Kū ka mau makahiki male male male male ʻole i ka hōʻike o ka manawa?

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• Pehea ke ʻano o ka hoʻololi ʻana o ke aloha ma waena o nā makahiki
• Pehea nā wānana lehulehu i ka kūleʻa pili
• Kekahi mau male male e kū i ka hōʻike o ka manawa

• Hōʻike nā kāne a me nā wahine i ka māʻona i kā lāua male ʻana i ka wā ʻōpio o kā lāua mau wahine, nā hōʻike noiʻi.
• ʻOiai ʻoi aku ka māʻona o nā kāne me ke āpau makahiki, eia naʻe, ua emi iho ka nui o kā lākou leʻaleʻa i ka manawa ma mua o nā kāne i like ka makahiki.
• ʻO nā hopena cumulative o ka hoʻokolokolo kaiapili i loaʻa pinepine ʻia e nā kāne wā makahiki, i hui pū ʻia me nā pilikia olakino e loʻohia ana i ka wahine ʻelemakule, e hāʻawi paha i kēia hāʻule.

ʻO ka hapanui o mākou ʻike hauʻoli i nā kāne hauʻoli hauʻoli i hānau ʻia he mau makahiki he kaawale. ʻO ka mea ʻoi aku ka lōʻihi o ka hoapili, like lākou me nā ʻano ʻē aʻe. ʻOiai he ʻoiaʻiʻo ka makemake o ka poʻe e prejudge makahiki-gap romance, aia he hōʻike e makemake wale kekahi mau wahine ʻōpio i nā kāne makua, a makemake nā kāne he nui i nā wahine makua pū kekahi. Akā me ka nānā ʻole o ka hoa hea ʻoi aku ka nui, e kū anei kēlā mau pālua i ka hoʻāʻo o ka manawa? Loaʻa i ka noiʻi kekahi mau pane.

Pehea ke ʻano o ka hoʻololi ʻana o ke aloha ma waena o nā makahiki

Nānā ʻo Wang-Sheng Lee lāua ʻo Terra McKinnish (2018) i ka hopena o ka makahiki ma mua o ka male ma ke ʻano o ka male. e māʻona paha nā kāne me nā wahine ʻōpio, a ʻoi aku ka māʻona o nā wahine me nā kāne ʻōpio. ʻAʻole i māʻona nā kāne a me nā wahine ʻelua me nā kāne mua.

E pili ana i nā pae o ka hoʻokō ʻana ma loko o ka wā o ka male, eia nō naʻe, ua ʻike ʻo Lee lāua ʻo McKinnish ua hōʻemi nui ka ʻoluʻolu o ka male no nā kāne a me nā kāne ma waena o nā makahiki like, ke hoʻohālikelike ʻia i nā kāne like. Mālama kēia mau hōʻole i ka hoʻomaʻemaʻe mua i ka pae male ma mua i ʻike ʻia e nā kāne a me nā wahine i male i nā kāne hou i loko o 6 a 10 mau makahiki o ka male.

Hoʻomaopopo lākou ʻaʻole kūlike ʻole kā lākou ʻike me ka noiʻi ʻana e pili ana i ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana i ka male a me nā wā o ka makahiki, a me ka ʻike pūnaewele a me ka wikiwiki e pili ana i nā ʻike - e hōʻike ana i kahi makemake no nā hoa like makahiki. Ke kūkākūkā nei i nā kumu kūpono no ka hoʻokaʻawale, hoʻomaopopo ʻo Lee lāua ʻo McKinnish i ke kuleana a me ke kūpono o ke kūleʻa pilina, a me nā kumu ʻē aʻe, e pāʻani i ka hoʻoholo e pili ana i kēia lā.

