Komo hou: He aha e hana ai ke kau ʻole ke ola kahiko?

I ka huakaʻi hele, manaʻo ʻia ke komo hou ʻana he ʻāpana paʻakikī loa o ka lele. Hoʻokahi wale nō manawa kūpono kahi mokulele e pā ai i ka lewa o ka honua i ka huina kūpono. ʻO ke kī pū kekahi: Inā komo wikiwiki kekahi mea, e ʻaʻā nō ia e like me ka meteor. Komo hou nā satellite i ka lewa a hāʻule ma luna.

No nā koa, nā mea hana keaka, nā ʻōlapa kiʻekiʻe, a me nā loea ʻē aʻe i kū i mua i nā ʻike koʻikoʻi ma ke ʻano he ʻāpana o kā lākou papa hana, nā mākau komo hou i mea nui i kā lākou hana, a aʻo lākou i ka wā mua e mālama i nā hoʻololi me ka ʻole o ka pohā. No nā mea i koe o mākou, kahi pilikia e like me ka maʻi maʻi COVID-19 he mea ʻano ʻē ia a mākou e mākaukau ʻole ai, a ke hoʻi nei i ko mākou ola ma hope o ka hiki ke hōʻike i nā pilikia kū hoʻokahi.

ʻOiai ke hoʻomau nei ka maʻi ahulau a puni mākou a hoʻomau no kekahi manawa, ua hoʻonui ka nui o nā ʻāina i nā kapu, me nā hale kūʻai, nā keʻena, a me ka nohona lehulehu e wehe mālie. Ke komo hou nei mākou i kā mākou wahi hana a me nā pilina, me nā mea a mākou i haʻalele ʻole ai, he aha ka wikiwiki a me ke kihi e komo pono ai?

Hiki ke hele a nihi ke ohohia nui o ka "normalcy", a me kēlā me kēia pāʻina pili kaiapili i ka mālamalama o ka noho kaʻawale. Ma hope o kēia mau pilina pili loa me ka make a me nā moena ʻē aʻe ʻē aʻe, haʻalulu mākou, akā ʻaʻole hoʻonāukiuki hou. ʻAʻole pane ʻia nā nīnau kūpono āpau, ʻoiai ʻaʻole emi iki ka hamama, ʻoi aku ka nani, ma mua o ka puka ʻana i kekahi mau pule i hala. Hoʻokahi ka lima hoʻokahi, ʻo ka pilikia kekahi "hopena hopena" nui a ua loaʻa iā mākou kahi kuʻina ākea ākea. Ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, ua hoʻohana mākou i ka hapa nui o nā pilikia i koi ʻia e ʻapo i kahi mea nui hou. ʻO ka ola liʻiliʻi ka mea i aloha ʻia, akā nui ka hapanui o mākou e ʻae i ka nui o ka moe a ke ola ʻuʻuku. A i kēia manawa kū hou mākou, lanakila lanakila no ka maʻi a me ke kaʻawale, a ke eo nei naʻe mākou. ʻO ka hāʻawi ʻana i nā illusions kahiko ʻaʻole ia he mea ʻeha loa, akā e hāʻawi wikiwiki ana i nā manaʻolana hou — ʻeha.

I ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, aia paha he nalu lua o ke kaumaha ke ʻike mākou ʻaʻole mākou e hoʻi i ke ola, akā ka make. ʻO ke "hoʻi i ka maʻamau" ke kumu maoli ia o ka ola maoli o ko mākou monotonous, hana hauʻoli ʻole i hana kaumaha iā mākou i kahi ʻeha lohi ma mua o ka hiki ʻana o ka maʻi ahulau. ʻO ke kanikau kaumaha, kū hoʻokahi o kahi pilikia a i ʻole ke kūmākena pinepine ʻana o nā hālāwai kakahiaka kakahiaka Pōʻakahi weliweli — ke hoʻi mākou i ka hana, paʻakikī paha mākou i ka hoʻoholo ʻana i ka mea ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi.

No laila, aia kekahi mau hana e hiki ke kōkua iā mākou e hele i kēia wahi liminal ma waena o ka wā kahiko a me nā mea hou, ko mākou mea kahiko a hou? Hoʻohālikelike iā mākou i kekahi ʻano "waiwai" ka pilikia?

ʻO ka mea mua, hiki iā mākou ke ʻike i ke alakaʻi kōkua i ka hoʻohui hou ʻana o nā pio. Ma mua o ka hoʻokuʻu ʻia, hoʻokahi hana nui e alakaʻi ai papa helu waiwai : e lawe i kāu waiwai, kāu kumuwaiwai, ka ikaika o ka pilina, a me kāu mākau kahiko a hou, no laila ʻike ʻoe i ka mea hiki iā ʻoe ke lawelawe, a me nā ʻano āu e makemake ai e hōʻalo ma hope pono o ke komo hou ʻana.

