E hālāwai me ka Bully
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Aia ʻo Kevin i loko o kona lumi "ʻoluʻolu" ke lohe ʻo ia i ka pāpā ʻana o kona makuakāne i ka puka a hoʻomaka ʻo ia e uē i kona makuahine. Ua hoʻohuli ʻo Kevin i kāna mele e hoʻopau i ka hōʻino, kaʻi, a me ka ʻuā ʻana i hiki ʻole ke alakaʻi i nā waimaka. ʻO ka pō ma hope o ka pō a me kēlā lā kēia lā ke ʻano mau o ka hale o Kevin. Inā he laki ʻo ia, pakele ʻo ia i ka huhū o kona makuakāne. I kēia manawa ʻo 16 ʻo Kevin, ʻo kona hoʻomanawanui no ka hana a kona makuakāne e holo nei a lahilahi. Ma 6'1 ua ʻike ʻo ia hiki iā ia ke waiho maʻalahi iā ia i kona wahi. Ua hana hoʻomāinoino kona makuakāne iā ia i kona ola a pau a e like me ka ʻōlelo a kona makuakāne, "maikaʻi ʻo Kevin no ka ʻāpana wale o ka crap". Ke ola kaiaulu o Kevin: He makemake ko Kevin i ka mana, ka mahalo a me ke kaohi (nā mea āpau āna i nele ai ma ka home). ʻAʻohe mea e holo hou ma luna ona. Ma ke kula a me ke kaiāulu, ua kūkulu ʻo Kevin i ka kaulana nona iho. ʻAʻohe mea i makemake e huikau me Kevin a i ʻole hele i kāna ʻaoʻao maikaʻi. ʻAʻohe ona mahalo i nā kaikamahine. Hana ʻo ia i nā ʻōlelo kekeʻe a moekolohe i nā wahine, me ka hōʻoluʻolu ʻole i kona alo. I nā kāne, hoʻoweliweli ʻo ia, hoʻomāʻewaʻewa a hoʻoweliweli iā lākou a hiki i ka haʻalulu ʻana o lākou i ka ʻike wale iā ia. Ua hoʻomāinoino ʻo Kevin i nā keiki i kona ola a pau. ʻAʻohe ona hoa aloha. ʻAʻole hiki i kekahi ke kū iā ia a ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ʻole, ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke kū iā ia iho. Ehia mau kolohe e like me Kevin? Wahi a kahi noiʻi hou, na nā Centers for Disease Control and Prevent a me ka Massachusetts Department of Public Health, ʻoi aku paha ka pane ma mua o kou manaʻo. Hōʻike ka noiʻi i nā haumāna ʻino a me nā mea hana ʻino i ʻike pinepine ʻia i ka hana ʻino i loko o ka home. ʻO ʻehā mau manawa ʻoi aku ka ʻeha o nā Bullies i kekahi i ko lākou mau ʻohana ma mua o nā haumāna ʻaʻole he kolohe a i ʻole nā mea hoʻomāinoino. ʻO ka bullying kahi pilikia nui a pili pū ʻia me nā pilikia psychological he nui, e ulu pono ana kekahi i ka wā makua. Ua hoʻopili ʻia ka noiʻi bullying me: Hoʻohui ʻia, he aha kā mākou e hana ai e hōʻoki i kēia pōʻai ʻino ma mua o ka hopena o ka luku hou ʻana? 1. Nā Mākua, Komo Kaha! E nā mākua, he kuleana nui kou i ka lilo ʻana o kāu keiki i mea kolohe. ʻO kahi ana i mālama ʻia me nā ʻōpio 10-17 mau makahiki e hōʻike ana i nā keiki e hoʻomāinoino i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe inā manaʻo lākou ua huhū pinepine ko lākou mau mākua iā lākou a i ʻole inā