ʻO nā hopohopo e pili ana i nā pale e hōʻike nui nei i ka mea ʻole?

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• ʻO ka hihia i nā pale
• ʻO ka hihia e kūʻē i ka Alarmism
• ʻAʻole hiki iā mākou ke kali no nā hopena
• ʻAʻohe pane maʻalahi i nā nīnau paʻakikī
• Pili ia
• Ka ʻokoʻa o nā ʻike pale
• He aha e hana ai

Ua hopu paha ʻoe i ka ʻāpana o kēia wā 60 Minute na Anderson Cooper e pili ana i nā hopena o nā pale i nā keiki a me nā ʻōpio. Ma loko o ka moʻolelo, ua hoʻopuka ʻo Cooper i $ 300 miliona, 10 makahiki i hoʻopaʻa kālā ʻia e ka National Institute of Health e pili ana ma mua o 11,000 mau keiki a me 21 mau pūnaewele noiʻi. Lana ka manaʻo, e kōkua nā mea noiʻi i ka pane ʻana i nā nīnau nui, e like me ka hopena o ka pale i ka ulu ʻana o ka lolo a hiki ke noʻonoʻo ʻia nā pale.

ʻO ka hihia i nā pale

He lōʻihi ka manawa a mākou e kali ai no kēia mau hopena noiʻi e kōkua i ke alakaʻi ʻana iā mākou, akā he nui nā kānaka noiʻi, e like me Dr. Dimitri Christakis, he kauka lapaʻau ma ka Haukapila Kamaliʻi ʻo Seattle a he mea kākau alakaʻi o ka American Academy of Pediatrics 'nā loiloi hou i ka manawa o ka pale, Dr. ʻO Jean Twenge, he psychologist a he polofesa ma ke Kulanui Moku'āina ʻo San Diego a me ka mea kākau o iGen , a me Kauka Sherry Turkle, he psychologist ma MIT a me ka mea kākau o Ke hoʻopā hou nei i ke kamaʻilio ʻana , hāʻawi i nā ʻōlelo ikaika e akahele e pili ana i nā hopena o nā pale. Hoʻokumu lākou i kēia mau hopohopo i kā lākou heluhelu ʻana i ka noiʻi a me nā mea i loaʻa mai kā lākou aʻo ponoʻī. Nā palapala e like me Nānā kiʻi: Ke ulu nei i ke au Digital , haʻi pū i nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo kūlike.

ʻO ka hihia e kūʻē i ka Alarmism

ʻO ka mea nui, ʻoiai he nui nā noiʻi e kākoʻo ana i nā hopohopo e pili ana i nā hopena o nā pale, nā kānaka noiʻi ʻē aʻe, e like me Kauka Chris Ferguson o ke Kulanui Stetson a me Kauka Andrew Przybylski o ke Kulanui o Oxford e hōʻike nei i nā noiʻi he nui, a he nui kā lākou ponoʻī, e hoʻopau ana i nā mea he nui. o nā makaʻu ākea a me nā manaʻoʻiʻo e pili ana i nā hopena maikaʻi ʻole o ka manawa pale. Pēlā nō, ʻo Benedict Carey, he mea ʻepekema nūpepa no Ka Nūhou o Nu Ioka , kākau i kahi ʻatikala i hala iho nei, i kahi ʻāpana, kahi pane i ka 60 Minute ʻāpana. Ke hāʻawi nei i kahi hoʻokolokolo koʻikoʻi o ka noiʻi e kū nei, ua makaʻala ʻo ia i ka lele ʻana i nā hopena e pili ana i nā hopena o ka manawa kānana ma ka lolo.

Ma ke ʻano he mākua, manaʻo paha mākou me he mea lā ke kiʻi nei mākou i nā leka e pili ana i nā hopena o nā pale. E hopohopo paha mākou? Ke nānā nei i ka manawa e hōʻike ana mai nā puke a i nā pāʻani wikiō, e hele ana kēlā me kēia hanauna i kekahi ʻano o ka weliweli o ka pono e pili ana i ka pāpāho a i ʻole ʻenehana hou. "ʻAʻole e lilo mākou i mea hou aʻe akā nā puʻu aniani o nā jelly kekahi i kekahi," i kanikau kahi mea kākau i 1897 i kāna loiloi i ka hiki ʻana mai o ke kelepona. He mea lapuwale kēlā ʻano pōpilikia ke nānā aku i hope. ʻAʻole kūpono paha nā hopohopo e pili ana i nā pale?

