Hoʻopakele a mākaukau paha?

ʻO ka hānai ʻana i nā keiki kūpaʻa ka huhū āpau, kahi mea maikaʻi i hāʻawi ʻia i kāna pilina pili loa i ke olakino noʻonoʻo āpau.

I loko o kā lākou puke Ke ulu nei me ke kūpaʻa , nā mea kākau ʻo Tatyana Barankin lāua ʻo Nazilla Khanlou e ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo, Ua aʻo lākou mai ka ʻike o ka hiki ke hoʻokele pono i kahi kūlana, e hoʻomaikaʻi ai iā lākou i nā pilikia a me nā pilikia i nā wā e hiki mai ana ”(Barankin and Khanlou, 2007).

No kāna ʻāpana, Bonnie Benard, M.S.W. , i ʻōlelo ʻia, "Ua hānau ʻia mākou a pau me ka resiliency kūlohelohe, me ka hiki ke hoʻomohala i nā ʻano i ʻike pinepine ʻia i nā mea ola hou: ka mākaukau kaiapili (ka pane ʻana, ka maʻalahi o ka moʻomeheu, ke aloha, ka mālama ʻana, nā mākau kamaʻilio, a me kahi ʻano hoʻomākeʻaka); hoʻoponopono pilikia (hoʻolālā, ʻimi kōkua, noʻonoʻo a me ka noʻonoʻo noʻonoʻo); kū kaʻawale (ʻike i ke ʻano o ka ʻike, ka pono ponoʻī, ka noʻonoʻo ponoʻī, ka hana hana, a me ka mamao adaptive mai nā leka a me nā kūlana maikaʻi ʻole); a me ke ʻano o ke kumu a me ka manaʻo i ka wā e hiki mai ana (alakaʻi pahuhopu, ʻiʻini aʻo, optimism, ka hilinaʻi, a me ka pilina ʻuhane) "(Benard, 2021).

Hiki ke loaʻa nā nūhou hou aʻe i kēia mau lā Puke Pai o Wall Street 'atikala, "ʻOiai ʻo Covid-19 Outbreak Risks, Ke hoʻopihapiha koke nei nā kauwela kauwela," e hōʻike ana i nā hana kūleʻa o nā hoʻomoana kauwela i wehe pono ʻia i ka makahiki 2020 a i ʻole ke kaha palapala ʻāina ʻana i kahi blueprint no 2021.

No laila, he aha ka loulou ma waena o ka hoʻomoana a me ke kūpaʻa? I kāna Makalahala hoʻomoana ʻatikala, "Kōkua nā kahua hoʻomoana i nā keiki e kūpaʻa," Michael Ungar, Ph.D., i ʻōlelo ʻia, "I ka wā e pili ana i ke kūpaʻa, hānai i nā ʻano trumps kūlohelohe. ʻO nā wahi hoʻomoana, e like me nā kula maikaʻi a me nā ʻohana aloha, pale i nā keiki i ka pilikia ma o ka hāʻawi ʻana iā lākou i ka nui o ke koʻikoʻi a me nā kākoʻo e pono ai lākou e aʻo pehea e kū pono ai a me nā ala e adaptive ... "(Ungar, 2012).

Hele ʻo Ungar e helu i ʻehiku mau hanana e pono ai nā keiki.

1. Nā pilina hou, ʻaʻole wale me nā hoa, akā me nā mākua hilinaʻi ʻē aʻe ma mua o nā mākua o nā keiki.
2. Kahi mana ikaika mea e hilinaʻi ai nā keiki i mua o nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, hāʻawi i nā keiki i kahi mea maoli e makemake ai e pili ana iā lākou iho
3. Kōkua nā kahua hoʻomoana i nā keiki haha i ka kaohi o ko lākou ola.
4. Nā kahua hoʻomoana e hōʻoia i nā keiki āpau mālama pono ʻia.
5. Ma kahi hoʻomoana, loaʻa nā keiki ka mea a lākou e pono ai e hoʻomōhala kino.
6. ʻOi aku paha ka maikaʻi o nā mea āpau, hāʻawi nā kahua hoʻomoana i nā keiki i kahi manawa manaʻo e like me lākou.
7. Hiki i nā kahua hoʻomoana ke hāʻawi i nā keiki kahi manaʻo maikaʻi o kā lākou moʻomeheu.

