E hoʻolohe i kou ʻohana me ka ʻōlelo aʻo ʻole a i ʻole ka loiloi

“Ke noi aku nei au iā ʻoe ʻaʻole e hāʻawi kekahi ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo i kekahi lālā o kou ʻohana no ka mahina e hiki mai ana a lana ka manaʻo no ka wā pau ʻole. ʻo kāu mau keiki paha. ”

ʻO kēia ke kumu o ka hoʻokumu ʻana i ka hoʻoikaika ʻana o ka ʻohana hana, keu hoʻi me nā mea e pili ana i kahi lālā e ʻeha nei i ka ʻeha mau.

Luhi ka ʻehaʻeha i nā ʻohana weliweli. Poina pinepine ka poʻe ʻeha i ke ʻano o ka leʻaleʻa. Kūleʻa lākou e lilo i kaʻawale kaiaulu a hoʻi i hope, ʻoiai i loko o ko lākou home ponoʻī. ʻO ka hapa nui o nā kikowaena kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka ʻeha a me ka mālama olakino. Luhi a hoʻonāukiuki hoʻi ia no ka mea liʻiliʻi hiki ke hana e hoʻonā i ka pilikia. Hoʻohui ʻia, maʻamau ia no ka poʻe maʻi e lash me ko lākou ʻohana ka pahuhopu kokoke loa. ʻO kahi huaʻōlelo i hoʻohana ʻia e wehewehe i ka huhū e pili ana i ka hei ʻana o ka ʻeha he "huhū." (1)

Pahele

Akā i kēia manawa ua paʻa ka ʻohana holoʻokoʻa. ʻIke koke ʻia nā hanana i loko o nā kipa ʻelua. No laila, nīnau wau iā lākou i kahi nīnau maʻalahi, "Makemake ʻoe i kou ʻohana?" ʻO ka pane mau, "ʻOiaʻiʻo!" ʻO ke kumu o ka pilikia ʻo ia ka maʻamau i lilo i maʻamau i loko o ka ʻohana a ʻaʻole hiki iā lākou ke ʻike i nā hopena o ko lākou ʻeha i kēlā poʻe a puni lākou. ʻO ke kumu o ka pilina kanaka ke ʻike nei i nā pono o haʻi ʻē aʻe mai kā lākou kuanaʻike. ʻO ke kumu o ka hōʻino ka ʻike ʻole. Hoʻopau ka huhū i ka ʻike.

A laila nīnau wau, "Inā nui kou ʻohana iā ʻoe, no ke aha ʻoe e ʻae ai iā ʻoe iho e huhū loa me lākou? E ʻū aʻe paha ʻoe i ka malihini i ke ʻano o kāu kamaʻilio ʻana me kou ʻohana? ” ʻAʻole nō. "A laila no ke aha ʻoe e mālama ai i kou ʻohana, ka mea āu e mālama nui ai, ma mua o kahi mea āu e pili ʻole ai?"

Nā hana home

Ma hope o kahi kamaʻilio pōkole, hāʻawi wau i kahi haʻawina home. Makemake wau iā lākou e nīnau pākahi i kēlā me kēia lālā o ka ʻohana pehea ke ʻano o ia nona ke ʻike ʻia ko lākou huhū. A laila noi wau iā lākou e noʻonoʻo, "Pehea kou manaʻo ke huhū ʻoe?" No ke aha ʻoe e makemake ai e ʻike lākou iā ʻoe i kēlā mokuʻāina? " ʻAʻole nani ka huhū a ʻaʻohe ou ʻē aʻe.

Pehea ʻoe e manaʻo ai i kou ʻohana ke lohe lākou i kou mau wāwae wāwae i ka puka mua? Hauʻoli paha lākou a makaʻu paha iā ia? Mālama paha lākou a ʻike lākou i ke ʻano o kou ʻano? He aha kāu e makemake ai e manaʻo lākou? Ua hauʻoli ʻoe i ka pāʻani ʻana me kou ʻohana? Ehia mau manawa e hana ai ʻoe? Hiki iā ʻoe ke pāʻani maoli inā ʻaʻole ʻoe i kahi ʻano maikaʻi? ʻO kou ʻohana kahi puʻuhonua o ka palekana a me ka hauʻoli?

ʻO wai ke kanaka makua?

Ua lawe ʻia wau i hope i kekahi mau makahiki i hala aku nei i ke kamaʻilio ʻana me kahi mea maʻi muscular nui. He mea hoʻoweliweli wale ia i loko o ka lumi me ia. He kanaka kālepa kiʻekiʻe ʻo ia i ʻeha i ka ʻāʻī mau o ka ʻāʻī no nā makahiki. Ua noi wau iā ia inā ua huhū paha ʻo ia? Ua ʻōlelo mua ʻaʻole ʻo ia a laila ʻae ʻo ia i kekahi manawa. Ua lilo ia i hanana i kēlā me kēia lā a hana ʻia i mau manawa i ka lā. Ua nīnau au iā ia, "ʻO wai ka pahuhopu o kou huhū?" Pane maila ʻo ia, "E kuʻu kaikamahine." Ua nīnau au iā ia i kona mau makahiki, a ua ʻōlelo ʻo ia, “He ʻumi.”

