ʻO Art of Humility

I ka nānā mua ʻana, ʻaʻole haʻahaʻa ke kani o ke kauoha haʻahaʻa. Me he mea lā e hakakā nei me kā mākou valorization o ka hilinaʻi iā ia iho a me ka waiwai ponoʻī, a me ke kūʻē i nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo hoʻomohala pilikino āpau e hoʻolauleʻa ai mākou i kā mākou mau mea i loaʻa a haʻaheo iā mākou iho. Akā ʻaʻole ka manaʻo akahai me ka akahai, ʻaʻole like ia me ka nāwaliwali. ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻohe pili o kēia mana kahiko me ka lawe ʻana i ka noʻonoʻo hana hoʻohaʻahaʻa a hoʻolohe ʻole a ʻaʻole e kuhihewa wale ʻia no ka hilinaʻi iā ʻoe iho. Akā, ʻo ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa kahi ʻano akahai ʻuhane i hoʻomaka ʻia e ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i ko mākou wahi i ke ʻano o nā mea.

Hiki iā mākou ke hoʻomaʻamaʻa iā ia ma ka lawe ʻana i kahi ʻanuʻu i hope mai kā mākou mau makemake a makaʻu, a me ka nānā ʻana i waho i kēlā ao nui a mākou e ʻāpana. Pili ia i ka hoʻololi ʻana i kā mākou kuanaʻike a ʻike i kā mākou nui palena ʻole i kēlā kiʻi nui aʻe. ʻO ka manaʻo ia e hemo i waho o kā mākou huʻa a hoʻomaopopo iā mākou iho ma ke ʻano he lālā o kahi kaiāulu, kahi manawa mōʻaukala, a i ʻole kekahi ʻano laha hewa loa. ʻO ka mea hope loa, e like me kā Socrates i ʻike maopopo ai, pili ia i ka ʻike ʻana i ka nui o kā mākou ʻike ʻole a me ka ʻae ʻana i ko mākou wahi makapō.

Eia ke kumu e noʻonoʻo ai kākou āpau i ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa.

