Ke aʻo ʻana i nā keiki e pili ana i ka ʻae ʻae

Me nā moʻolelo he nui o ka hana kolohe i ka pāpāho, ʻae he huaʻōlelo a mākou e lohe nei e pili ana i nā mea hou aku. Eia nō naʻe, e pili ana i ka moekolohe, ua loli ka wehewehe ʻana o ka ʻae. Wahi a Merriam Webster, wehewehe ʻia ka huaʻōlelo e like me ka ʻae no kekahi mea e hana a ʻaelike paha e hana i kekahi mea. ʻOiai ma ke ʻano maʻamau ua aʻo ʻia mākou “ʻaʻole pono no” no ka mea pili i ka moekolohe, aia kahi neʻe i ka ʻae ʻae a ʻo “ʻae ʻo ia hoʻi.” ka hana moekolohe, ʻaʻole ia he ʻano ʻae lākou. Ua hōʻike ʻia ka mea nui o ka ʻae ʻana i ka makahiki i hala aku nei i ka wā i lawe ʻia ai nā hoʻopiʻi no ka hana kolohe kūʻē iā ʻAnsan Ansari no kahi hui kolohe āna i hōʻike ai ma ke ʻano he consensual.

I kēia manawa, "ʻae ʻo ia hoʻi" ua hoʻoholo ʻia ke kānāwai e ʻekolu mau mokuʻāina (Nū, Ioka, Kaleponi, a me Connecticut) a aia i mua o nā ʻahaʻōlelo mokuʻāina ʻē aʻe he nui. Hoʻonohonoho nā kānāwai ʻae ʻae i ke aʻo ʻana i ka ʻae ʻae e like me ka hana maʻamau ma nā pā kula. I Kaleponi, koi ʻia nā kula kiʻekiʻe e aʻo i ka ʻae i loko o nā papa olakino. Eia hou, me ka nānā ʻole i ke kānāwai mokuʻāina, ua lawe nā koleke he nui i nā kulekele ʻae ʻae no kā lākou mau pā kula. ʻO kēia ke kumu inā he wahaheʻe, pili ʻole, noʻonoʻo ʻole, hiamoe, a ʻona paha a kiʻekiʻe paha e hāʻawi i ka ʻae moekolohe, ʻaʻole hiki i nā moekolohe ke hana. ʻOiai ke ʻōlelo nei ke kānāwai e hāʻawi ʻia ka ʻae i nā huaʻōlelo a i ʻole nā ​​hana ʻelua, inā aia kekahi kānalua, a laila e nīnau ke kanaka.

No laila pehea mākou e aʻo ai i ka ʻae ʻana i kā mākou poʻe keiki? ʻOiai he maʻalahi ke noʻonoʻo e aʻo ʻia nā mea e like me ka ʻae ʻana i ke kula a i ʻole ke hōʻea ʻana i ke koleke. ʻO ka ʻae hōʻoia he mea ia e aʻo ai, hoʻohālikelike a kūkākūkā ʻia i loko o ke ola o kāu keiki a ʻaʻole wale i ka wā e hana ai i ka moekolohe a i ʻole hele i ke koleke.

Eia kekahi mau papahana no ke aʻo ʻana i nā keiki e pili ana i ka ʻae ʻana.

1. Ke ʻōpio kāu mau keiki, ʻae i kāu mau keiki e hoʻoholo e pili ana i ka hoʻopā. ʻO ke kumu kēia ʻaʻole e koi aku i nā kikiki a i ʻole nā ​​ʻapo a honi iā ​​lākou me ka noi ʻole ʻana i ka ʻae mua. ʻO ia hoʻi, pono mākou e mahalo i kā lākou hoʻoholo inā ʻōlelo lākou ʻaʻole. ʻOiai e mahalo kā mākou keiki a aloha i nā hoaaloha a me nā ʻohana ma ke ʻano kūpono me ke aloha waha a i ʻole ka lululima ʻana a me ka lima inā ʻaʻole ʻoluʻolu lākou me nā ʻapo a me nā honi e mahalo ʻia kēlā mau makemake.
2. Me nā keiki o ke kula, makemake ʻoe e hana i kā lākou mea koʻikoʻi koʻikoʻi. No laila, hiki iā ʻoe ke hāʻawi iā lākou i nā hanana i kūpono i ka makahiki e pili ana i nā pilikia o ka ʻae (hiki i kēia ke hana i nā hanana a i ʻole nā ​​hanana mai TV a i ʻole nā ​​moʻolelo nūhou) a nīnau iā lākou pehea lākou e mālama ai i kēlā mau hanana a me nā mea a lākou e hana ai. Makemake ʻoe e nīnau iā lākou i nā nīnau hāmama i hiki iā lākou ke noʻonoʻo i nā ʻano āpau o ke kūlana. A laila aʻo kēia iā lākou pehea e loiloi ai i nā kūlana no lākou iho i ka wā e hiki mai ana.
3. Me nā ʻōpio, makemake ʻoe e kamaʻilio pū me lākou e pili ana i nā pilina olakino - a pehea ke ʻano o kēlā mau mea. Makemake pū ʻoe e hoʻohālikelike i kēlā mau hana no lākou i kāu mau pili ponoʻī. Inā ua hana hewa ʻoe, e kamaʻilio me kāu poʻe ʻōpio e pili ana iā lākou a haʻi iā lākou i kāu mea i aʻo ai. Ke hoʻomaka nei nā ʻōpio e lilo i ka moekolohe pono ʻoe e loiloi i ka mea e ʻae ai a me ka pehea e noi ai no ka ʻae ʻae mai kā lākou mau hoa.
4. Ke kamaʻilio pū nei me nā ʻōpio a me nā ʻōpio ʻōpio e hoʻokūkala pū i ka ʻae ʻana o ka ʻae - ʻo ia hoʻi ka mea hiki ke loli ma ke ʻano o ka hui kolohe. ʻO kahi laʻana, ʻoiai e ʻōlelo ana kahi hoa i ka hoʻokomo ʻana i ka foreplay ʻaʻole ia he manaʻo ua ʻae lākou i ka moekolohe. Eia hou, ʻoiai inā ua hāʻawi ʻia ka ʻae, hiki i kekahi kanaka ke kāpae i kā lākou ʻae i ka wā o ka hālāwai. Ke huki ʻia ka ʻae, pono e hoʻopau koke ka pili kolohe.
5. ʻO ka mea hope loa, e aʻo i kāu ʻōpio a i ʻole ʻōpio makua e pili ana i ka noho maʻa ma mua. Aia paha kekahi mau manawa ke hōʻike a lohe paha lākou i ke kūkā kamaʻilio ʻana no ka moekolohe pili ʻole non-consensual. Aia kekahi hōʻike e aʻo ana i nā haumāna o ke kula kiʻekiʻe a me ke kula nui e lilo i poʻe kū maʻa - ke ʻano o ko lākou piʻi ʻana, ʻōlelo a komo - hiki ke pale i ka hōʻeha kolohe. Hoʻomaʻamaʻa nā papahana bystander e like me Green Dot i kēlā me kēia kanaka pehea e hana ai i ka pololei a i ʻole ka wā ʻole a lākou e hōʻike ai a lohe ai paha e pili ana i ka moekolohe male ʻole. ʻO nā pā kula nui he nui a ʻo kekahi mau kula kiʻekiʻe a me nā kula waena e hoʻohana nei i kēia ʻano papahana. Hiki i nā mākua ke aʻo e pili ana i kēia ʻano papahana a hoʻoikaika i nā hoʻolālā a lākou e aʻo ai me kā lākou keiki.