Aloha (a i ʻole Kekahi mea) ma ka ʻike mua

Ehia mau manawa āu i heluhelu ai a i lohe ai paha i nā moʻolelo o ka poʻe i ʻōlelo "Ua ʻike wau i ka ʻike mua ʻo ia kēia The One?" I nā manawa he nui ua pololei nō hoʻi lākou, no ka mea he ʻōlelo kēia mai kahi kāne ma kā lāua male male ʻana a male paha i male he 50 mau makahiki. ʻIke pinepine wau a hoʻopiʻi ʻia wau e kēlā ʻano ʻōlelo. ʻO ka moʻolelo Revisionist paha.

Ua ʻike au i kekahi o kēia mau mea i ka puke pai ʻo N.Y. Times i kēia pule. Ke kamaʻilio nei kahi wahine i kanaona kanaono mau makahiki e pili ana i ka manawa mua i ʻike ai ʻo ia i ke kāne āna i male hope ai. ʻAʻole lākou ʻōpio i ko lākou wā ʻōpio. "I kēia manawa," ua ʻōlelo wau iaʻu iho, "pehea lā e hiki ai iā ia ke ʻike i kēlā mea?"

Hōʻike kekahi mau wehewehe iā lākou iho: ua kamaʻāina ke kāne no ka mea ua hoʻomanaʻo ʻo ia iā ia i kona mau kaikunāne a makua kāne paha, ua ʻumeʻume ʻia ʻo ia iā ia (ʻala, kani leo, a me nā mea ʻē aʻe), ʻoiai he ʻōpio, ua ʻumeʻume ʻia ʻo ia me ka ʻike ʻole paha. he aha kēlā. A ʻo ka mea liʻiliʻi loa paha, ua ʻike ʻo ia iā ia ʻo kāna ʻuhane (mai kahi ola ma mua? He leo i loko o kāna pepeiao? E ka ʻōlelo hoʻoholo a Fate?)

ʻIke maikaʻi wau i nā mea hoʻonāukiuki. Makemake maoli kekahi mau wahine i nā kāne loloa, ʻoi aku ka ʻoi o ka ʻoi, a ʻo ia ke kumu āu e ʻike ai i nā wahine wahine he 5 a ʻoi paha me nā mea pāʻani kinipōpō e hele haʻaheo nei ʻoiai ke kamaʻilio pū nei me kāna lua lima. Makemake nā kāne he nui i ke kiʻi o ka wahine - liʻiliʻi kēia a me nā mea nui, a me nā mea āpau - a ʻike mākou ʻaʻole e mau ana kēia i ke ola holoʻokoʻa. Ma hope koke e lilo ka mea me ke kiʻi nani iā ​​ia i ka wā hānau a i ʻole ka makahiki maʻalahi a luhi paha ka wahine liʻiliʻi i ka pīhoihoi o 2 mau kapuaʻi ʻoi aku ka pōkole ma mua o kāna hoa.

ʻO kahi kūpono ʻē aʻe, ʻoiai e mae ana ka ʻumeume mua, e ulu lākou i ke aloha kekahi i kekahi a like pū kekahi, e ʻae kekahi i kekahi no ka mea maoli i loko. Lana ka manaʻo iā mākou i kahi pili lōʻihi. Manaʻo wau, ʻaʻole hiki aloha ʻo kekahi i ka ʻike mua ʻana. Pono ʻoe e ʻike pehea e kani ai nā leo ʻē aʻe a me nā pilau, pehea ka hopena o ke koʻikoʻi, a pehea hoʻi e launa ai me ko lākou ʻohana, ma mua o ka hoʻoholo ʻana e pili ana i ke aloha a male paha.

Hoʻomaopopo pinepine wau i ka poʻe e hālāwai me Online a "aloha" ma o kā lākou leka ʻana ʻaʻole hiki iā lākou ke ʻike i kēia. Pono maoli kekahi e "kiʻi i ka manaʻo", ʻoiaʻiʻo, o kekahi kanaka ma mua o ka hoʻoholo ʻana i kekahi mea lōʻihi. Eia maʻaneʻi maʻAmelika Hui Pū ʻIa kahi e manaʻo ai ka hapanui o nā poʻe i ke aloha ma mua o ka male ʻana a ʻaʻole e lana ka manaʻo e ulu kekahi i kekahi i loko o nā makahiki e like me nā match i hoʻonohonoho ʻia. Kaukaʻi nui ʻia i ka mea a me ka moʻomeheu o ke kanaka.

No laila, aia ke aloha i ka ʻike mua? Kānalua loa wau ia. Hiki i kekahi ke "ʻike" ʻo kēia ʻo The One? Malia paha, inā ma ka ʻumeʻume, koho a subliminal paha ke koho a kekahi o kāu hoa. Hiki i ke kanaka ke ʻike i kahi “ʻuhane” ma hope o kekahi mau lā o ka hui o kēlā me kēia e ʻike nei i ka like o ka waiwai a me ka manaʻo o ke ola a me ka ʻike ʻana i ke ʻano o ka hui ʻana o kou mau kino, pehea e ʻala ai nā kani ʻē aʻe. E hauʻoli paha ʻoe i mau hoa ola? Inā ʻoe e ʻae, hoʻokipa .... a inā laki ʻoe.