Kāhea ʻia lākou he mau pilikia makuakāne no ka mea he mau pilikia ko kou makuakāne

Ua noho iki paha kou makuakāne me ʻoe? ʻAʻole paha ʻo ia i noʻonoʻo ma ke ʻano ma ke kino? Ua pani ʻia ʻo ia i ka naʻau? Inā ʻoe i pane ʻae i kekahi o kēia mau nīnau, ʻaʻole paha i loaʻa ʻole ka naʻau o kou makuakāne. Inā ʻo ia, loaʻa paha iā ʻoe nā pilikia makuakāne.

ʻO nā pilikia a Pāpā kahi huaʻōlelo e wehewehe i nā hopena o nā ʻeha naʻau i hoʻoili ʻia i ke keiki mai kahi makuakāne hiki ʻole i ka naʻau. ʻO kēlā mau ʻeha, inā haʻalele ʻole ʻia, alakaʻi paha iā ʻoe e nānā no ka hōʻoia kūwaho mai nā kāne e ʻike ai i kou waiwai. Manaʻo wale paha ʻoe i ke kūpono i ka nānā ʻana i ke kāne. E hoʻokau paha ʻoe i nā makemake o ke kāne ma mua o kou a ʻimi e hōʻoluʻolu i nā kāne a i ʻole e ʻae ʻia mai iā lākou. Ma muli o ka hoʻokō ʻole ʻia o nā pono nui e kou makuakāne i kou wā kamaliʻi, he mea maʻamau ka ʻiʻini ʻana i ke aloha, ka mālama, a me ka nānā mai ke kāne ma ke ʻano he mākua. No ke aha ʻoe e loaʻa ʻole ai i nā pilikia makuakāne ke loaʻa ʻole kāu mea e pono ai?

ʻAʻole pili maoli nā pilikia a Pāpā iā ʻoe. Pili lākou i kou makuakāne. Hāʻawi pinepine ʻia nā wahine i ka lepili o ka loaʻa ʻana o nā "pilikia makuakāne," me he mea lā no lākou e ʻāhewa no ko lākou mau ʻeha. ʻLelo ʻia iā ʻoe he pilikia makuakāne e hiki ke lawe i ka hilahila a ʻeha. Akā maoli, no kou makuakāne ke kuleana no ka hoʻokō ʻole i kāu mau pono. Inā loaʻa nā pilikia i kou makuakāne a ʻaʻole hiki ke loaʻa i ke ʻano naʻau, no ke aha ʻoe e hōʻeha ʻole ai? ʻAʻole hilahila nā pilikia a Pāpā. ʻAʻole ʻoe kīnā a hōʻino paha. ʻAʻole i hoʻokō ʻia kāu mau pono, a ke hoʻōla nei ʻoe i kēia manawa e hana.

Manaʻoʻiʻo wau ke hana nei ka poʻe i ka mea hiki ke hiki, a i ʻole hana maikaʻi lākou. ʻAʻole pili kēia pou i ka hoʻopiʻi ʻana i nā makuakāne. E pili ana i ka ʻona ʻana i ka hopena o ka loaʻa ʻole o ka makuakāne i hiki ʻole ke ʻano. Nānā ʻole i ka maikaʻi o ke kanaka a i ʻole ʻaʻole, ua hoʻopilikia ʻia ʻoe e kona hiki ʻole ke aloha iā ʻoe a mālama iā ʻoe i ke ala āu e pono ai.

Inā loaʻa iā ʻoe nā pilikia makuakāne, ʻaʻohe mea e hilahila ai. ʻO ka manawa kēia e hoʻomaopopo ai ʻaʻohe mea hewa iā ʻoe. ʻAʻole pono nā pilikia a Pāpā i ala e waiho ai i nā wahine i lalo. He kumu ia e aloha ai iā ʻoe iho a haʻaheo ua ola ʻoe i kahi pilina ʻeha me kahi kahu mua. ʻO ka manawa kēia e hoʻolauleʻa ai iā ʻoe iho no nā mea āpau āu i ola ai a no ka hana ʻana ma o nā pilikia o kou makuakāne. ʻO ka haʻalele ʻana i ka hilahila kahi hana nui i ka hoʻōla!

Inā loaʻa iā ʻoe nā pilikia makuakāne, hiki i nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo aʻe ke kōkua iā ʻoe ma kāu huakaʻi hoʻōla.

1. E ʻike i nā moʻolelo kahiko. Ke hōʻeha nā keiki i nā mākua, makemake lākou e inaina iā lākou iho, ʻaʻole ka makua. E hoʻomaka i ka hoihoi e pili ana i kou pilina me kou makuakāne a pehea ka hopena iā ʻoe. E hoʻomanaʻo i kou ʻano me ia a i ʻole no kona ulu ʻana. He aha nā manaʻoʻiʻo āu i hoʻomohala ai e pili ana iā ʻoe iho i ka wā e hoʻokō ʻole ʻia ai kāu mau pono, a i ka wā paha e haʻalele ai ʻoe, a ʻeha paha iā ia?

2. Kanikau. E hāʻawi iā ʻoe iho i kahi e kaumaha ai i ka mea i loaʻa ʻole iā ʻoe; kaumaha i kāu mea i nalo ai. Pono mākou e kanikau i mea e hōʻola ai. Hoʻohanohano i kou ʻeha, a hāʻawi iā ʻoe iho i ke aloha a me ka lokomaikaʻi e like me kou hiki.

3. Hoolaha. Hoʻomaka e ʻike i ka hopena o kēia mau moʻolelo kahiko i kou ola i kēia manawa. Mālama ʻoe iā ʻoe iho i ka liʻiliʻi, ʻimi ʻoe i ka hōʻoia o waho e maikaʻi ai e pili ana iā ʻoe iho, ʻimi ʻoe i ke kīnā ʻole, a me nā mea ʻē aʻe.

ʻO ka hōʻola ʻana mai nā pilikia makuakāne kahi huakaʻi, a hoʻokahi mea maikaʻi ke hele nei.

Inā loaʻa iā ʻoe nā pilikia makuakāne, paipai wau iā ʻoe e hoʻokomo i kāu lepili me ka haʻaheo no ka mea ua ikaika ʻoe i nā ala āu e pono ʻole ai.