili kino, ʻo ke hilinaʻi kahi ala ʻelua ala.