Kuhi kikoʻī lākou inā nānā ʻole ka poʻe pākahi i ka likelika o ka kūleʻa pili. Ma muli o ka ʻike mua o nā kāne i ka hōʻoluʻolu male male kiʻekiʻe me nā wahine ʻōpio, akā ʻike ka wahine i ka hōʻoluʻolu liʻiliʻi me nā kāne makua, hōʻike kēia e makemake paha nā kāne e alualu i nā wahine ʻōpio - akā ʻo ka makaʻu i ka holomua (ʻo ia hoʻi, hoʻohoka i kā lākou wahine i ka wā e hiki mai ana) manaʻo lākou e pili wale nō lākou. kūleʻa me "nā hoa ʻōpio haʻahaʻa." Hoʻomaopopo lākou i ka noʻonoʻo like e wehewehe paha i ka makemake ʻole o nā wahine e alualu i nā lā me nā kāne ʻōpio.

He aha ka mea e wehewehe ai i ka emi ʻana o ka hōʻoluʻolu o ka male ma mua o nā makahiki? Ua kuhi ʻo Lee lāua ʻo McKinnish maliʻa paha ʻaʻole hiki i nā kāne a me nā makahiki ke hiki ke pale aku i nā haʻalulu waiwai maikaʻi ʻole ke hoʻohālikelike ʻia i nā kāne o ka makahiki like. Akā hiki paha iā lākou ke hōʻemi i ka manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole o haʻi?

Pehea nā wānana lehulehu i ka kūleʻa pili

Hoʻomaopopo pono kekahi mau kāne pilikino ʻole e pili ana i nā hiʻohiʻona i loaʻa iā lākou a me nā ʻōlelo a lākou i lohe ai i ka lehulehu. Hoʻomaopopo pinepine ka poʻe e pili ana a i male paha i nā kāne hou i ka male ʻole i ka lōʻihi o ko lākou pilina. No ke aha ka pessimism? ʻO ke aloha ʻole ʻia, nā ʻōlelo aʻo pili i noi ʻole ʻia pinepine ʻia mai nā ʻikepili i hana ʻia i ka ʻepekema a me ka anecdotally.

He ʻatikala ma Ke ʻAkelanika ua kapa ʻia "No ka Hoʻomau Mau, E hoʻāʻo e male i kekahi i kāu makahiki ponoʻī," [ii] ʻoiai e nānā pono ana i ka "Statistics, ʻoiai, ʻaʻole he hopena," i ʻōlelo ʻia e noiʻi ana e hōʻike ana he 18 pakeneka ka nui o nā makahiki he ʻelima mau makahiki. e haki paha, a ke 10 mau makahiki ka ʻokoʻa o ka makahiki, piʻi ka likelike i 39 pakeneka.

ʻAʻole kūlike ʻole ka nui o nā kāne a me nā makahiki me nā wānana maikaʻi ʻole a hōʻole hoʻi i nā helu helu. He nui ka poʻe i ʻike i nā kāne i kūlike ʻole i ka makahiki i hauʻoli i ka male nui no nā makahiki he nui. Akā ma ke ʻano he mea kūpono, ma hope o ke ola, hiki paha i ka hoa makua ke kū i nā pilikia pili i ke olakino ma mua o ka hoa ʻōpio - he kaumaha paha ia no lāua ʻelua. ʻIke nō, ʻike like kēlā mau kāne a hiki mai kēia lā, akā ʻokoʻa ke ʻano o kēia kau. ʻO ka ʻike me nā kāne i kēia wā o ke ola e hoʻopili i ke ala a mākou e ʻike ai i kēlā ʻano paʻa.

Kekahi mau male male e kū i ka hōʻike o ka manawa

He nui nā kāne male hauʻoli i kaʻawale e kahi wā o ka makahiki e hoʻomanaʻo i nā hoa aloha a me ka ʻohana i hoʻohiki maikaʻi e aloha a aloha i kā lākou mau hoa "a hiki i ka wā e haʻalele ai ka make iā mākou." Akamai nā lālā o kahi ʻoihana pili olakino e hoʻopuni nei i kēlā mau kāne i ke kākoʻo — me ka ʻole o ka stereotyping.

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