manaʻo lākou he mea hoʻonāukiuki kēia i ko lākou mau mākua. ʻO nā mākua i loaʻa ka pilina maikaʻi a kamaʻilio hāmama me kā lākou mau keiki hānai i nā keiki ʻoi aku ka liʻiliʻi e hoʻomāinoino iā haʻi. No ke aha mai? Pono nā ʻōpio i ke alakaʻi a me ke kākoʻo makua maikaʻi, a me nā mea hoʻokomo i kāu ʻōpio. Ke hoʻomau nei ke noiʻi ʻana e kākoʻo i ka manaʻo ʻoiai manaʻo paha nā mākua ʻaʻole nānā a hoʻolohe kā lākou ʻōpio, hana lākou. No laila, e hoʻolālā i ka manawa i kāu papa kuhikuhi e lilo me kāu ʻōpio. Eia kekahi, e nānā i ka hana a kāu ʻōpio ma ka laina. Hiki i nā Bullies ke lilo i mea ʻino inā pale ʻia lākou e kahi pale. E nā mākua, he mea nui ʻoe i ka hoʻouka kaua e hoʻōki i ka hoʻomāinoino. Kaha: inā he makua ʻoe a e hakakā nei me kou pilina me kāu ʻōpio, e ʻoluʻolu e kōkua. He pōkole nā makahiki ʻōpio, nā makahiki nui. Inā hoʻopau ʻia nā pilina i kēia wā o ka hoʻomohala, hiki iā ia ke hopena maikaʻi ʻole i kāu pili e hiki mai ana me kāu keiki. 2. Nā mea aʻo, e hoʻokomo! ʻO ka manawa kēia e kū nei nā kula i kahi kūlana hana e hōʻoki i ka hana hoʻomāinoino. ʻOiai ka hapa nui o ka launa pūnaewele maikaʻi ʻole a me ka leka ʻana ma hope o nā hola kula, kolo pinepine ka mea ma hope i ke kula. Nui nā keiki e lilo i trauma i ko lākou komo ʻana i ke kula i ka lā aʻe a ʻike ʻole i ka mea e hoʻolaha aku nei e pili ana iā lākou. Pono e hoʻomaopopo i nā mea aʻo inā pili ka bulling i ka nohona kūmole i kēlā me kēia ʻano, a laila pilikia ia i ke kula. Makemake nui wau i ke kākoʻo ʻana o ka mokuʻāina ʻo New Hampshire i kāna kānāwai anti-bullying e ʻae ana i nā ʻāpana kula e heʻe i loko inā "keʻakeʻa ka hana i nā manawa aʻo a ka haumāna a i ʻole hoʻohuli nui i nā hana hoʻonohonoho o ke kula a i ʻole ka hanana a kākoʻo ʻia paha e ke kula." Aia nā kula i ka ʻoihana aʻo. ʻOiai he mea nui ka ʻepekema, no laila nā mākau kaiapili a me ka naʻau. ʻO kā mākou kuleana, ma ke ʻano he mea aʻo, e aʻo i kā mākou ʻōpio i mea kamaʻilio kūpono a hoʻomākaukau iā lākou no ke ola kūleʻa ma waho o nā paia o ke kula. Eia kekahi mau manaʻo. 3. Nā ʻōpio, e hoʻokomo! E ka poʻe ʻōpio, iā ʻoe ka leo nui i waena o kāu poʻe ʻōpio. E lilo i poʻe kākoʻo leo e hoʻōki i ka hana kolohe. Eia kekahi mau manaʻo. Panina: ʻLelo ʻia, "He kauhale e hānai keiki." He ʻoiaʻiʻo kēia ʻōlelo, he kuleana ko kēlā me kēia o mākou e kāpae i kēia ʻano inā he wahine ʻoihana ʻoe, he luna kānāwai, mea aʻo, makua, lālā o nā kāhuna pule, ʻōpio, haumāna kula nui, ʻoihana lapaʻau, cosmetologist, kapa ʻoe iā ia ... ʻo mākou āpau e hoʻokani i ka hana hoʻomāinoino. Nā Heluhelu Kolohe Pono ʻole
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