Ka lua, ʻike i ka lockdown paha ia he traumatic ka hoao ana a ke ʻeha nei paha ʻoe i ka maʻi ahulau post-traumatic, kahi hopohopo nui e hoʻomau nei me ke kumu ʻole. Kapa i kēlā mau manaʻo a kūkākūkā me lākou me nā hoa a i ʻole nā ​​hoa aloha. Hiki i ka trauma ke hana i kekahi manawa i ka "ulu ma hope o ka traumatic," i ka hopena i hopena i nā pae kiʻekiʻe o ka hoʻomohala ʻana i ke ʻano, e like me ka moʻomeheu Iapana o Kintsugi, ka hoʻoponopono ʻana o nā ipu lepo i wāwahi ʻia. Ma kahi o ka hūnā ʻana i nā māwae, hōʻike ia iā lākou, e hana hou i ka mea i ka manawa like nona ka "mōʻaukala haʻihaʻi," e like me kā ka psychologist ʻo Scott Barry Kaufman i waiho ai i loko o kāna ʻatikala ma "Finding Meaning and Creativity in Adversity." Kuhi ʻo Kaufman i ka noiʻi e hōʻike ana he 61 pākēneka o nā kāne a me 51 pākēneka o nā wahine ma ʻAmelika Hui Pū ʻIa e hōʻike nei ma kahi o hoʻokahi hanana traumatic i ko lākou wā e ola ana, a ke ʻōlelo nei he mea nui ka hiki i ke kanaka ke kūpaʻa. Ua kuhikuhi ʻo Kaufman ʻo kekahi o nā kī i ka ulu ʻana ma hope o ka traumatic ka hiki ke mākaʻikaʻi piha i nā manaʻo makaʻu, nā manaʻo, a me nā ʻano naʻau ma mua o ka pāpā ʻana iā lākou a i ʻole ka "hoʻomalu ʻana iā ʻoe iho." ʻO ka poʻe me nā pae haʻahaʻa o ka mea i kapa ʻia ʻo "hōʻalo experiential" e hōʻike i nā kiʻekiʻe kiʻekiʻe o ka ulu a me ka manaʻo i ke ola.

Ke kolu, hāʻawi i kekahi i kahi makana . Ma ka loaʻa ʻana iā ia, e hōʻoia ka mea ʻē aʻe i kou ʻike a kōkua iā ʻoe e noʻonoʻo hou iā ʻoe iho. ʻO Gifting kahi ala kūpono o ka hoʻoulu hou ʻana i nā pilina me ke kali ʻole i kekahi mea i ka hoʻihoʻi akā ka ʻae. He ala maikaʻi nō hoʻi ia e mālama ai i ka lokomaikaʻi a me ka noʻonoʻo i loaʻa i ka hapanui o mākou i ka wā o ka laka. ʻAʻole ia he mea kupanaha nā hōʻike e like me kā Lee Mingwei "Nā Makana a me nā Ritual" a me ka papahana 1: 1 Concert, kahi e hoʻokani ai kekahi mea hoʻokani pila no ka poʻe e hoʻolohe ana i kēlā me kēia manawa, ua hauʻoli nui i ka wā o ka pilikia. ʻO lāua he mau makana: ka pili a me ka nānā, ʻelua o nā mea waiwai nui kanaka.

ʻO ka hope, kālai a pale i kahi e hoʻomanaʻo ai , no ke aloha ʻana i nā mea hoʻomanaʻo mai ka pilikia a me ka hoʻolōʻihi ʻana me nā ʻano huikau āu e ʻike ai. Hiki i kēia ke lilo i mea noʻonoʻo i kēlā me kēia lā a i ʻole kahi hoʻomaʻamaʻa puke. ʻO kēlā me kēia hana maʻamau, ʻaʻohe mea liʻiliʻi, e kōkua. E ʻike i nā mea āu i aʻo ai i ka wā o ka pilikia āu e makemake ai e lawe i mua, e kākau i lalo, a me ka wili maoli ʻana iā lākou i mea hoʻomanaʻo. E mālama iā lākou i kahi palekana, a ke kūpono ka manawa i kekahi lā, wehe iā lākou a kāhāhā i kou hiki pono ʻole no ka pakele ʻana i kahi ulia pōpilikia akā ua hiki ke hana hou iā ʻoe iho - a komo hou i mua.