ʻO nā ʻano ʻelima o ka poʻe āu e pono ai e haʻalele i kou ola

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• Pākuʻi kokoke i ka home
• 1. Ka Loiloi
• 2. ʻO ka Aggressor Passive
• 3. ʻO ka Narcissist
• 4. ʻO ka Pōhaku

Hiki iā mākou ke heluhelu i nā puke kōkua pilikino maikaʻi a loaʻa i ka naʻauao e pili ana i nā pilina, akā nui ka poʻe o mākou i keakea ʻia e ka ʻawahia. Makaʻu mākou e ʻōlelo a kūʻē i ka poʻe e hana i nā vibe ʻona, a ʻoi aku ka makaʻu i ka haʻalele ʻana i kahi pilina aloha, aloha aloha, a hana paha ma muli o ka ʻona.

Hōʻike ka Toxicity iā ia iho i nā ʻano like ʻole; ʻo kekahi o nā hōʻike ʻino loa o ia mea mai nā poʻe e ʻike hinālohilohi a maikaʻi hoʻi ma waho. Hiki i kēia ke lilo i mea hoʻopunipuni - ʻaʻole mau nā mea ke ʻikea, a ʻaʻole hoʻi he poʻe.ʻO nā helehelena ʻelima o nā pilina ʻawahia he mau ʻano pilikino maʻamau, akā hiki iā lākou ke hūnā ma hope o kahi kanaka kūleʻa a maikaʻi ʻole.

Pākuʻi kokoke i ka home

ʻO ka pīhoihoi o ka pilina kahi mea a kahi mea kākau a hoa hana aʻu i ʻike mua ai, a ʻo ia ka mea i hopena i kona makemake no ke kamaʻilio e pili ana i ke kumuhana. Kākau ʻo ia:

"Naʻu ponoʻi nā pono hana āpau e hōʻalo ai i kahi pilina ʻawahia, akā ua komo wau i loko o kahi pilina ʻuhane a me ka noʻonoʻo me kekahi mea e like me kāna mea āpau - he ʻohana nui, kahi aʻo kūlana kiʻekiʻe, kahi ʻoihana kūleʻa, a me kahi ʻano lokomaikaʻi. Uaʻike koke wau he helehelena kēia a pau. Ua aʻo wau i ka hohonu o ka holo ʻana o ka mea ʻawahia a no ke aha ka paʻakikī o ka pakele ʻana i ka ʻeha a me ka noʻonoʻo ke nānā aku kekahi i 'waho loa' i waho.

"E like me ka ʻōlelo, 'ʻO ka nani ka hohonu o ka ʻili.' Ua aʻo wau i ka mea nui o ka ʻike ʻana i nā pilina ʻona a me nā hoaaloha a me ka hoʻokele ʻana i kēia ʻano pilina. nā mana, ʻoiai ua kauō ʻia i loko o kahi mea e like me ka nui o ka pouli i pau ʻole. "

Ke ʻoki nei paha i nā pilina i kahi aloha, hoa aloha, lālā o ka ʻohana, a mea hana paha, hiki i ka hapanui o mākou ke pili i ka manaʻo o ka make ʻana no kahi kanaka ʻona. ʻOiai, aia he nui aku ma mua o ʻelima mau helehelena o nā pilina ʻawahia, akā ʻo kēlā mau mea i hōʻike ʻia ma lalo nei ma waena o nā mea maʻamau. Hiki i kēia mau helehelena ke hoʻopili, a hiki i ʻelua a ʻoi paha ke kūlike i ka manawa like. Inā pili ʻoe me kahi kanaka i loaʻa kekahi o kēia mau ʻano, akamai paha e hoʻolōʻihi i ka manawa e hōʻike ana i kou ʻano maoli ke puni ʻoe i kēlā kanaka.

1. Ka Loiloi

Ua pili paha ʻoe i ka pilina ma loko kahi e manaʻo ai ʻoe ua hoʻokolokolo ʻia a hōʻino ʻia ʻoe i kēlā me kēia mea āu e hana nei. ʻOkoʻa ka loiloi ma mua o ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo, a he mea nui e hoʻomaopopo i ka ʻokoʻa. E noʻonoʻo lōʻihi Eia nō naʻe, he kinks pilikino kā kēlā me kēia kanaka e holo pono ai, a hana hewa mākou āpau.

E noʻonoʻo e hōʻea ʻoe i 15 mau minuke i ka ʻaina awakea me ka ʻole o ka hāʻawi ʻana i kāu mea koʻikoʻi ʻē aʻe i kekahi ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo. Ke huhū nui nei kāu mea ʻē aʻe a, ma kahi o ka nīnau ʻana no ke aha ʻoe i lohi ai a i ʻole ka mea i hana ʻia, hoʻomaka ʻo ia e hōʻino iā ʻoe. Ua noho au ma aneʻi no 15 mau minuke e kakali ana iā ʻoe, a ʻoiai he aha, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hōʻike i ka manawa kūpono. "

He laʻana maikaʻi loa kēia o ka hoʻohewa; e hoʻohewa paha kēia hoa i kāu neʻe ʻana: "E komo ʻoe i kēlā?" "No ke aha mai ʻoe ...?" "He aha kāu pilikia?" Hele mau ka papa inoa. Manaʻo ʻoe he haʻahaʻa a manaʻo ʻoe ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hana i kekahi mea maikaʻi, no ka nui o kou hoʻāʻo.

