Kaʻana like ʻia ʻo māhoe māhoe kuʻikuʻi

Mai kaʻu mau ʻike ma ke ʻano he māhoe a me ka hana ʻole ʻana me nā māhoe o nā makahiki āpau, hiki iaʻu ke hoʻoholo palekana ʻo ka hapanui o nā kānaka e hoʻohālikelike i ka māhoe ma ke ʻano hōʻoluʻolu a kūikawā hoʻi, e pili pū ana me kahi ao o ka launa kuikahi. ʻO ka hakakā, ʻo ia ka pilikia paʻa no nā māhoe, hoʻomālamalama ʻia ke ʻike ʻia ka huhū nui. E ʻōlelo nā mākua, nā hoaaloha, nā mea nui ʻē aʻe, a me nā psychotherapist hoʻi, "E hoʻāʻo wale e launa. E hoʻouna i kāu māhoe i kāleka Hallmark. " Akā paʻakikī ka launa ʻana no nā māhoe. He ʻeha a huikau ka huhū o kāu māhoe akā he hōʻailona nō ia o ka ʻimi hohonu no kahi ʻano kū hoʻokahi.

ʻO nā māhoe ola maoli, ke hoʻohālikelike ʻia i nā kiʻi idealized o nā māhoe, kū maka i nā pilikia i ka lilo ʻana i mau kānaka me ka ʻokoʻa a ʻokoʻa hoʻi nā ʻano.Mai ka wā kamaliʻi aku, ana nā māhoe iā lāua iho i kekahi i kekahi, kahi e lili ai a me nā mea hōʻeha i loko iā ia iho a i kā lāua māhoe. ʻO ka launa pū ʻana me kekahi ma o ka kaupalena ʻana i ka hoʻokūkū a me ke kāohi ʻana i nā mea i manaʻo ʻole ʻia he huakaʻi holoʻokoʻa ia. Lawe i ka hana mua i ke aʻo ʻana he ʻokoʻa ʻoe mai kāu māhoe ʻana he paio nui loa. ʻO ka hakakā e wehewehe i nā ʻokoʻa e pili ana i ka hoʻomohala ʻana i kahi ʻano kū hoʻokahi iā ʻoe iho e pili ana i nā ʻike pilikino o ke ola maoli, a me ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i nā palena o ka ego - he aha nā māhoe a me nā māhoe ʻē aʻe. Pono ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i nā palena o ka ego i ka nui o ka nānā a me ka hoʻoholo ʻana i ka huakaʻi a lilo i kanaka. ʻO ka hakakā mau ʻana ma luna o nā palena ego, kaʻana like ʻana, a me ke kuleana e hoʻoulu ai i nā "pilikia e alo ʻia e nā māhoe" i ka launa pū ʻana o kekahi me kekahi.

Nāʻike hou o nā pilina māhoe: Mai Harmony a hiki i ka Estrangement a me ka Loneliness (Barbara Klein, Stephen A. Hart, a me Jacqueline M. Martinez, 2020) e hōʻike nei no ke aha e paʻakikī ai nā māhoe e launa pū, me ka hoʻohana ʻana i nā manaʻo māhoe a me nā moʻolelo ola maoli o nā māhoe e hoʻāʻo nei e lilo iā lāua iho a mahalo i kā lāua māhoe. ʻO kā mākou hana, kahi hana pū ʻana me nā māhoe ʻē aʻe, hōʻike pū kekahi i nā hoʻolālā e hoʻomaikaʻi ai i nā pilina māhoe.

ʻO kahi laʻana, ke hana nei ke kaua ʻana i nā pilikia iʻoi aku ka maikaʻi, a laila e hoʻāʻo e hōʻoki i ke ʻano o ke kamaʻilio e hoʻonāukiuki i nā hakakā.

Āhea ʻoe e haʻalele ai i ka mālama ʻana i kāu māhoe? ʻO ka pane kūpono, ke pono wale nō.

Hoʻohui ʻia, kūkākūkā ʻia nā pilikia kūikawā o ka māhoe ʻana ma ka honua māhoe ʻole. ʻIke ʻia i ka pehea e launa pū ai me nā hoa, nā hoa, a me nā luna e hōʻike ʻia ma o nā moʻolelo a me nā ʻōlelo maoli a nā māhoe.

I ka hopena, ua kākau ʻia ka ikaika o ka naʻau o ka pilina māhoe i nā huaʻōlelo o nā māhoe. ʻO ka hoʻohālikelike i hiki i ka pilina māhoe ke like me ka holo kaʻa lola i loli / maʻalahi mai ka hauʻoli a kaʻana like ʻana i ka huhū a me nā mea hoʻohoka.

ʻO ke kōkua i loaʻa i nā māhoe ke heluhelu a lohe paha i nā māhoe ʻelua e kaʻana like ana i ko lāua ʻeha me ko lāua pilina māhoe hiki ʻole ke hoola ʻia a hohonu hoʻi. ʻO ka leka hohonu o ka "Understandingings Hou o nā Pili Pālua" ʻo ka lilo ʻana i māhoe he mea paʻakikī ia e hiki ke hana ʻia me ka hoʻoikaika a me ka noʻonoʻo. Ke lawe nei no ka mea maʻalahi ka lilo ʻana i māhoe i alakaʻi i nā huhū i hoʻonā ʻole ʻia i hiki ʻole ke lanakila. Wale me ka hoʻoholo paʻa e lilo i poʻe pilikino hiki i nā māhoe ke ʻohi i nā pono o ka māhoe.

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