ʻO ka lua o nā nīnau maʻamau e loaʻa iaʻu ma ke ʻano he Psychologist

Kākau maʻamau wau e pili ana i ka ʻai nui ʻana, akā i kēia lā makemake wau e hana i ka ukali ʻana i kaʻu ʻatikala i hala iho nei "The Single Most Common question I Get as a Psychologist." Ma laila wau i kūkākūkā ai i ka kuhi hewa maʻamau he mea maikaʻi loa nā psychologists i ka loaʻa ʻana o nā manaʻo lele i waho iā lākou no laila ʻaʻole lākou e lawe iā lākou i ka home. Ua wehewehe wau i ke kumu o kēia ʻaʻole ʻoiaʻiʻo, a no ke aha mākou e maikaʻi ai i ka hōʻaiʻē ʻana i nā mea kūʻai aku i ko mākou ʻuhane a me ka waiho ʻana i ko lākou mau manaʻo hele ma waena ʻo mākou Maikaʻi pū mākou i ka kānana ʻana-no ka mea inā ʻoe e hōʻaiʻē i kou ʻuhane i kekahi, pono ʻoe e darn maikaʻi hiki iā ʻoe ke kōkua iā lākou, a ʻo ʻoe iho nō no ia mea, inā ʻaʻole ʻoe hana ʻeha ʻeha e ka huakaʻi.

I kēia lā e hele mākou i nā kikoʻī e pili ana i ka ka lua ʻo ka nīnau maʻamau aʻu e loaʻa ai ke hui wau me kekahi mea hou ma waho o ke keʻena i koʻu ola ponoʻī: "Ke nānā nei ʻoe iaʻu i kēia manawa?"

I kahi huaʻōlelo, aʻole, ma ka liʻiliʻi ʻaʻole ma ke ʻano o ka manaʻo o ka nīnau. Eia ke kumu:

• ʻO ke kālailai ʻana i kekahi ma ke ʻano o ka mea e hana nei i ke kūkākūkā kūkākūkā he hana nui loa ia, ma ka keʻena a ma o telemedicine paha. No ke kālailai maoli ʻana i kekahi, pono wau e waiho iaʻu iho i kahi kūlana hyper-concentrated, waiho i kaʻu mau pono ponoʻī, a nīnau i kahi moʻo o nā nīnau e kia nui loa ana. Pono wau e lawe i nā memo akahele e pili ana i nā mea i ʻōlelo ʻia a kālele ʻia i ke kamaʻilio ʻana ma nā ala diagnostical kikoʻī, nā loiloi weliweli, a me nā ʻenehana hoʻonā pilikia. ʻAʻole ia nā ʻāpana a me nā ʻāpana o kēia e kolo i ke kamaʻilio pū kekahi mawaho ke keʻena, akā ʻo ke kūlana naʻau e koi ʻia e loaʻa kahi hopena pololei a makemake ʻia ʻaʻole wale ma laila. I koʻu ola ponoʻī, ʻo wau nō pili ana, ʻaʻole kālailai.
• Ma waho o ke keʻena, nalo ka hapa nui o nā kuhi waiwai nui loa. I ke kamaʻilio ʻana ma waho o ke keʻena, hilinaʻi nui ka hapanui o nā psychologists e diagnose a mālama. ʻO kahi laʻana, ke noi aku, noi aku, a uku aku kahi mea kūʻai aku no ke kūkā kamaʻilio ʻana i kahi lā a me ka manawa kikoʻī, hiki iā ʻoe ke haʻi nui i ke ʻano o ko lākou ʻike ʻia i ka lumi kali (ʻoiai inā ʻike kamepiula), inā lākou e hōʻike i ka manawa, pehea Lōʻihi lākou e hoʻomaka e kamaʻilio, a me ko lākou makemake e hui pū me ka manawa a me ke ʻano. He kanaka paʻakikī nā kānaka, a ʻo ka noʻonoʻo a i ʻole ka lawena i hāʻawi ʻia hiki ke ʻano i kekahi mea ʻokoʻa loa i nā ʻano ʻokoʻa. Lawe ka pōʻaiapili o ke kūkā kamaʻilio ʻana i ka manaʻo i loko o kahi ʻano ʻokoʻa ma mua o ka hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻokō i loko o kahi hale ʻaina, a i ʻole i ka wā kelepona maʻamau. (Aia kekahi kumu e hana ai nā kauka ma kahi lumi hana ma mua o ke kahakai a i ʻole ka pāʻina, no ka laʻana, a aia kekahi kumu e hoʻohana ai nā psychologists i nā kūkā kamaʻilio.)
• Huikau nā paʻakikī o ka pilina pilikino i kēia mea. Ma muli o ka pili pilikino e pili ana i kahi pānaʻi like, ʻoi aku ka maʻalahi o ka huikau o kāu mau pono ponoʻī, ʻike, a me nā manaʻo me ke kanaka me ʻoe e launa pū ana. ʻAʻole i loaʻa i nā psychologists nā aniani kaulike like ma waho o ke keʻena vs. i ka wā o kahi kūkākūkā pilikino.
• ʻAʻole hiki i nā psychologists ke ʻike maoli i loko o kou poʻo. ʻAʻohe o mākou mīkini X-ray e ʻae iā mākou e ʻike i kāu mea e noʻonoʻo nei a me kou manaʻo, a he aha ka "hewa" me ʻoe. Akā, hilinaʻi mākou i nā pilina i kūkulu ʻia e like me ka mea i hōʻike ʻia ma luna, a, ʻoiaʻiʻo, e lawe wale i nā wānana i aʻo ʻia me ka maikaʻi e hōʻiliʻili nei mākou i ka ʻike (a me ka naʻau) ma o kēia ʻano.

Me nā mea i luna aʻe, ʻike maoli paha ʻoe i kahi ʻokoʻa e kamaʻilio pū ana me ka psychologist ma waho o ke keʻena me kekahi me ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa haʻahaʻa. Inā hoihoi ʻoe i kahi ʻuhane, kamaʻilio hohonu, ʻeā, ʻo wau nō maopopo leʻa kou kāne! Ua koho wau i ka psychology ma ke ʻano he ʻoihana no ka mea nui wau i ke aloha ma mua o ke kālā, ka manaʻo a me ke kumu ma mua o nā kūwaho kūwaho, ʻuhane ma mua o ka mana. Akā ke nānā nei wau iā ʻoe ma waho o ke keʻena?

Aʻole! Koe i ka nui e kanaka āpau ke "kālailai" mau nei i nā mea ʻē aʻe āpau. Pono mākou āpau e nānā i ka wā e hui ai mākou me kekahi e pili ana he hoa paha lākou a he ʻenemi paha, he aha kā lākou e makemake ai mai iā mākou, inā paha e hoʻokolokolo iā mākou, a pehea e launa ai i kahi ala palekana a aloha. ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi o ka poʻe psychologists ma kēlā pāʻani, no laila, e hoʻopili wau iā ia. Akā ke kālailai piha ʻana iā ʻoe?

Nah. Ua waiho wau i kēlā mau mea hana ma ke keʻena.

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