I kēia manawa e noʻonoʻo e hōʻea ana ʻoe i 15 mau minuke i ka ʻaina awakea me ka ʻole o ka hāʻawi ʻana i kāu mea koʻikoʻi ʻē aʻe i kekahi ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo. ʻIke paha kāu mea koʻikoʻi ʻē aʻe, akā ma kahi o ke kīkē ʻana, nīnau aku ʻo ia e pili ana i kēia kumumanaʻo. “Maopopo iaʻu ua lohi ʻoe i ka pinepine. Aia kekahi kumu? Ua ʻike paha kekahi i kēia ʻano? ” ʻO kēia kahi mea e hoʻāʻo nei e nīnau no ke aha e loaʻa ai kēia ʻano maladaptive. Ma kahi o ka hōʻino ʻana i ka hoa, e ʻāhewa paha ʻo ia i ka hana .

Hiki i ka mea loiloi ke lawe mai i ka nui o ka ʻawahia i loko o kahi pilina. ʻAʻole paha e kāhea ka poʻe loiloi iā ʻoe i nā inoa hōʻino, akā hiki iā lākou ke hōʻino mau i kou mau manaʻoʻiʻo, helehelena, a me kou mau manaʻo, no ka mea haʻahaʻa lākou iā lākou iho a makemake i ka kaohi. Ma kahi o ka hoʻāʻo ʻana e hana i nā manaʻo e hoʻomaikaʻi i kāu ʻano maikaʻi ʻole, ʻike lākou i kēlā me kēia kumu e hōʻino ai i kēia mau ʻano a keakea iā ʻoe ma ke ʻano he kanaka.

Hoʻohalahala ka poʻe hoʻohalahala i ka kanaka ma kahi o ka hana. ʻO ka ʻike weliweli loa i ke kanaka ke ʻōlelo ʻo ia he makua, "He keiki kāne a kaikamahine ʻino ʻoe," ma kahi o ka ʻōlelo ʻana, "Ua hana ʻoe i kahi mea maikaʻi ʻole."

2. ʻO ka Aggressor Passive

ʻO ka Passive-aggression ka hōʻike passive o ka huhū. ʻO nā laʻana maʻamau e komo mau i ka kali ʻana a i ʻole ke lohi ʻana no kahi kau. ʻIke mākou āpau i ka poʻe passive-agresive. ʻAʻole ʻoe i ʻike i ka ʻōlelo a kēlā kanaka e hoʻāʻo nei e hōʻike. Manaʻo paha ʻoe ke hele wāwae nei ʻoe ma luna o nā ʻāpana manu ke puni ʻoe i kahi kanaka passive-agresive. ʻO ka hōʻole ʻana i nā manaʻo, hoʻomāʻewaʻewa, a me nā hoʻoliʻiliʻi hoʻi i hope, he ala maopopo ia e haʻi aku ai i kekahi kanaka he passive-agresive.

E noʻonoʻo ua hana ʻoe i kekahi mea e hoʻonāukiuki ai i kāu hoa, akā ʻaʻole maopopo iā ʻoe he aha ia. Nīnau ʻoe i ke kumu o kona huhū i hiki iā ʻoe ke pale i ka hoʻonāukiuki ʻana i kāu hoa i ka wā e hiki mai ana. Eia naʻe, ʻaʻole e haʻi aku kāu hoa iā ʻoe no ke aha ʻo ia i huhū ai a pane aʻe, "Maikaʻi wau" a i ʻole "ʻAʻole au huhū," ʻoiai ʻo ia e haʻalele nei iā ʻoe. Holo kēia i kou lolo i loko o nā pōʻai e hoʻāʻo nei e noʻonoʻo i ka mea a kēia kanaka e noʻonoʻo nei a me ke kumu o ka hoʻouna ʻana i nā leka i hūnā ʻia. Hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻolilo i mau hola e hoʻāʻo ai e heluhelu i ka noʻonoʻo o ke kanaka ʻoiai e hoʻi i hope i kāu neʻe a ʻōlelo paha.

Inā ʻaʻole hiki i kahi kanaka ke kamaʻilio pololei, hoʻohana i ka hoʻomāʻewaʻewa ma ke ʻano he ʻano pale, hoʻouna i nā leka i hui ʻia, a i ʻole nā ​​hana e like me ka hewa ʻole.

