ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi o nā keiki ma mua o kou manaʻo

ʻO ke kuhi manaʻo he keiki wale nō ia a ʻo kona mau mākua ke loaʻa nei kahi manawa ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī no ka lōʻihi o ka lōʻihi ma mua o nā keiki me nā kaikaina. ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ʻo Covid-19 i hana i kahi ʻāina ʻohana hou no nā mea āpau ʻohana. ʻAʻole like nā pilikia, akā aia lākou ma laila.

Ma muli o ka manaʻo ʻae, hiki i nā mākua o kekahi ke lawehala a manaʻo e ʻoluʻolu kā lākou keiki inā he kaikaina i loko o ka hale. ʻAe paha, ʻaʻole paha.

Inā he makua ʻoe na kahi keiki kamakahi, e hauʻoli ʻoe no ka mea ʻaʻole ʻoe e hoʻoponopono i nā paio, e hoʻonāukiuki ana i nā ʻoniʻoni a i ʻole ka nānā ʻana i nā ʻoluʻolu no ka nānā makua a ʻokoʻa hoʻi o ka makua. Ke luhi nā keiki, e kāhea ʻia nā mākua no ka nui o nā keiki e pāʻani i nā pāʻani a hoʻopiha i nā hakahaka. Lohe wau i nā hoʻopiʻi mai nā keiki me a me ka ʻole o nā kaikaina: ʻAʻole hiki i kā lākou mau hoa ke kipa, pani ʻia ke kula, ʻaʻohe hana extracurricular. ʻLelo lākou iaʻu ʻaʻohe a lākou mea e hana ai.

ʻO nā keiki wale nō ka mea i lilo i ka manawa ʻoi aku ka nui a maikaʻi loa ka hapa nui i ka hoʻohana ʻana i ka manawa hou i hoʻokumu ʻia e ka mamao kaiaulu. ʻAʻole pili iki ke kūlana kaikaina me ka hiki i ke keiki ke hoʻokipa iā ia iho. Me a me ka ʻole o nā kaikaina, pono i kahi keiki iā ʻoe e orchestrate i kona manawa; hiki i kekahi mea kūʻokoʻa, hiki ke leʻaleʻa iā ia iho a ʻoluʻolu loa i waiho ʻia i kāna hāmeʻa ponoʻī.

Hoʻopiha i nā hakahaka

Manaʻo pinepine nā mākua o nā keiki wale nō e pono lākou e lilo i mea e hoʻopiha i ka manawa o kā lākou keiki e hōʻalo i kā lākou keiki i ke ʻano mehameha a me ka luʻuluʻu paha. Waiho ʻia i kā lākou pono ponoʻī a me ka ʻole o ka hoʻokomo mau o nā mākua, lilo nā keiki i mea maikaʻi i ka hoʻohana ʻana i ka manawa keu i loaʻa iā lākou. Ke hopohopo ʻoe e luʻuluʻu a mehameha paha kāu keiki me ka ʻole o kahi kaikaina e hana ma ke ʻano he hoa pāʻani, e noʻonoʻo i ka mea nui a me ka pono i luna o ka manawa hoʻokahi.

Mālama ia i ka noʻonoʻo, a ʻo ka mea nui loa, paipai i ke kūʻokoʻa o kahi keiki a me ka hiki iā ia ke hoʻokipa iā ia iho — he kōkua pū kekahi i ka ulu ʻana o ke keiki. I loko o kāna puke, Bored and Brilliant: Pehea e wehe ai i kahi e hiki ai ke wehe i kāu huahana ponoʻī a me ka hana pilikino, Ua wehewehe ʻo Manuoush Zomorodi, "Alakaʻi ʻo Boredom i kona hoahānau pili, auwana noʻonoʻo ... ʻO ka haʻalele ʻana i ka noʻonoʻo i ke ala nui o ka hana a me ka hana."

Hoʻohui, hoʻohui, hoʻohui

E ʻae e pili ana i nā pili pūnaewele. Inā ʻōhumu kāu keiki wale nō, e hoʻomaopopo i kāna luhi, e empathic no laila ʻike ʻo ia e lohe ʻoe iā ia, me ka hoʻomanaʻo ʻana i kahi punaewele ka punaewele no ka hapanui o nā keiki a kōkua nui no nā keiki wale nō e pili ana ka noho kaʻawale ʻana o ka nohona. ʻO nā mākua i hoʻopaʻa ʻia i nā palena no ke kiʻi ʻana i ka pūnaewele i nā hoaaloha makemake lākou e ʻae i ka hoʻonui ʻana i ka manawa pūnaewele ma ke ʻano he mea pili i kā lākou mau hoa.

ʻO kahi aʻo ʻana i nā keiki ʻōpio a me kā lākou manawa nānā pūnaewele, alakaʻi ʻia e Douglas Downey, polofesa o ka sociology ma ke Kulanui ʻo Ohio State, hōʻike iki a i ʻole hopena iki i nā mākau pilikanaka o nā keiki. Ua aʻo nā kānaka noiʻi ma mua o 30,000 kindergarten ma o nā haumāna papa 5 e hoʻohana ana i nā loiloi kumu a me nā mākua a loaʻa, "I ka ʻano o nā hoʻohālikelike a mākou i hana ai, noho like paha nā mākau pilikanaka a i ʻole piʻi piʻi haʻahaʻa."

Aia nā koho pilina pau ʻole a ʻike paha kāu keiki iā lākou. ʻO kahi laʻana, aia ka Pigeon Game — he polokalamu iPad a iPhone paha me 20 mau pāʻani multiplayer ʻokoʻa mai nā kaha a me ke kūpeʻe i ke kinipōpō hīnaʻi, nā kakaka a me nā kolepa liʻiliʻi.

