ʻO ka loulou ma waena o nā makuahine Narcissistic a me CPTSD

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• Nā Heluhelu Pono Nā Narcissism
• Hoʻolālā Manipulation: nā mea a mākou e hana ai no kahi Narcissist

Ke noʻonoʻo mākou e pili ana i ka maʻi post-traumatic stress (PTSD) ke kuhikuhi nei mākou i kahi kūlana i kahi pane i kahi hanana a ʻike ʻia e nā hōʻailona e like me nā flashbacks i ka trauma mua. Lohe pinepine mākou e pili ana i ka PTSD i loko o ka pōʻaiapili o nā koa koa i ʻike i ka ʻeha e pili ana i ka hakakā; pili pū paha mākou iā ia me ka poʻe i ʻike maka i nā mea weliweli, e like me kahi ulia, a i hoʻomāinoino ʻia paha.

I ka makahiki 1988, ua kuhi ʻo Judith Herman, he polofesa ma Clinical Psychology ma ke Kulanui ʻo Harvard, i kahi hōʻailona hou — kahi PTSD paʻakikī (a i ʻole CPTSD) — ua koi ʻia e wehewehe i nā hopena o ka ulia wā lōʻihi. ¹ Kūlike kekahi o nā ʻōuli ma waena o PTSD a me CPTSD — me nā flashbacks (manaʻo e like me ka ʻeha e hana nei i kēia manawa), nā manaʻo hoʻowalewale a me nā kiʻi, a me nā ʻano kino e like me ka sweating, nausea, a me ka haʻalulu.

ʻO ka poʻe i loaʻa iā CPTSD ka ʻike pinepine:

• Nā pilikia o ka hoʻoponopono ʻana i ka naʻau
• Nā manaʻo o ka ʻole a me ka manaʻolana ʻole
• Nā manaʻo o ka inaina a me ka hilinaʻi ʻole
• Nā manaʻo o ka ʻokoʻa a me ka hemahema
• Nā hōʻailona Dissociative
• Nā manaʻo suicidal

Hoʻokumu ʻia nā kumu o CPTSD i loko o ka ulia pōpilikia wā lōʻihi a, ʻoiai hiki ke kumu ʻia e nā trauma e hoʻomau ʻia ana-e like me ka hana hoʻomāinoino home a i ʻole ke noho ʻana i kahi wahi kaua - pili pinepine ʻia me ka trauma i kū i ka wā kamaliʻi. ʻO nā traumas kamaliʻi maopopo loa he hoʻomāinoino i ke kino a me ka moekolohe a me ka hoʻowahāwahā ʻana i ka naʻau.

Akā ʻo ka hōʻino i ka naʻau, ʻoiai ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī o ka ʻike ʻana, hiki ke hana iā CPTSD. A ʻo ka hōʻino naʻau ka puʻuwai o ka ʻike o kēlā mau keiki e ulu nei me kahi makuahine narcissistic. I ka hihia o ka pilina makuahine-narcissistic, e hūnā ʻia ka hoʻomāinoino manaʻo e like me nā paʻa o ke aloha, e lawe ana i kona ʻano ma ke ʻano he ʻano holoʻokoʻa i hoʻolālā ʻia e kāohi iā ʻoe, e hoʻokokoke iā ʻoe, a iā ʻoe i ka lima e noʻonoʻo hou iā ia i ka mea pono ʻo ia e ʻike e kākoʻo i kāna ego palupalu.

ʻO kekahi o nā mea paʻakikī o ke keiki a ka makuahine narcissistic ʻo ia kou makemake mua iā ia kou hiki ke hoʻohana iā ia. Ke hilinaʻi nei ʻoe i ke ʻano o ka narcissist.

Hoʻohui pinepine mākou i ka narcissism me kēlā mau ʻano grandiose e makemake mau ana e lilo i kikowaena o ka ʻike. Akā, lawe nā narcissist i nā ʻano a me nā ʻano āpau a wehewehe ʻia kā lākou narcissism ʻaʻole wale ma nā ʻōlelo o ko lākou pono no ka nānā ʻana, akā ma nā mea e pono ai ka kaohi o ko lākou kaiapuni a me ka pale ʻana iā lākou iho, ma o ka hoʻohana ʻana o nā poʻe ʻē aʻe.