Ua pīhoihoi au no ka mea ʻo ke kia o ka huhū ka hoa. Ua nīnau wau iā ia, "ʻO wai ke kanaka makua i kēia hanana a pehea kou manaʻo ʻo ia ke kumu o kou huhū?" ʻAʻole ʻo ia i noʻonoʻo i kēlā kihi - akā ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke hoʻokuʻu i ka nui o kāna mea e hoʻonāukiuki nei iā ia.

ʻIke

ʻO ka ʻāpana ʻelua o ka hana home makemake wau iā ia e hoʻomaʻamaʻa i ka ʻike e hoʻomaka pono ke hele lākou i waho o ka puka o kaʻu keʻena. ʻO ka hana, ʻaʻole lākou e hāʻawi i kahi ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo i kā lākou hoa a i ʻole nā ​​keiki a hiki i ka wā e kipa hou ai. ʻAʻohe, ke noi ʻole ʻia.

Nīnau pū wau iā lākou e noʻonoʻo i kekahi o kēia. "Ehia mau manawa e hāʻawi ai i nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo i noi ʻole ʻia? ʻIke paha ʻoe ke haʻi maoli nei ʻoe iā lākou ʻaʻole lawa lākou i ke ʻano o lākou? Kūpono nui paha ʻoe? He ʻoluʻolu a mahalo paha ʻoe i ka hoʻohewa ʻia? Pehea ʻoe e hana ai? Pehea ʻoe e manaʻo ai e hana lākou? ”

Nā Kuki

ʻIke ʻia ʻo ka ʻohana kekahi o nā kumu nui i ka hoʻolaha ʻana i ka ʻeha a me ka hopohopo. ʻO kekahi o nā ʻaoʻao kekeʻe loa o ke kūlana kanaka ʻo ia ka lāhui i ola i hana pēlā no ka mea ua aʻo lākou e hana pū me nā kānaka ʻē aʻe.

Hohonu ka pono no ka pilina kanaka a ʻoi aku ka hohonu o ka ʻoi aku - koe wale nō nā mea hoʻonāukiuki e hoʻokau iā ʻoe. No laila, ʻo ka wahi palekana loa a paʻa i kou home ka mea weliweli loa.

ʻAʻole ʻoe e palekana no ka mea ua kumakaia kou kino iā ʻoe a ʻeha mau ʻia ʻoe e ka ʻeha. A laila, pāʻani i kou home a ʻaʻohe mea e palekana.

ʻO kēia anei kāu i manaʻo ai i kou hui pū ʻana me kāu hoa a pīhoihoi e pili ana i ke kūkulu pū ʻana i kahi wā e hiki mai ana? He aha i hana ai? He aha kāu e hana ai? He koho kāu a ʻo ka ʻanuʻu mua ke lilo i ka ʻike i ka hohonu o ka pilikia.

Hoʻomaka ka hoʻōla ma ka home

ʻOiai inā manaʻo ʻoe ʻaʻole pilikia kāu ʻohana, e ʻaʻa wau iā ʻoe e nīnau mau i kou ʻohana i nā nīnau i ʻōlelo ʻia aʻe nei. Kūleʻa kēia mau pilikia, a kahaha ʻoe a kuʻi i ka pane. ʻO ka nūhou maikaʻi me ka lilo ʻana i ʻike hou aʻe, hiki i ka nohona ʻohana ke hoʻomaikaʻi wikiwiki. Ua hauʻoli mākou i ka wikiwiki a me ka hohonu o nā loli. Lana ka manaʻo i ka ʻohana holoʻokoʻa.

ʻO kēia kahi moʻolelo i hoʻouna ʻia mai iaʻu e kekahi o kaʻu mau maʻi i ka lā makuahine.

Eia kekahi mau puke ʻelua aʻu i ʻōlelo pinepine ai e pili ana i ka makua a me ka hoʻomaikaʻi ʻana i kou pilina me kāu hoa. Ua loaʻa iā lāua ʻelua ka hopena koʻikoʻi a hoʻohaʻahaʻa i kaʻu mau pilina me koʻu ʻohana. Ke nānā nei wau i koʻu ʻike me ka ʻeha, weliweli loa ia i ka ʻike ʻana i kaʻu ʻimi pau ʻole e loaʻa kahi lāʻau no kuʻu ʻeha i hoʻopilikia ʻia me kaʻu mau pilina ma loko a ma waho hoʻi o ka home.

"ʻO ke ala maʻamau a me ka mana e hoʻohui i kahi kanaka ʻē aʻe e hoʻolohe. Hoʻolohe wale. ʻO ka mea nui paha a mākou e hāʻawi aku ai i kekahi i kekahi ke nānā aku. ~ ʻO Rachel Naomi Remen

• ʻO Gordon, Thomas. Hoʻomaʻamaʻa Pono makua. Three Rivers Press, NY, NY, 1970, 1975, 2000.
• Burns, ʻo David. Manaʻo maikaʻi pū. Broadway Books, NY, NY, 2008.