Hana nā kamaliʻi a me nā ʻōpio ʻōpio i ka mea a lākou e hana mau ai — hoʻohui i ka pūnaewele a ma o nā polokalamu like ʻole a me kā lākou kelepona. Inā ʻoe i nānā i nā keiki ma kā lākou mau kelepono ke noho pū lākou i ka ʻaoʻao a ʻaoʻao i ka lumi like, ua ʻike paha ʻoe ʻaʻole lākou e launa pū ma mua o ka paʻi ʻana i nā ʻatikala. Hoʻopiha ka mea āpau i ka manawa, mālama i nā hoa aloha a kōkua i ka mālama ʻana i kāu keiki a ʻaʻole kaukaʻi ʻia i ka makaʻu o ka coronavirus a me nā hopohopo i ʻike ʻole ʻia i ka nūhou.

E hoʻokuʻu i kou maka maka

I kekahi ʻano, ua maʻa ke keiki wale nō i ka nānā nui ʻana iā ia a ʻo ia mea wale nō e maʻalahi ai ka noho ʻana ma kahi kokoke 24/7. Eia nō naʻe, inā ʻaʻole makemake kāu keiki wale nō ke lilo i kikowaena o ka nānā ma mua o ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa ʻana i ka pilikanaka, makemake paha ʻo ia e emi iki ana i kēia manawa.

ʻAe ka nui o nā mākua o nā keiki wale nō i ka hana ʻana i nā mea he nui i hiki i kahi keiki wale nō ke hana. ʻO ka mamao aku ka nohona ka manawa kūpono e huki ai a hāʻawi i kāu keiki i ke kuleana hou aʻe. E hoʻokau i kahi ʻelemakule wale nō e mālama i ka holoi lole a i ʻole ka hana ʻana i ka ʻaina awakea i kekahi mau lā o ka pule a i ʻole ka holo ʻana. E kahaha paha ʻoe i ka wikiwiki o ke keiki — ʻoiai ka mea hoʻopiʻi - hoʻomaka e ʻoluʻolu e hāʻawi i ka ʻohana. Mālama ʻo Pitching i kahi mea hoʻomanaʻo i ʻohana kāu keiki a ʻaʻole pono ia ke kikowaena o ka nānā i nā manawa āpau.

Hoʻolahalaha i ko Ke Ao Kamaliʻi

Inā ʻaʻole āu pēpē a keiki ʻē aʻe, e hoʻomanaʻo kāu keiki i kahi pale. Paipai i ke aloha a hoʻopaʻa i nā pilina i ka ʻohana a me nā hoa aloha. Hana i kahi hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻana i nā kamaʻilio wikiō a i ʻole nā ​​kelepona ʻana o FaceTime me nā kūpuna, nā ʻanakē, nā ʻanakala a me nā hoahānau o kāu keiki. Kōkua kēia i mea e hoʻomanaʻo ai i kahi keiki wale nō o kāna pūnaewele kākoʻo ākea a hiki ke hoʻokokoke iā ia i nā lālā o ka ʻohana ma ʻō aku o ʻoe.

Hana manawaleʻa i nā ala e hoʻopili ai i kāu keiki. Kūʻai no nā hoalauna ʻelemakule a hele pū kāu keiki me ʻoe ke haʻalele ʻoe i nā mea kūʻai mai ma ko lākou mau puka. E kamaʻilio e pili ana i kahi e pono ai nā hāʻawi manawaleʻa a hāʻawi manawaleʻa inā hiki. E noi i kāu mea wale nō e kāhea i kona mau kūpuna a i ʻole i kekahi o ka ʻohana e ʻaʻa nei e ʻike pehea kā lākou hana i kēlā me kēia lā. E piʻi mai me nā ʻōnaehana mālama e noho mau ma kahi lōʻihi ma hope o ka maʻi ahulau.

Kūkulu ma kāu Pili Pili

ʻO nā haʻawina e pili ana i ka makahiki 1978 a ʻoi aku nei nā mea e hōʻike nei he mau keiki wale nō ke kokoke aku i ko lākou mau mākua ma mua o nā keiki me nā kaikaina. E hoʻohana i ka mamao kaiāulu e kūkulu ma luna o kēlā hoʻopaʻa: Hoʻohui i kāu pēke hoʻomanaʻo i kāu keiki ma o ka hoʻomaka ʻana i kahi kuʻuna hou e pili ana i kahi mea a kou ʻohana i hana ʻole ai ma mua - e aʻo e pāʻani i ka chess, ke alahaka, backgammon a i ʻole kekahi pāʻani ʻē aʻe i pāʻani ʻole ai ka makua a me ke keiki paha. E hoʻāʻo i ka hoʻomoʻa ʻana i nā ʻano berena like ʻole a i ʻole e hoʻomaka i kahi papahana hoʻoikaika kino hou e hiki iā ʻoe āpau ke hana.

Ma muli o ka paʻa paʻa o ke keiki makua wale nō, makaʻala nā keiki he nui a makaʻala hoʻi i ka manaʻo a me ke ʻano o ko lākou mau mākua. ʻO ka nele i nā kaikaina e hoʻohuli a hoʻolaha paha i nā hopohopo o nā mākua, e hoʻomanaʻo i ka mālama ʻana i kou koʻikoʻi a me kou hopohopo i mea e hōʻalo ai i kāu keiki wale nō e lawe a lawe i nā ukana i kūpono ʻole me kona mau makahiki.

Kuleana kope @ 2020 na Susan Newman

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