ʻAʻole hiki iā mākou ke kali no nā hopena

Inā he makua ʻoe na kahi keiki a ʻōpio paha, e like me aʻu nei, ʻaʻole paha ʻoe makemake e kali no nā hopena mai kahi noiʻi he ʻumi mau makahiki. Makemake mākou e ʻike i ka mea e hana ai e pili ana i nā pale kēia manawa . Hiki ʻole ke komo i kekahi mea a lākou e makemake ai, i kēlā me kēia manawa a lākou e makemake ai, e like me kā lākou e makemake ai mai ka makahiki ʻekahi a ʻano ludicrous. Hāʻawi ʻia ua kākau wau i kahi puke me kaʻu hoa aloha a me koʻu hoa kākau, ʻo Kauka Jon Lasser, ma kēia kumuhana, Nā hanauna ʻenehana: hānai ʻana i nā keiki kaulike i ka honua pili pili i ka honua , He mau manaʻo koʻu e pili ana i kēia. No laila, pono wau e ʻae i kaʻu mau kolohe. Akā loaʻa iā mākou āpau nā bias. Inā ʻaʻole mākou e manaʻo he bias ko mākou, a laila ua hāʻule mākou i ka mea i ʻike ʻia he wahi makapō bias. ʻO ia, ʻike mākou i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe e like me ka hopena o nā ʻano ʻike like ʻole akā manaʻoʻiʻo ʻaʻole mākou. ʻAʻole hiki iā mākou ke kōkua akā loaʻa nā bias, keu hoʻi inā ua hana mākou i kahi ʻoihana mai ka noho ʻana ma kekahi ʻaoʻao o kēia hoʻopaʻapaʻa a i ʻole kekahi.

ʻAʻohe pane maʻalahi i nā nīnau paʻakikī

Makemake mākou i nā pane paʻa i kēia ao paʻakikī. Eia nō naʻe, e like me kā Ben Franklin i kākau ai, "... i kēia ao ʻaʻohe mea e hiki ke ʻōlelo ʻia he ʻole, koe ka make a me nā ʻauhau." Nā ʻōlelo Blanket e pili ana inā maikaʻi nā pale no mākou, maikaʻi ʻole iā mākou, a mai hoʻohuli maoli ʻole iā mākou i nā mea āpau ke hiki ʻole ke hopu i nā ʻano ʻike like ʻole a kā mākou pale i hāʻawi ai.

Ma ke ʻano he psychologist e hōʻike pinepine nei e pili ana i kēia kumuhana a kamaʻilio pinepine me ka pāpāho, noi pinepine ʻia wau e hāʻawi i nā pane maʻalahi i nā nīnau paʻakikī loa. ʻO kahi laʻana, pehea wau e pane pane ai, "Pehea ka hopena o nā ʻōpio o kēia lā e kā lākou poʻe kelepona?" ʻAʻole au e papalina no ka haʻi ʻana i kēia i ke kanaka, akā ʻano like ia me ka nīnau ʻana, “Pehea ka hopena o nā ʻōpio i ke ola?” Hāʻawi kā mākou mau pale iā mākou i nā ʻike a, ma ka maʻalahi, pili kā mākou ʻike iā mākou.

Pili ia

ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ʻaʻole e loaʻa iā mākou kahi pane hoʻokahi, definitive e pili ana i ka hopena o nā pale iā mākou no ka mea he nui nā loli e pili ana. Eia kekahi, nā ʻenehana a me pehea mākou e hoʻohana ai iā lākou e hoʻololi wikiwiki i hiki ʻole i ka noiʻi ke mālama i ka wikiwiki. Ua hele au i kahi haʻi'ōlelo na ka psychologist a me ke kauka o ke Kulanui o Texas ʻo Dr. Art Markman e pili ana i ka hoʻāʻo ʻana o ka psychologists e hoʻomaopopo a wehewehe i nā mea i loaʻa mai ka noiʻi ʻepekema kaiaulu. Ua ʻōlelo ʻoluʻolu ʻo ia i kā mākou pane, "Aia ia."

