ʻO nā mea a pau e pono e hoʻomaopopo e pili ana i ka hoʻoikaika kino

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• He aha ka hoʻoikaika kino?
• ʻO nā hopena o ka hoʻokau moekolohe
• He hana hewa ka hoʻokaumaha kolohe?
• Pehea e hiki ai iā mākou ke pale i ka hoʻoikaika kino?

Nā Kiʻi Kiʻi:

• Pili ka moekolohe i ka hana moekolohe i makemake ʻole ʻia e hana ʻia ma hope o ke kaomi ʻia ʻana i nā ʻano pili kino ʻole.
• ʻOi aku ka ʻike o nā wahine hoʻokamakama kolohe i ke koʻikoʻi post-traumatic, ka hoʻopiʻi ʻana iā ʻoe iho, ke kaumaha, a me nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole ʻē aʻe.
• ʻIke pinepine ʻia kēlā ʻano koi i ka pōʻaiapili o nā pilina hōʻino.
• ʻO kaʻae ʻana i ka moekolohe ma hope o ke kāohi ʻia he hana kolohe, akā ʻaʻole ia e manaʻo ʻia he hewa.

Mai ka neʻe ʻana o #meToo, ʻike pinepine ʻia ka huaʻōlelo moekolohe ma ka pāpāho e kuhikuhi i ka moekolohe i makemake ʻole ʻia. Eia nō naʻe, no ka poʻe he nui, ʻaʻole maopopo ka huaʻōlelo.

He aha ka hoʻoikaika kino?

Pili ka moekolohe i kekahi hana moekolohe i makemake ʻole ʻia e hana ʻia ma hope o ke kaomi ʻia ʻana i nā ʻano pili kino ʻole. Ua manaʻo ʻia hoʻokahi i loko o ʻekolu mau wahine a hoʻokahi i loko o nā kāne he ʻumi i ʻike i ka hoʻokau moekolohe, ʻoiai ʻoi aku ke kiʻekiʻe o ka uku no ka maopopo ʻole o ka moekolohe.Hiki ke hana ʻia ka moekolohe ma ka pōʻaiapili o ka pilina male a me ka pili aloha ʻana a hiki paha ke kū ʻia me kahi mea āu e pili mua ai.

Hiki i ke kaohi moekolohe ke hoʻopili i ka kaomi waha a i ʻole ka manipulation a hiki ke hoʻopili ʻia:

• Nā noi hou a i ʻole manaʻo badgered i ka moekolohe.
• Ke hoʻohana nei i ka hala a me ka hilahila e kaomi i kekahi.inā ʻoe e aloha mai iaʻu.
• Ke hoʻoweliweli nei i ka nalo o ka pilina a me ka infidelity inā ʻaʻole e komo kekahi i ka moekolohe.
• Nā ʻano ʻē aʻe o ka blackmail manaʻo.
• Nā hoʻoweliweli i kāu poʻe keiki, ka home, a me kāu hana.
• Nā hoʻoweliweli e wahaheʻe e pili a hoʻolaha paha i nā lono e pili ana iā ʻoe.

Eia nō naʻe, ʻaʻole nānā ka maikaʻi i nā haʻi ʻōlelo waha āpau. Hōʻike kekahi mau wahine i ka hoʻohana ʻana o kā lākou mau hoa i nā ʻōlelo i hoʻonohonoho pono ʻia e like me ka hoʻomaikaʻi, nā ʻōlelo hoʻohiki, a me nā kamaʻilio momona ʻana i ka moekolohe. ʻOiai ke kamaʻilio ʻoluʻolu a kaomi ʻana paha i kāu pakanā i ka moekolohe e manaʻo paha i kekahi e like me kahi mahele maʻamau o ka pilina, i kēlā me kēia manawa ke komo kekahi i ka moekolohe no ka mea ua manaʻo ʻia kaomi a koi ʻia paha, ʻo ia ka moekolohe.