1. He nui nā mea kākau, ka wā i hala a me kēia manawa, i noʻonoʻo i ka haʻahaʻa, me Confucius. Ua manaʻoʻiʻo ka mea akeakamai Kina kahiko ʻo ka ʻike ʻana i ko mākou wahi i ka honua kaiaulu nui aku, a me ka hoʻolohe ʻana i nā hana kaiaulu a me nā kuʻuna, ʻo ia ka panacea i nā ʻino o kona wā. I loko o kāna akeakamai, ko mākou mau pono a me ko mākou mau makemake āpau i nā mea i manaʻo ʻia he maikaʻi loa no ke kaiāulu. ʻO ke ʻano Confucian o ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa he pro-social social i loko o ka ʻuhane, e waiwai ana i ka maikaʻi o ka nohona ma mua o ka ʻoluʻolu o kā mākou mau makemake pilikino a me nā makemake. I kēia palapala, hiki i ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa ke hoʻonui loa i ka pilina o ka nohona a me ko mākou ʻano o ka lilo.
2. ʻO ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa kekahi waiwai nui i ka hoʻomana Kalikiano, kahi e lawe ai i ke ʻano o ka haʻalele ʻana iā ʻoe iho a me ka waiho ʻana i ka makemake o ke Akua. ʻOiai ka mana Kalikiano o ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa - pili, e like me ia, me ka hewa, ka hilahila, ka hewa, a me ka pono ʻole - ʻaʻole paha e like me ka ʻono o kēlā me kēia, aia nō kekahi mea nui e aʻo ʻia mai nā theologians. Aʻo lākou iā mākou e pale i ka haʻaheo a me ka hoʻokano, e ʻike iā mākou iho ma ke ʻano he ʻāpana i mamao loa mai ka maikaʻi, a e hoʻomanaʻo iā mākou iho i ka palena o ka hana a mākou e hana ai i ka hopena o ke kanaka holoʻokoʻa.
3. Nui nā mea a mākou e aʻo ai, ʻaʻole wale mai kekahi a me kekahi ʻano ʻē aʻe. Inā hiki iā mākou ke ola hou aʻe e like me nā mea kanu, no ka laʻana, ʻike paha mākou pehea e kūlike ai me ke kūlohelohe a me ka ʻimi hōʻoki ʻole e hoʻohana i kāna kumuwaiwai. Hiki i nā holoholona ke lilo i mau kumu naʻauao. Inā hiki iā mākou ke ola hou aʻe e like me nā pōpoki - Zen-masters āpau - hiki iā mākou ke aʻo i ka pono a me ka mālama ʻana iā mākou iho ma luna o ka hana pau ʻole, a hoʻōki i kā mākou ʻimi lapuwale no ka nānā a me ka ʻae ʻia. Inā hiki iā mākou ke ola hou e like me nā ʻīlio hae, hiki iā mākou ke aʻo i kahi haʻawina ʻelua a ʻelua paha e pili ana i ka intuition, kūpaʻa, a me ka waiwai o ka pāʻani. (E nānā iā Pinkola-Estes 1992 a me Radinger 2017.)
4. ʻO ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa kekahi e pili ana i ka ʻae ʻana i kā mākou mau hemahema ponoʻī a me ka ʻimi ʻana e lanakila ma luna o lākou. E pili ana i ka mākaukau e aʻo i nā hana ʻoi loa mai nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. Pili ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa i ka hiki ke aʻo ʻia, kahi noʻonoʻo e apo i ka hoʻoponopono pilikino ʻana a me ka hoʻomaikaʻi ʻana iā ʻoe iho. ʻAʻole ia he mana kahiko wale nō me ka mōʻaukala lōʻihi a waiwai hoʻi, akā he ʻano ʻano psychological ʻokoʻa hoʻi. E like me kā David Robson (2020) i hōʻike ai, ua hōʻoia ʻia kahi noiʻi psychological hou i ka mea haʻahaʻa i waena o mākou e loaʻa nā helu nui he nui. He hopena maikaʻi ko ka noʻonoʻo haʻahaʻa i kā mākou ʻike, interpersonal, a me nā mākau hoʻoholo. ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi o ka poʻe aʻo haʻahaʻa a me nā mea hoʻonā hoʻonā. ʻO nā haumāna haʻaheo i hāmama maoli i ka pane pinepine i kā lākou mau hoa taleni kūlohelohe e noʻonoʻo nui i kā lākou iho hiki ke hōʻole i nā ʻōlelo aʻo āpau. Ua ʻike kekahi mau noiʻi he mea nui ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa ma ke ʻano he hōʻailona hana wānana ma mua o ka IQ. (Bradley P. Owens et al., 2013; a me Krumrei-Manusco et al., 2019) Ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa i kā mākou mau alakaʻi, ʻoi aku ka nui, ka mea e hoʻoulu ai i ka hilinaʻi, ka hoʻokomo ʻana, ka noʻonoʻo ʻana i ka hoʻolālā noʻonoʻo, a hoʻonui i ka hana. (Rego et al., 2017; Ou et al., 2020; Cojuharenco and Karelaia 2020.)
5. No laila he mea nui ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa no kā mākou hiki ke aʻo a me kahi mea e pono ai no ka hoʻomaikaʻi ʻana iā mākou iho. No ka mea inā ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke ʻae i nā hemahema i ko mākou ʻike a i ʻole kīnā i ko mākou ʻano, ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke hana i nā ʻanuʻu e pono ai e kamaʻilio iā lākou.
6. ʻO ka mea hope loa, ʻo ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa ka mea hoʻokahi wale nō antidote i narcissism. Ma nā ʻano he nui i ka mana o ko mākou wā, he pilikia kahi narcissism a mākou e kamaʻilio ai i nā mea ʻelua a me kahi pae kaiāulu ākea. (Twenge 2013) Hiki i ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa ke lilo i hoʻoponopono moʻomeheu i kā mākou pilikia nui o ka manaʻo pilikino a me ka waiwai ponoʻī, kahi mea e ulu nei i ka nui o nā psychologists e ʻike hou i nā loiloi. (Ricard 2015)

Noʻonoʻo nā mea āpau, a laila, me he mea lā he mea nui ka hoʻōla hou ʻana i ka hana kahiko o ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa. ʻO ka mea nui, ka mākaukau e mākaukau e ʻae i kā mākou hemahema a hui pū ʻia me ka makemake e aʻo, mai nā poʻe, nā moʻomeheu ʻē aʻe, nā wā i hala, nā holoholona, ​​a me nā mea kanu - nā mea e haku i kahi mea a mākou e hana ʻole ai. He palena pau nā manawa kūpono.