Ke ʻimi nei i nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo paʻa a me nā pane, "hilinaʻi ia" e haʻalele iā mākou me ka manaʻo deflated a nalowale. Eia nō naʻe, ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ia, a pono mākou e aʻo e mahalo piha i nā nuances o ka pehea e hiki ai iā mākou ke hoʻopili ʻia e kā mākou ʻenehana ulu mau. E nānā wale i ka hopena o ka polarization politika i ka haʻalulu i kā mākou hoaaloha, nā kaiāulu, a me ka ʻāina. Kūleʻa ka honua a piha i nā nuances (ah, ʻaneʻane i ʻōlelo ʻia "... ʻeleʻele a piha i nā weliweli" akā ua kū wau iaʻu). ʻAʻole mahele maikaʻi ʻia ka honua i ʻeleʻele a i keʻokeʻo. Ma ke ʻano he mākua, pono mākou e hoʻāʻo e hoʻokele i kēia wai a hoʻoholo pono e pili ana i ka manawa pale.

Ka ʻokoʻa o nā ʻike pale

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• Hoʻohana kahi kāne waena i kāna kamepiula e kākau i nā blog psychology e kau i kahi pūnaewele.

He aha e hana ai

E ʻae like kākou āpau aia kekahi mau hoʻohana o ka pale e ʻinoʻino maoli a e hōʻalo ʻia (e laʻa, nā keiki e hoʻohana ana i ka pāpili kaiaulu e haʻi i kahi kaikamahine ʻōpio ua eo ʻo ia a pono e pepehi iā ia iho, kahi leka uila a me ka hoʻokele ʻōpio, kahi keiki e nānā ana i nā kiʻi ponokala hardcore. ). ʻO ka hoʻokele hoʻohuli, ma muli o ka hoʻohana mau ʻana o nā kelepona paʻalima, he mea weliweli loa ia no ka mea ua hāpai ia i ka piʻi ʻana o nā make a me nā ulia kaʻa. Eia naʻe, e hoʻopaʻapaʻa wau i ka hapa nui o ka hoʻohana ʻana o ka pale o ka poʻe i hāʻule i waena o nā ʻano maʻamau o ka benign a i ʻole ka maikaʻi. Hoʻopili kēia i nā hana maʻamau e like me ke pāʻani ʻana i nā pāʻani wikiō, ka nānā ʻana iā Netflix, a me ka hoʻohana ʻana i ka leka uila, nā pāpili kaiaulu, a me nā pono hana.

Manaʻo wau he ala kūpono e nānā ai i ka manawa e hōʻike ana i kahi laina mai Shakespeare's E like me kou makemake hiki i laila ke "ʻoi aku o kahi mea maikaʻi." I mea hauʻoli a olakino hoʻi, pono mākou e hōʻoia e loaʻa ana i kā mākou mau pono physiological a psychological pono. He mea pono e hoʻomaopopo ua ulu kēia mau pono ma luna o nā haneli haneli mau makahiki i kahi honua ʻokoʻa loa mai kā mākou o kēia wā. ʻO nā pono e like me:

• Hiamoe
• ʻOihana hoʻoikaika kino / hoʻoikaika kino
• Nā launa kaiāulu kanaka

Aia nā kuahiwi o ka noiʻi e hōʻike nei i nā pono o kēia mau ʻaoʻao ʻekolu. ʻO ka nui o ka pale maʻamau e hoʻopili ai me ka hālāwai ʻana i kēia mau pono no ka hoʻopaʻapaʻa. Eia hou, nui nā ʻano loli i hiki ke pāʻani. Eia nō naʻe, hiki i kahi hihia ikaika ke hana ʻia, ʻoiai he mea maikaʻi ka hoʻohana ʻana o ka pale, inā hoʻomaka ia e hoʻopilikia nui loa me kēia mau pono maʻamau, a laila e hoʻomaka ka cons ma mua o ka maikaʻi o nā keu. O kahi laʻana.inā loaʻa ʻelima mau hola hiamoe o ke kanaka ma ka awelika no kēlā me kēia pō no ka mea ʻo ia ʻo Snapchatting, ʻo ia ka mea e hoʻopilikia i nā pilikia.

Ma ke ʻano he mākua, pono mākou e kau i nā palena pale kūpono no kā mākou keiki, keu hoʻi i ko lākou wā ʻōpio, e hōʻoia i ka pale ʻole o ka pale i ka hālāwai ʻana me kēia mau pono. ʻO ka mea nui, pono mākou e hoʻokau i kā mākou pale ponoʻī i lilo i kumu hoʻohālike no a hoʻolilo i ka manawa maikaʻi me kā mākou keiki. Ke hana mākou i kēia, hiki i kā mākou poʻe keiki ke loaʻa nā keu pono he nui i nā pale e hāʻawi ai ʻoiai e pale ana i ka manawa no nā hana pono hou aʻe e pono ai ke olakino, olakino, a me ko lākou ola lōʻihi.