He aha kāu e hana ai me kahi wahaheʻe insecure?
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- He mana paha ko ka mea wahaheʻe ma luna ou
- No ke aha e moe wahaheʻe ai kekahi poʻe?
- Nā ʻokoʻa Neurobiological
- Pehea e hana ai me kahi wahaheʻe koi
- ʻImi paha nā mea wahaheʻe koi i ka nānā mau ʻana, hopohopo makaʻu, nele i ke aloha, a me ke ʻano nui o ka waiwai pilikino.
- Loaʻa i nā mea wahaheʻe koʻikoʻi nā ʻokoʻa neurobiological e pili ana i ka disinhibition a me ka impulsivity.
- Ke hana pū nei me kahi mea hoʻopunipuni koi, i kekahi manawa ʻo ka mea ʻoi loa āu e hiki ai ke hana i loko o ia mea i pili ka wahaheʻe i ka hapa liʻiliʻi o ka poʻe.
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"ʻO wau ka mea nui nui, ʻaʻole iā ʻoe, a pololei mau wau" ʻo ka mantra o ka mea wahaheʻe koi. ʻOiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole lākou ka mea nui (lie helu ʻekahi) a ʻaʻole pololei mau lākou (lie helu ʻelua).
He mana paha ko ka mea wahaheʻe ma luna ou
No laila no ke aha e pili pū me kēia kanaka? ʻĀ, pono paha ʻoe e launa pū me lākou. A i ʻole, ʻike paha ʻoe iā ʻoe iho i kahi ʻano hilinaʻi ponoʻī a me ka mana o kekahi. A laila, inā ʻae ʻoe me lākou (ʻoiai inā he wahaheʻe ka mea āu e ʻae nei), ʻo ʻoe kekahi o kā lākou pōʻai o loko.
No ke aha e moe wahaheʻe ai kekahi poʻe?
Ua wehewehe nā psychologists i kekahi ʻano kanaka e wahaheʻe i mea e hoʻonui ai i ko lākou manaʻo. Pono lākou i ka mahalo mau mai nā poʻe ʻē aʻe a e wahaheʻe hoʻi e kiʻi iā ia. Inā kū lākou i ka wahaheʻe ma kahi o ka mahalo ʻia, e kū ka makaʻu ʻoi loa o ka hōʻino ʻia a hōʻole ʻia, a hoʻouka iā lākou a hoʻāʻo paha e hoʻokū i ka ʻelele.
Hiki i ka mea wahaheʻe koi ke hoʻouka maʻalahi me ka makaʻu ʻole i ka hopena no ka mea nele lākou i ke aloha a me ke aloha i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. ʻO kā lākou ʻike ka nānā kūpono a me nā manaʻo ʻē aʻe āpau a hewahewa nā manaʻo. Ma hope o nā mea āpau, no lākou he hoʻohālikelike wale ia o nā manaʻo, ʻaʻole nā ʻoiaʻiʻo.
He ʻano nui ko ka mea wahahe koʻikoʻi i ka waiwai ponoʻī, i hōʻike ʻia e ka kaena ʻana a me ka hoʻowahāwahā ʻia i nā "mea liʻiliʻi." ʻIke ʻia nā mea ʻē aʻe i hiki ke hoʻopili ʻia e nā wahaheʻe e alakaʻi ai i ka pono pilikino o ka mea wahaheʻe. Ma muli o ko lākou manaʻo ʻole he pilina kanaka me ka hapa nui o ka poʻe, ʻaʻohe a lākou kuleana e pili ana i ka haki ʻana i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe i mea e hoʻokō ai i kā lākou mau pahuhopu.
ʻO ka manawa pinepine ka impulsive wahaheʻe koi. Hoʻopuka wale ʻia nā wahaheʻe ke makemake lākou. Hōʻike ʻia ka impulsivity o ka mea wahaheʻe koi ʻaʻole wale i kā lākou kamaʻilio akā akā i kā lākou moekolohe moekolohe. ʻAe, hiki i kēia ke pilikia iā lākou akā haʻalele lākou a hōʻole i ke kuleana. No ka mea he mea hōʻikeʻike nui lākou, hiki iā lākou ke hoʻopunipuni i nā poʻe he nui i nā manawa he nui.
Nā ʻokoʻa Neurobiological
ʻO ka lolo o ka mea e haʻi wahahee a koi ʻole i ka wahaheʻe ʻokoʻa paha i ka lolo o haʻi. Ua ʻike ʻo psychologists ʻo Yaling Yang lāua ʻo Adrian Raine he piʻi nui ka nui o nā mea wahaheʻe patholog i ka mea keʻokeʻo a me ka hōʻemi ʻana o ka lakene hina / keʻokeʻo o ka pale ma mua i hoʻohālikelike ʻia i nā kaohi maʻamau. Hoʻopili ka hoʻoliʻiliʻi pili i ka hina hina me ka disinhibition, ka hopena i ka impulsivity a me ka compulsivity. A laila ka hāʻawi ʻana i ka mea keʻokeʻo i ka hiki ke hoʻonui i ke kūlana kaiaulu i lawa e kūkulu i kahi wahaheʻe maikaʻi maoli.
Pehea e hana ai me kahi wahaheʻe koi
No laila, he aha kāu e hana ai inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻae i nā manaʻo o ka mea wahaheʻe koi? inā he ʻokoʻa neurobiological maoli i ka lolo o kēia mau wahaheʻe, pehea e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke hana me kēia poʻe? ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻololi iā lākou a ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke kūʻē iā lākou. ʻO ka mea ʻoi loa i hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻopili iā lākou. E hoʻēmi i ko lākou ao o ka mana i hiki i kā lākou wahaheʻe ke hoʻopili i ka liʻiliʻi o ka poʻe i hiki. Inā ʻoe e hana me kahi mea hoʻopunipuni hoʻowahāwahā, e hoʻokaʻawale i nā ʻāpana o kahi papahana i hiki iā ʻoe ke kuleana piha no hoʻokahi ʻāpana. Inā ʻoe e noho me kēia kanaka, e hoʻōki i ka hoʻāʻo ʻana e hōʻoluʻolu iā lākou.
E nānā i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe a iā ʻoe iho e māʻona i kāu mau pono ma kahi o ka hilinaʻi ʻana iā lākou. Inā nui ka mana o kēia kanaka iā ʻoe (ʻo kou haku paha ia), hui pū me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe e hana i kahi hui i ʻoi aku ka ikaika ma mua o lākou.
Raine, A., Lencz, T. et. al. (2000). Hoʻoemi i ka nui o ka mea hina hina prefrontal a hoʻemi i ka hana autonomic i ka maʻi pilikino antisocial. Pūnaewele o General Psychiatry, 57, 119-127.