ʻO ka waiwai o ke aʻo ʻana - a me ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa - kūpaʻa ma ke kahua kauwela i hoʻopaʻa ʻia i loko o kahi kamaʻilio a Cameron Gray 16 makahiki i hāʻawi aku i nā poʻe hoʻomoana ʻōpio i kāna kūlana he alakaʻi ʻōpio ma Connecticut's Camp Hazen. Ua kaʻanalike mai ia iaʻu ma Zoom.

Makemake wau e noʻonoʻo ʻoukou a pau i kahi mea maikaʻi, he haʻuki a mākau paha i aʻo ʻia ma kahi hoʻomoana. I kēia manawa, makemake wau e noʻonoʻo i kou mākaukau ma kēlā hana like inā ʻaʻole ʻoe i holomua i ka hoʻāʻo ʻana. Maliʻa paha maikaʻi ʻole, ʻeā?

He aha ka ʻole? ʻĀ, wehewehe ka poʻe iā ia ma ke ʻano he kūleʻa a ʻaʻole lawa maikaʻi paha. Eia naʻe, ʻike wau i ke kūleʻa ʻole ʻana ma ke ʻano he kūleʻa. ʻO kekahi o kaʻu ʻōlelo punahele ʻo "hāʻule i mua." ʻO kēia ka mea i mea e holomua ai, pono ʻoe i nā setbacks.

Makemake wau e hoʻomaʻamaʻa iā ʻoukou āpau i kēia manawa ua maikaʻi ka ʻole a pono e holomua i ke ola. I ko mākou wā ʻōpio a pau, ʻo ka hapa nui inā ʻaʻole nā ​​mākua āpau i pāpā mai iā mākou mai hoʻopili iki i ke kapuahi ke ahi ia. He aha kau hana hou? Ua hoʻopā paha ʻoe iā ia akā, e koho, i kēia manawa ʻike ʻoe ʻaʻole e hoʻopā hou i kahi kapuahi wela.

E ʻae ʻoe iaʻu e hoʻi i ka makahiki hou. E noho ana wau i ka papa mōʻaukala honua e kali nei e hoʻi hou kaʻu hōʻike. Ke noʻonoʻo nei ua hana kupaianaha wau, ua nīnau wau i kaʻu kumu he aha ka helu ʻai ʻoi loa. Ua ʻōlelo ʻo ia 57%. ʻ saidlelo hao wau iaʻu iho, "He aha ka hūpō i loaʻa iā 57%?" Loaʻa iaʻu he 57%. ʻO wau kēlā hūpō. I ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ua lilo kēia pilikia iaʻu i haumana ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi. ʻO kēia kahi laʻana hoʻokahi o ka hoʻoneʻe ʻana o kahi hemahema liʻiliʻi iaʻu i ka kūleʻa.

I kēia manawa no ʻoe, e puka ana paha i Gaga a i ʻole ke heʻe ʻana i ka Hale Alpine e like me ʻoe e piʻi nei i luna. He mea ʻole ke ʻano o ka holomua, ʻaʻohe mea o ke kūlana, aʻo mai nā mea i hewa, a i ka hopena, e ʻike ʻoe i kāu mau pahuhopu.

ʻO kaʻu kiko me kēia mau laʻana a pau e ʻike pono i ka ʻike o ʻoukou āpau i ka holo ʻana i mua e pono ai no ka ulu pilikino.

E haʻi hou wau iā ʻoe i kekahi moʻolelo ʻē aʻe. Ma kahi o ʻelua mahina aku nei, e pāʻani ana au i ke kahua kolu o ka pāʻani kinipōpō hīnaʻi. Kuʻi ka pāpālua i kahi pōpō paakiki paʻakikī iaʻu, lawe i kahi hop maikaʻi ʻole i ia manawa, BOOM. Ke nānā nei wau i ka lani me ke koko ma luna o koʻu alo a me koʻu mau lima. ʻAʻole kūleʻa kēia ʻike akā ʻoi aku ka nui o kahi ʻike aʻo i aʻo iaʻu e mālama mau i koʻu lima ʻākau i ka lawe ʻana i nā pōpō honua.

Eia nō naʻe, ʻaʻole e loaʻa mau kahi ʻike aʻo i ka helehelena me ka baseball. Hiki iā ia ke liʻiliʻi e like me ka ʻōlelo ʻana i kahi mea hewa i ka manawa hewa a me ka loaʻa ʻana o kāu mea i ʻōlelo ai e hōʻino ai i ka pilina āu i pili ai me kēlā kanaka.