3. ʻO ka Narcissist

Hana ka narcissist e like me kāna makana a ke Akua i ke ao holoʻokoʻa, ʻike i nā mea āpau, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ma nā mea āpau - a makaʻu ʻole e haʻi aku iā ʻoe pēlā. No kou akamai a ʻike paha, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke ana i kēia kanaka. Manaʻo ʻia ʻo Narcissism kahi maʻi pilikino, a ʻona ia. Hoʻonoho kahi mea narcissist iā ia iho ma kahi pae kiʻekiʻe a nānā iā ʻoe i lalo. Manaʻo paha ʻoe e hoʻokūkū ana ʻoe me kēia kanaka i kēlā me kēia kūlana. Makemake pinepine ʻole nā ​​Narcissists i ka hoʻopili ʻana, nele i ka ʻike a me ke aloha, a makemake e lilo i kikowaena o ka nānā. Hiki iā lākou ke hōʻino i nā manawa kūikawā, e like me kou lā hānau a i ʻole he mile nui i kāu ʻoihana ʻoihana, no ka mea, pono mau lākou i ka mahalo, ʻoiai ka manawa o kekahi e ʻālohilohi ai. He inaina maoli kahi narcissist iā ia iho. He ʻili lahilahi nā Narcissist e prick a maʻalahi hoʻi e komo i lalo, kahi e hoʻokuʻu ai i ka huhū a me ka inaina no ka mea he palena liʻiliʻi ko lākou manaʻo ponoʻī. Mākaukau nā Narcissist e luku i nā mea āpau a me nā mea āpau iā lākou ke ʻeha lākou a hōʻole ʻia paha.

4. ʻO ka Pōhaku

ʻO ka pōhaku e kuhikuhi i ka hana o ka hōʻole ʻana i ke kamaʻilio e pale ai i ka pilikia. Ua lohe paha ka poʻe he nui i ka pōhaku — kahi kanaka e hōʻole e komo i ke kamaʻilio a i ʻole kaʻana like i nā manaʻo ke kū mai nā pilikia nui. Hoʻomaopopo pinepine kēia i ka mea ʻē aʻe i nā mea nui ʻole a kūpono ʻole hoʻi i ke kamaʻilio maoli ʻana. Hele mai ka pōhaku e like me ke anuanu a hōʻole e ʻae he pilikia, akā ʻo ka hōʻole ʻana e kamaʻilio e hana i nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole a me nā mea pale e paʻakikī e hoʻonui i kahi pilina kūleʻa. Hoʻopili ia, hiki iā ia ke hoʻokau iā ʻoe i ka huhū a me ka lawehala. Inā ʻoe e hoʻāʻo nei e launa pū me kahi kanaka āu i ʻike pono ai a hōʻole ʻo ia i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo a wehe me ʻoe, makemake paha ʻoe e noʻonoʻo hou i ke kumu o kou pili mua ʻana.

Ma ka pane ʻole ʻana i kāu nīnau, hoʻonāukiuki a huhū ʻole ka noncommunication a ka pōhaku, no ka mea ʻaʻole ʻo ia e komo i ka haʻi ʻōlelo interpersonal i manaʻo ʻia.

5. ʻO ka Antisocial Personality

ʻO Antisocial Personality Disorder (ASPD), e like me ia i ho'ākāka ʻia ma ka Diagnostic and Statistics Manual of Mental Disorder (DSM-5), me nā ʻano o ka sociopathy (i manaʻo ʻia he hopena mai nā kūlana kaiaulu e like me ka hoʻomāinoino ʻana i ka wā kamaliʻi, a ʻike ʻia e nā hana pahū a me kekahi manawa kolohe. akā ua manaʻo ʻia e loaʻa iā ia ka hiki no ke aloha a me ka minamina) a me ka psychopathy (manaʻo ʻole i ka minamina a me ka minamina, e hoʻohana kūpono ana i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, a pili pinepine i ka hoʻopunipuni a i ʻole nā ​​kala kala keʻokeʻo ʻē aʻe me nā kumu like ʻole e like me ka makeʻe a me ka hoʻopaʻi).

Loaʻa iā mākou āpau nā ʻano pilikino like ʻole, ʻo ia nō ke kumu e hoʻowalewale ʻia ai ka lehulehu e nā poʻe like ʻole - ʻike mākou iā mākou iho, ma ka hapa iki, i ka hana ASPD. Ke kala aku nei mākou a hoʻokipa pū kekahi i ka poʻe me ASPD e like me kā mākou i kala aku ai a hoʻokipa iā mākou iho - he ʻumi a Judeo / Christian a me nā hoʻomana ʻē aʻe. Eia nō naʻe, psychopaths he chameleons psychological e hana i ka ʻāpana e koi ai e manipulate i kēlā me kēia kūlana a me ka launa pū ʻana no ke kālā, ka wahine, ka mana, ka ʻoluʻolu ego, a me nā mea ʻē aʻe. Hiki ke pale ʻia kēia hana psychologically predatory e ka noi ʻana i ka mōʻaukala o ka ʻeha a me ka ʻeha a ka mea i waiho ai ma hope. ʻAʻohe mea kupanaha, ʻo ka hapa nui o ka poʻe ʻaʻole i manaʻoʻiʻo i kēia a hōʻemi i nā hōʻike a hiki i ka lohi ʻana. ʻO ka psychopath "aloha" kahi mea nui e hopohopo nei no ka kaohi, adulate, a me ka mana, i hūnā ʻia ma lalo o ka uhi o kā lākou puke.