ʻO nā hopena o ka hoʻokau moekolohe

Ua ʻike ʻia ka noiʻi ʻana ʻo nā wahine e ʻike i ka moekolohe ka mea e ʻike pinepine i ka hoʻoluhi ma hope o ka traumatic, ka hoʻopiʻi ʻana iā ʻoe iho a me ka hoʻopiʻi ʻana, ke kaumaha, ka huhū, a me ka makemake haʻahaʻa a me ka ʻoluʻolu.

Kaomi ʻia ka manaʻo e komo i ka moekolohe ke makemake ʻole ʻoe, ʻo ka moekolohe. E like me nā mea he nui, aia kahi hoʻomau. Hiki i nā ʻano milder o ka moekolohe ke hōʻoluʻolu a alakaʻi ʻole iā ʻoe e hōʻino e pili ana i ka ʻike, akā ʻo nā ʻano ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī ke hōʻeha a alakaʻi i nā hopena mau loa. ʻIke pinepine ʻia ka moekolohe ma ka pōʻaiapili o nā pilina hōʻino a hana pinepine ka mea hana i nā ʻano mana he nui.

ʻOiai inā makemake ʻole ʻia ka moe kolohe, ʻaʻole ʻike ka wahine i ka lawena e like me ka coercive inā ua hana mua lākou i ka moekolohe me ka mea.

He hana hewa ka hoʻokaumaha kolohe?

Aia kahi laina maikaʻi ma waena o ka moekolohe a me ka hōʻeha kolohe. ʻO kēlā me kēia hana moekolohe e kū ʻole me ka ʻae a hoʻohana paha i ka ikaika o ke kino he hana kolohe a he hewa ia. Eia nō naʻe, inā ʻae ʻoe i ka moekolohe ma hope o ka badgered, hewa, a i ʻole hoʻohana ʻia e kekahi, hana kolohe kēia, akā ʻaʻole paha ia e manaʻo ʻia he hewa.

Inā ʻoe e kaomi ʻia e komo i ka moekolohe ʻaʻole makemake ʻia, he mea nui e hōʻike akāka i kēlā me kēia kanaka āu e makemake ʻole ai e hana i ka hana a laila haʻalele i ke kūlana. Inā kū ke kanaka i kahi kūlana o ka mana a me ka kaohi, waiho i ke kūlana a hōʻike iā lākou i nā luna, a i ʻole nā ​​kumuwaiwai kanaka. Inā hoʻomau ke kanaka i ka hana me ke ʻano o kāu ʻōlelo e kū lākou, a i ʻole hoʻoweliweli paha iā ʻoe a i ʻole kou ʻohana, haʻalele, a kāhea iā 911.

Kaukaʻi ʻia i ka lōʻihi a me kou ʻike o ka hoʻowalewale moekolohe a hōʻeha paha i ka moekolohe paha ʻoe e makemake e hele i kahi laina pilikia no ke kākoʻo a me ka ʻimi no ka lāʻau.

Pehea e hiki ai iā mākou ke pale i ka hoʻoikaika kino?

Pono e kuhikuhi i ka moekolohe ma nā pae he nui. ʻO ka mea mua, pono mākou e hoʻololi i nā lula kaiāulu e pili ana i ke ʻano o ka pilina consensual. Ua hoʻomaka ʻia kekahi o kēia hana me ka neʻe #MeToo a ua ʻike mākou i nā loli i ke ʻano a me ka lawena s. ʻAʻole maopopo leʻa ka moekolohe ʻana a no laila ke aʻo e pili ana i ke ʻano o kona ʻano a me ke ʻano a me nā mea ʻino e hiki ai ke lilo i mea nui. ʻO ka mea aʻe, pono mākou e hoʻomau i ka hoʻokō ʻana i nā kaulike kāne egalitary i mea e ʻike ʻia ai nā wahine a me nā kāne ma ke ʻano he hoa like i ka pilina a hoʻoulu i ke kamaʻilio ākea a me ke kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka moekolohe ma waena o ka pilina. ʻO ka mea hope loa, pono mākou e aʻo i nā keiki a me nā ʻōpio e pili ana i ka ʻae a me pehea e hana ai i nā hana egalitary.

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