ʻO Newsflash, ʻo ka hala ʻole i mua ke ala e hele ai. He mea ʻole ka hopena a he aha kāu papa i loaʻa ai a i ʻole nā ​​hemahema i loaʻa iā ʻoe, e ʻike mau i nā alakaʻi i lilo i alakaʻi nui mai ka maikaʻi ʻole a me nā hewa.

I kēia manawa no ʻoe, he ʻaʻa kaʻu, makemake wau i kēlā me kēia o ʻoukou e aʻo mai kahi kuhi hewa i kēia pule aʻe a e hoʻomanaʻo e holomua i mua.

ʻOiaʻiʻo, aʻo pū nā keiki i ke kūpaʻa ma ka home. ʻO Lizzy Francis, i kāna ʻatikala "ʻO nā keiki kūpaʻa e hele mai nā mākua e hana i kēia mau mea 8," i ʻōlelo ʻo ia, "Ke kamaliʻi ʻoe, he mea pōʻino nā mea āpau. Aia i kāu tīhi palaʻa i ka pala? Ka weliweli. ʻAʻole hiki ke hōʻuluʻulu i kēlā Lego hoʻonohonoho? Hiki keʻehi i luna a i lalo hoʻi. ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻololi i kēia. Eia naʻe ka mea hiki iā ʻoe ke hana, e hoʻomākaukau i kāu keiki me nā ʻenehana e aʻo iā lākou pehea e hoʻi hou ai mai kā lākou mau hakakā o kēlā me kēia lā no laila, ma hope o ke ola, ke kiʻekiʻe nā piko, ʻike lākou i ka mea e hana ai "(Francis, 2018) . Wahi a Francis, hana nā mākua o nā keiki kūpaʻa i nā mea ʻewalu e ukali ana. ʻO lākou:

1. E hakakā nā keiki
2. E ʻae i kā lākou keiki e hōʻole
3. Mai ʻae i ka noʻonoʻo no ka mea i hōʻeha ʻia
4. Hana i nā mea hou aʻe ma mua o ka haʻi ʻana iā lākou e "kū i luna" ke hiki mai nā hakakā
5. Kōkua i kā lākou keiki e aʻo pehea e lepili ai i ko lākou manaʻo a me ka naʻau
6. Hāʻawi i kā lākou keiki i nā pono hana e hōʻoluʻolu iā lākou iho
7. E hōʻoia i kā lākou mau hewa. A laila hoʻoponopono lākou iā lākou
8. Hoʻohui mau i kā lākou keiki ponoʻī i kā lākou pae o ka hana

ʻAʻole paha he mea kupanaha, i kēia au o ke ahulau, ua kuʻi ke kūpaʻa. Hōʻike ka ʻikepili hou mai ka Center for Adolescent Research and Education (CARE) a me Total Brain i ka helu maikaʻi ʻana o nā haumāna o ke kula kiʻekiʻe a me ke koleke ma lalo o ka 50 kenetene no ka kaohi ponoʻī a, ʻoi aku ke kikoʻī, ke kūpaʻa.

ʻO ia ke ʻano koʻikoʻi o nā kuleana o nā hoʻomoana kauwela a me nā mākua ... a me ka wikiwiki.

Ma ka laulima, ʻaʻole pono mākou e hoʻopakele i kā mākou keiki akā e kōkua e hoʻomākaukau iā lākou no ka honua i mua, me nā pilikia a me nā kānalua āpau.

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Benard, B. (1991). Ka hānai kūpono ʻana i nā keiki: nā mea pale i ka ʻohana, ke kula, a me ke kaiāulu. Portland, OR: Ke kikowaena komohana no nā kula manuahi a me nā kaiāulu.

Francis, L. (2018). Hele mai nā keiki kūpaʻa mai nā mākua e hana i kēia mau mea 8. Makua kāne. Nowemapa 26, 2018. https://www.fatherly.com/love-money/build-resilient-kids-prepared-for-life/ (18 Ian. 2021).

Keates, N. (2021). ʻOiai ʻo Covid-19 outbreak nā pilikia, ua hoʻopiha koke nā kahua hoʻomoana kauwela. ʻO ka Puke Pai Wall Street. Ianuali 12, 2021. https://www.wsj.com/articles/deswith-covid-19-outbreak-risks-summer-camps-are-filling-up-quickly-11610470954 (18 Ian. 2021).

Nā limahana ʻo Mayo Clinic. (2020). Resilience: kūkulu i nā mākau e hoʻomanawanui i ka paʻakikī. ʻOkakopa 27, 2020. https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/resilience-training/in-depth/resilience/art-20046311 (18 Ian. 2021).

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