Ua hoʻohana paha kou makuahine iā ʻoe ma ke ʻano he mea e pale aku iā ia i kāna kāne, ma ke ʻano he hoaaloha maikaʻi na kekahi, ma ke ʻano he mea e waiho i lalo a me ka hoʻohewa e hiki ai iā ia ke manaʻo maikaʻi iā ia iho. ʻO nā mea i hoʻohana ʻia e ia e noʻonoʻo ai nou — a ʻo nā keiki he ʻāpana nui ia o ka "lako" a ka mea narcissist - e ʻike paha ʻoe i ke kaomi hoʻomau i ka hana.

I loko o kahi honua kūpono, ʻae ʻia ʻoe e ulu wale i keiki kamaliʻi, e ʻoliʻoli nei i nā kūʻokoʻa o ka ʻimi pilikino ʻana a me ka hōʻike pilikino. ʻAʻole pinepine nā keiki a nā makuahine narcissistic i kēlā mea leʻaleʻa a, ma kahi o, ke nānā mau nei ma luna o ko lākou poʻohiwi e ʻike ai inā ua hoʻonāukiuki lākou i ko lākou makuahine ma ka ʻōlelo ʻana a hana paha i ka mea hewa. ʻIke lākou ʻo ka mea nui loa o ka honua nei e hoʻāʻo a ʻoluʻolu i ko lākou makuahine a noho i kahi kūlana makaʻu mau ke kuhi hewa lākou. (He mau makahiki ka lōʻihi o ke aʻo ʻana e ʻike i nā mea e pono ai ka “loaʻa pono ʻana,” no laila paʻakikī ka ʻōlelo lula a ka makuahine narcissistic).

ʻO ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi huaʻōlelo koʻikoʻi, ka hoʻohewa, ka hōʻole ʻana i ka ʻike o kekahi ke ʻano maikaʻi ʻole e like me ka paʻi ʻia no ka hana maikaʻi ʻole. ʻAe ka pane o ka pane. ʻO ka wai ʻona waha a ka makuahine narcissistic i hiki ai i kāna mau keiki ke kuhikuhi pinepine loa a me nā mea like me ka makaʻu i ke keiki ke paʻi ʻia. A me ka makaʻu ka huikau mau. Palupalu nui nā Narcissists a hana i kahi pūnaewele paʻakikī e puni iā ​​lākou iho i mea e kaohi ai i kā lākou hana a hui ʻole pū. Ma ke ʻano he kamaliʻi, manaʻo ʻole ʻia kou mau manaʻo ke ʻano ʻae ʻole ʻia inā kū lākou i kahi ʻano hoʻoweliweli i kou makuahine.

E ʻōlelo mākou aloha ʻoe i kou kupuna wahine akā maopopo i ka lili o kou makuahine iā ia. Ma kahi o ka manuahi e haʻi i kou aloha, ʻike paha ʻoe iā ʻoe iho e ʻōlelo i nā mea maikaʻi ʻole e pili ana i kou kupuna wahine e ʻoluʻolu ai i kou makuahine.

A i ʻole e noʻonoʻo ʻoe he keiki hele kūlohelohe ʻoe akā ʻike i ka lili wikiwiki ʻana o kou makuahine inā ʻoe e lawe i ka limelight mai iā ia. ʻO ke hōʻike wale ʻana i ke kaumaha a i ʻole ka makaʻu hiki ke hoʻokō ʻia me ka hoʻomākeʻaka a me ka hoʻomāʻewaʻewa. Ua male hapa koʻu makuahine i koʻu makuakāne no ka mea ua hele mai ia ma kahi kūlana waiwai ma mua ona a iā ia, ʻo ka ʻoluʻolu kālā ka mea nui e hōʻike i ko mākou ola maʻalahi. ʻO kēlā me kēia ʻano manaʻo ʻona i emi ʻole nā ​​mea i koʻu ola-mehameha a me ka hoʻoweliweli nui o nā manaʻo suicidal e kau mau ana ma luna oʻu - ua loaʻa me kahi pale pale kūpilikiʻi loa e weliweli a hilahila ana i ka hopena o ka hopena.

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